Post # 1
DH and I aren’t planning on TTC til the end of the year, but I was just wondering how you go about finding an OB. Did you not look for one until after you’re pregnant? Did you use your GYN? I don’t really like the gynocologist I went to last year (I generally only go once a year), so I would prefer not to use her (she’s an OB as well). Also, what are the factors that go into picking an OB?
And for those of you who used midwives–did you also have an OB? How did you go about finding your midwife? I have so many questions! : )
Post # 3
I get my yearly physicals at a family practice clinic, and I just assumed my doctor could help me. Not so. While she does pelvic exams she is not an OB and there are none on staff. I had to start from scratch. I was crushed since I love my regular doctor. My husband goes to a different family practice clinic that does have an OB so I am starting there. If I don’t like it there though I will probably just call around. It’s hard not already having a relationship with someone.
Post # 4
I found a few forums online for pregnant women in my area and saw which practices were recommended there.
I used an OB this time, but would consider using a midwife who did hospital births in the future. Some practices have both, but typically you wouldn’t have an OB AND a midwife (for example, even if the practice had both, only one or the other would typically attend your birth, and if you needed a procedure that the midwife couldn’t do- like surgery- a physician on staff at the hospital would do it).
Post # 5
I went to a midwifery and they did all of my medical stuff =) one of the best decisions i have ever made!
Post # 6
Also, if you have friends or colleagues with kids, they’re good resources. Or if you know which hospital you want to deliver at, often they’ll have a birth advisor or something like that who can give you a list of practices that deliver there. If you have a general practitioner that you like, s/he may also be able to recommend a good OB.
Post # 7
@Lozza: Thanks for the info! Unfortunately, I’m the first of my friends to even be thinking about having kids, so I don’t think that they’ll be too helpful 🙂 The point about which hospital I would deliver at is a good one–I just have no idea how to find out which hospital is “better”. I guess I’ll have to start spending time on mommy websites when the time gets closer. I’m actually meeting with my GYN today for some bloodwork, so I’ll maybe bring this up to her then.
@Tatum: Ahh that’s frustrating. I totally hear you, it’s so hard just picking someone out of a book, especially an OB, who you would definitely want to have a good relationship with!
Post # 8
First off, your insurance. find out who your insurance covers then start googling their names and the word “reviews”. Hopefully you’ll pull up some patient reviews on the doctors. (I JUST found this out in the last year or two.)
Also, talk to people you know who have had babies recently. Ask about their experiences with their doctors.
Ask if they test the babie’s lungs if you go into labor early (I HIGHLY suggest this due to my own daughter ending up in the NICU).
Ask about if/when they induce. And their stance on c-sections.
I’d also suggest reading up on labor and delivery online and checking out books. (I should’ve done that, but after two kids, I’m pretty darned experienced due to subsequent research, lol).
If you don’t like the dr. you have, CHANGE! And do A LOT of calling. Ask the office if you can have a “meet and greet” (where you come in and talk to the dr’s before deciding to go with them).
Personally, I’ll be changing once I find out I’m pregnant again and my list of questions will be considerably outside the realm of “norm” due to my past two pregnancies. (Example: I do NOT have labor pain, so I’ll be asking about their stance of if you do/don’t have to have pain when you’re in labor. According to one nurse, I wasn’t in labor because I didn’t have pain, but I was dilating and my daughter was born later that night. But, I wasn’t in labor. *rolls eyes*)
I highly recommend doing A LOT of reading, especially if you aren’t yet TTC. This will give you an idea of what questions to ask.
Here’s a site that might help for starters: http://www.babypartner.com/tools/interview-sheets/obgyns.php
Post # 9
My doctor recommended two different OBs. I met with both and picked the one I felt more comfortable at. We have two hospitals in my town so it was important to find an OB that had rights at the one I wanted to deliver at.
Post # 10
@SoontobeMrsA: Was that your gyno or your general practitioner?
Post # 11
She was actually my DH’s granmothers, mothers, and sisters OB. She’s also been featured on Discovery Health many times.
Post # 12
I got the list of allowed Drs from my insurance company and then started making phone calls and reading reviews from there. I ruled out two right away after hearing several people complain about them. The Dr I ended up going with was the first one I called. At our first appointment we met with him and then at a following appointment we met with the midwife he has on staff. After meeting with both we got to choose who we wanted to continue our care. I went with the Dr as I felt more comfortable with him and felt he was more attentive to my questions and concerns. If I had chosen the midwife and there was an emergency or a C-Section he would have been called in anyways so I decided to just stay with him. If for some reason he isn’t available and we end up using the midwife for delivery I won’t be upset though. I think its important to like and feel respected by all of the doctors and midwives in a practice because you never know for sure who will be available when you’re in labor.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
@hilsy85: We are not TTC, but I just wanted to second going through the hospital because NYC is so big! Many people will choose the closest one, and others will choose where they have some affiliation. My family has always gone to New York Cornell for everything (where I was born, and where my little sister was born 6 years ago), although now, at least for the next 5-9 years, we will probably go to NYU for anything/everything hospital related where Mr. HC works.
Post # 14
I liked my gyno, so I just stuck with her. Do you have anyone who could refer you to someone? I like mine b/c it’s an all women’s practice (I’m not ok with a boy doctor) and she’s at the hospital that I’d like to deliver at. They also have midwife’s at the practice, and I got to choose which I would like to see.
Post # 15
A friend recommended my first OB, but I didn’t really hit it off with him. My doula recommended by second OB, who I love. So if you’re having a doula, ask her! Chances are she and her doula friends know some good doctors.