Post # 1
I’m having trouble finding an officiant for our wedding. I’m not religious and have no ties to any ministers personally. I’d love to find someone who leaned towards the spiritual side. I wantsomeone who will provide a special and meaningful ceremony, but I’m not sure where to look other than to hire a complete stranger. Unfortunately I don’t have any friends who could do it.
How did you find your officiant?
Post # 3
My wedding planner referred him to us. Ask your ceremony venue – I’m sure they have recommendations. Or even your band/make-up artist/dress alterations person. They ALL had connections and all asked me if I had a vendor for this and that because they wanted to refer me to their contacts.
Also, we used weddingwire.com to look at reviews for our vendors – you can search for officiates there also. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
What state are you in? Some states don’t require any more than an online certificate to perform a ceremony. My state just requires an online certificate so we asked a friend to marry us. We wrote the ceremony ourselves.
Post # 5
@tksjewelry: I’m in Ohio. We could have a friend but anyone we’d consider is already in the bridal party. We don’t have any family members either.
Post # 6
@kb7: Our friend recommended someone and he was awesome! I trusted her opinion, otherwise I would have googled for reviews and recommendations.
Post # 7
@kb7: I asked my uncle to do it :). He isn’t currently ordained, but I’m paying for him to be. We are not religious either and I wanted someone up there that wasn’t a complete stranger. I think it will mean a lot more having him do it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I just looked online and read online reviews. I also picked up a local bridal magazine and our officiant was in there too as runner up for best officiant in the state. After all my online research that magazine seems to have a lot of my vendors in it under their “Best of..” section, so it’s become my go to for additional vendors.
Post # 9
I emailed a few people in my area whose websites I found easy to navigate.
The one I ended up choosing replied very promptly to all my emails and answered my questions. We met with her and she seemed nice and professional etc. We clicked.
The day of didn’t go perfectly… I guess she was having an off day but she was very nice and apologetic… and at the end of the day we were married so it’s all good.
Post # 10
We found ours on weddingwire. Just searched for officiant, city nearest our wedding. We had to contact quite a few, to find one who was available, and we liked, and found the perfect officiant. We started with those that had the most reviews, but I thought they were more controlling.
Post # 11
@kb7: Just google officiants in your area and set up times to meet with them. That is how I found mine. She is going to write a personal ceremony for us because we are not religious at all.
Post # 12
Look into getting a Justice of the Peace or even a minister that is willing to do a secular reading instead of one from the bible. I’d just start emailing or calling around for JotPs first and go to ordained people if you can’t find anyone.
Post # 14
Anyone can get ordained over the internet. My friend’s mom is marrying us and she has done many non-religious weddings.
Post # 15
FI’s dad is marrying us. We aren’t religious and don’t go to church so it would have been super weird if we had a priest or whatever marry us.
I second @jenilynevette: suggestion of thumbtack. Love that website.
Post # 16
@kb7: I went on the Humanist Society’s website and they had a list of humanist officiants. Here’s the link: http://humanist-society.org/humanist-celebrant-state-listing/