(Closed) How did you go about asking your MOH and BMs?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How did you ask?
    Phone Call : (7 votes)
    28 %
    Email : (0 votes)
    Facebook/Text : (3 votes)
    12 %
    In Person : (9 votes)
    36 %
    Other (Please Explain below!) : (6 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
    5 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Congrats! My personal advice would be to definitely be 100% before asking anyone. I waited until after I booked my venue and like two months after that and I had changed my mind multiple times on certain friends that I used to be very close to but have grown apart. I bought some really cute will you be my bridesmaids cards from etsy that were personalized with their names. Then I found a picture with each of my friends and wrote a personal note on the back. I gave it to each of them in person. I thought about doing some bigger but I would rather save that money for their gifts.

    Post # 4
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    To be honest, I didn’t do anything to ask my bridesmaids! My two best friends already knew they would be bridesmaids, my sister was an obvious choice and, a few months later, I just said to my SIL “Hey, you know how I was a bridesmaid in your wedding? Time for some payback.” So…yeah, nothing special at all. They’re all still just as happy to be bridesmaids as if I made a big song and dance about it.

    Post # 5
    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    I knew who would be my MOH/BMs before we were ever engaged. All of my girls live pretty far away from me so it was a bit of a challenge, but I wanted to ask them all in person. I made each of them a card and when I was finally in the same city as them, I took them out to lunch/dinner and asked.

    Post # 6
    9074 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    MoH: I asked her over Skype. “Wanna be my MoH?”

    Bridesmaid 1-3: Facebook. “Wanna be my Bridesmaids?”

    Post # 7
    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    Just a text…lame I know but all my Bridesmaid or Best Man are out of town and I rarely see them.  I should have maybe done something really cute like them getting a card in the mail but oh well.

    Post # 8
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    2 of them were in person, 2 of them were by phone (they live very far away). I didn’t do anything cute for it, I just asked them!

    Post # 9
    933 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t ask – I was going to ask them anyway, but they asked me & I just went with it!

    Post # 10
    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I I sent this in a private message on Facebook. My fiance made it for me in Photoshop.

    Post # 11
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t really have to ask my sister or my two best friends because they all knew they were going to be in the wedding.  After my Fiance and I set our date and booked the venue I officially asked my two friends to be bridesmaids by taking them out for dinner and drinks.  My sister just assumed the Maid/Matron of Honor role when I got engaged but I never formally asked her.

    Post # 13
    1083 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    For my one Bridesmaid or Best Man. . . it was around Christmas, so I decided to incorporate asking her into her gift. I gave her Bridesmaids on DVD and pasted “will you be one of my. . . ” on top of the title of the movie. She was shocked when she opened it! My other Bridesmaid or Best Man. . . I asked her through a FB message. Her fiance was already asked to be in the wedding party while he and my Fiance were drunk in Disney world. . . and then we threw around the idea of her being in the wedding as well. I just made it official through FB, lol.

    Post # 14
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i had to do it online (as i live in mexico and they live in england)

    but honestly, even if id done it in person it would have been simply asking them

    Post # 15
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I wrote a letter to each bridesmaid (I have 7) with memories and special moments each of us have shared together over the years.  I also thanked them for always supporting me and encouraging me and would be honored to have them stand next to me on my special day.  For the girls that live near me, I tied the letter to a bottle of wine.  For the girls who live out of town, I bough a copy of My Best Friends Wedding and sent it to them with the letter.  Each bridesmaid loved the letter and all of them said yes. 


    Post # 16
    1653 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I took my sister and friend out to dinner and then gave them each a bottle of wine with a cute saying asking them to be my BM/MOH and then a personalized hanger that I made.  

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