How did you find an officiant?

posted 3 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My wedding planner referred him to us. Ask your ceremony venue – I’m sure they have recommendations. Or even your band/make-up artist/dress alterations person. They ALL had connections and all asked me if I had a vendor for this and that because they wanted to refer me to their contacts.

Also, we used to look at reviews for our vendors – you can search for officiates there also. Hope this helps!

Post # 4
15011 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

What state are you in? Some states don’t require any more than an online certificate to perform a ceremony. My state just requires an online certificate so we asked a friend to marry us. We wrote the ceremony ourselves. 

Post # 6
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@kb7:  Our friend recommended someone and he was awesome! I trusted her opinion, otherwise I would have googled for reviews and recommendations.

Post # 7
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@kb7:  I asked my uncle to do it :). He isn’t currently ordained, but I’m paying for him to be. We are not religious either and I wanted someone up there that wasn’t a complete stranger. I think it will mean a lot more having him do it.

Post # 8
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I just looked online and read online reviews. I also picked up a local bridal magazine and our officiant was in there too as runner up for best officiant in the state. After all my online research that magazine seems to have a lot of my vendors in it under their “Best of..” section, so it’s become my go to for additional vendors.

Post # 9
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013


I emailed a few people in my area whose websites I found easy to navigate.

The one I ended up choosing replied very promptly to all my emails and answered my questions. We met with her and she seemed nice and professional etc. We clicked.

The day of didn’t go perfectly… I guess she was having an off day but she was very nice and apologetic… and at the end of the day we were married so it’s all good.

Post # 10
3643 posts
Sugar bee

We found ours on weddingwire. Just searched for officiant, city nearest our wedding. We had to contact quite a few, to find one who was available, and we liked, and found the perfect officiant. We started with those that had the most reviews, but I thought they were more controlling.


Post # 11
4956 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@kb7:  Just google officiants in your area and set up times to meet with them. That is how I found mine. She is going to write a personal ceremony for us because we are not religious at all. 

Post # 12
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Look into getting a Justice of the Peace or even a minister that is willing to do a secular reading instead of one from the bible. I’d just start emailing or calling around for JotPs first and go to ordained people if you can’t find anyone.

Post # 13
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Post # 14
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Anyone can get ordained over the internet. My friend’s mom is marrying us and she has done many non-religious weddings.

Post # 15
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

FI’s dad is marrying us. We aren’t religious and don’t go to church so it would have been super weird if we had a priest or whatever marry us.

I second @jenilynevette: suggestion of thumbtack. Love that website.

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