Post # 1
My FI’s parents have not met mine – my parents would like to meet them, but his parents come across as fairly blase about it (they’re really great people, I just don’t think they feel the need).
My parents live about an hour North of me, his live an hour West of us. Our apartment is too small for a dinner party, and I doubt his parents would come downtown (not comfortable driving here) but there is no way I am asking my parents to drive a total of two hours to THEIR house.
So how did your parents meet your in-laws?
I’m not very worried about this yet – wedding will be a long way out, I’m sure I can swing something by then. Just curious to see how others did it.
Post # 3
Our parents live all over the place, spread over 4 states.
My parents met his mom when my FI and I bought our house. They were both there on move-in day
They met his dad when we hosted our first Christmas Eve together. His dad lives across the country, so we only see him a few times a year.
If all the parents lived closer (and there wasn’t divorce/family drama), they probably would have met sooner.
Post # 4
They met at the engagement pary my FMIL hosted for us. My family lives out of town, while all of FI’s family and our friends live in the same city as us. It made more sense for my family to be the ones to travel, plus they were coming to visit me anyway.
Post # 5
We took FI’s mom and my parents out to dinner at a center location.
Post # 6
Our parents met briefly at DH’s graduation when we had been together for about 4-5 months, but were pretty serious. The next time they met was at the wedding. My Mom and MIL had spoken on the phone a few times about wedding related things though.
The IL’s live a 4hr drive away from where we all live, so that factors in.
Post # 7
They came from another state to visit my fiance (here in CA), and they came over to my parents’ house for a BBQ. It went smashingly!
Post # 8
Oh darn! I thought this was a thread about how MY parents met – like, how they began a relationship. Poop.
Our parents haven’t met! The wedding will be the first time
Post # 9
@aliavenue: LOL you can tell me that story too if you want! I had trouble wording this post, I kept getting confused because it was all “Our parents…no…well…my parents and his parents need to meet but they don’t want to meet them…okay, wait. That’s getting confusing.”
Post # 10
My Mum met FMIL when we went dress shopping, saw her again at my showers. My Dad met her the night before the wedding. I wanted them to meet sooner, but we never got around to it.
Is there no in-between where you can all meet for dinner? Like where you live but not “downtown”? If that’s what you’d like, anyway. Otherwise, I don’t see anything wrong with them meeting just before the wedding.
Post # 11
My parents and my FIs step-mother (his only parent now) and us all went out to dinner after our college graduation. His step-moms two closest friends were also there (which was great since they are coming to the wedding as part of his family).
Post # 12
@CherryWaves: There’s no real in-between aside from the city centre where we live (both sets of parents live in the ‘burbs of the city, just different directions). I think they will probably meet just before the wedding – if my mom doesn’t just drive to their house and introduce herself first. But who knows – events may come up in the mean time that afford opportunities – sounds like people had them meet in a bunch of different ways.
Post # 13
Our parents have never met and most likely will never meet because from what little I know, they do not intend to attend our wedding (that would have been the first time). But I cant see why you all couldn’t meet at a restaurant instead of someones house?
Post # 14
They haven’t because they live eight hours apart. They’ll meet about 2 months before the wedding, at my graduation.
Post # 15
My parents are in MA, his are in TX… they met at our engagement party in FL.
Post # 16
SO and I were out and about with my rents when SO’s mom called and invited us over. My dad (jokingly!) said, “sure, but only if you make us brownies.” Well, SO’s mom is exactly the type of lady to do exactly that. So we all showed up at SO’s parents’ place and had brownies. It was really relaxed but pretty reflective of everyone’s personality.