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Wow.  Hugs to you who are going thru the "wierd" phase of this.

I actually was still mourning my divorce when I found out he was remarrying.

He remarried the DAY AFTER our divorce was final and then became a dad again 3 mos later.  The baby was actually due on my birthday.

I've all since put it past me, but it is kinda cruddy if you think of it.  I just don't. 

I am also one who's so in love with my guy and he still can't believe I went thru that.  I am just so thankful that I am with somebody now whom I am not only very much in love with, but I know I am able to 100 percent trust him with my heart.  That is very big to me. 

Well my ex only told me about his wedding b/c he wanted me to have our son during his visitation time b/c he was taking her on a vacation after they married.  They went to the courthouse and had no pics made or anything.  But darn it..he did take her to where he took ME on our 1st anniversary.  He took her to Atlantis.  My favorite island hangout.  That bummed me for a while.

It was just the whole insensitivity of things.  The day after our divorce?  Are you kidding me?  I was just in disbelief.  My family and even his was like "wha whaaaa?" 

I was a ball of emotions then.  Almost too angry to even cry and let it out.  But it's all in the past now.  Karma can getcha if you don't be nice to people you know?

Well she was expecting to be honest.  It was really hard, and the baby was supposed to be born on my birthday to make it cut worse.

During the divorce, he'd sneak her into his house and pretend she wasn't there or didn't live there.  He did it also b/c I enforced the morality clause.  I had it written into the divorce decree and I guess he was just "enforcing it" too when they got married at the JOP.  I remember the big thing for me was having some strange woman around my son.

But time heals all wounds and unfortunately she married the guy who never sought help or healed from his negative ways.  He's since done much worse to her, sadly, and I really like her now.  Their daughter spends time with my son alot and I've had her spend the night quite a few times.  She thinks of me as an aunt or something.  I heart her very much and can say that faith can move mountains.  Btw, they're going to divorce and I found out today.  I am so sad for their little girl.  :(

I'm also blessed that she and I get along so well that we'll always foster a healthy relationship and encourage it with my son and her daughter since they're blood relatives.  I'm also very blessed that T loves my son to death and is 100 percent in this with us and is so ready and such a great guy.  He does so much more than his dad did with him already. 

Faith and hope can change the course of events and heal even the most broken of hearts.   

You are too kind and I love ya, ejs4y8!  But it didn't come overnight and I'd be a total liar if I said that early on I didn't have my own revenge fantasies.

But I kinda did.  I had a really great pic made on NYE (which was the day before their elopement and the day I found out they were marrying).  I had met the ex to do the holiday "hand off" of the child and it was NYE.  He said he'd be giving my son back to me on NY day because he had "an important event to attend".  It was his wedding.  I guessed it b/c he wouldn't say what it was and he kept putting his hands in his pockets and looking at the floor.

So what did I do on NYE?  I got dressed up, went out with my friends, and got snapped in the big social/gossipy events magazine here on the eve of my singleness!  I will try to scan it in.

You are too kind and I love ya, ejs4y8!  But it didn't come overnight and I'd be a total liar if I said that early on I didn't have my own revenge fantasies.

But I kinda did.  I had a really great pic made on NYE (which was the day before their elopement and the day I found out they were marrying).  I had met the ex to do the holiday "hand off" of the child and it was NYE.  He said he'd be giving my son back to me on NY day because he had "an important event to attend".  It was his wedding.  I guessed it b/c he wouldn't say what it was and he kept putting his hands in his pockets and looking at the floor.

So what did I do on NYE?  I got dressed up, went out with my friends, and got snapped in the big social/gossipy events magazine here on the eve of my singleness!  I will try to scan it in.

edited to add: it was the day after NY day b/c the courthouse had to have been open. 

Ok here goes.  And I have to mention.  Divorce and a broken heart can make a girl lose all kinda of weight!  I was about 15-18 lbs lighter in this pic.  Only upside of a broken heart!

And no I wasn't on a date.  Those were my guy friends!  It was NYE 2004.  I was sad on the inside but could not resist wearing that dress (necklace was sea glass).  I still have it in the closet but it may not debut again until the weight's off for the wedding and I can rock it again.  But it was fun.  To be the super-uuber-ultra-newly single girl with two hot guys in a picture splattered all over atl.  My x did see it btw after he returned from his honeymoon.  He sent an email.  "Nice.  You rebounded nicely."  I'll never forget that one.   

Ya'll are sweet.  I sure (past tense) felt great in the pics, but it's amazing what almost 20 lbs can do for you.  I'm not super tall either.  5'4 1/2 tall.  And everything, even a pound or two, can show up on us more shortie mcshorts!

I sure want those 20 gone!  Now!  Begone! 

Nah.  I think even the x wasn't resigned to himself remarrying either but he was faced w/a tough dilemma. 

Oh well.  He (stupidly) accused me of cheating about 2 weeks before the divorce.  Nah.  Never did.  I just had an few really good guy friends, who happened to be very cute but with very good boundaries, as we've always just remained friends and some really good girlfriends at that time.

Thanks ejsY48!  My ex is hot.  He knew it.  He just didn't want me to have fun.  He'd have wished I walked around all day in sack cloth and on the off days wore black from head to toe as if I was in mourning.

I was more like this though.  (remember her dancing with Rhett when she was supposed to be in mourning over the loss of her husband?)

(oh so scandalous!)

And Crebre80 no you don't.  You do have curves girl!  You're gonna rock that dress if I might say.  You got curves!!!

Isn't it funny?  That's hilarious.  I know my ex was thinking that I was some scandalous woman being the day before her divorce (or was it day of?  I can't remember just know that by new years' day after, I was a single girl).

Well if you wanna lose a little, I do too.  Diet friends!!!

T kinda reminds me of Rhett.  tall, dark, but blue eyes.  From the north originally but moved south. Can see me for who I am 100 percent and loves me anyway!  lol!  And I'm feisty like Scarlett (hence the avatar).

That is hurtful.  There are some very in the spotlight people who went thru that too.  One very well known politician (now deceased) did that and had children with his former wife.  I would be saddened beyond belief if they wanted not only our marriage but our kids to be "annulled" and not valid in the eyes of God by a church just so somebody could have a full mass (I may be wrong about the full mass part).  I just couldn't do that to anybody.  Even my ex.