Post # 1
My future SIL and MIL are driving me crazy by criticizing things about my wedding….the location is wrong, the clothes are wrong, etc. etc. They’re not paying for anything, so they shouldn’t be so picky… and never have anything constructive to say. I’m a few weeks away from my wedding, and am getting seriously bogged down by the negativity. My wedding day is supposed to be filled with pleasant memories, not annoying complaints from my ILs.
If you guys experienced the same, how did you deal with it?
Post # 3
“Excuse me, whose wedding is this?”
but I’m just a snappy, sarcastic person anyway 😛
EDIT: Sorry, I didn’t experience it because both my family and my ILs respected that DH and I were paying for the wedding so SHUSH.
Post # 4
@summerxq: i ignor it and blow them completely off were paying for it the end!
i just dont listen to it.
Post # 5
I’m currently experiencing some of that as I am now starting wedding planning myself. It puts doubts in my mind and makes me start questioning my decisions. I’ve come to realize that those close to us will have the strongest opinions. Just try to remember, it’s your day. Nothing else matters. Everyone will critize and have an opinion. The choices you make should be on what makes you happy. Just ignore everything else and stay strong. If you feel it’s right, than it is. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
Post # 6
Well first I would let my fiance know how I felt and what they were saying. If after he talks to him and I’m still hearing critisim I would be pretty snarky and reply with “Well no offense, but it is OUR wedding. And we’re paying for it with OUR wedding.”
Or you could be less snarky and say something along the lines of “Well thanks for the advice/opinion but I really like it how it is because of XYZ.” And if you don’t feel like defending your decisions then just simply ignore it or reply with “Oh ok, thanks for your input.”
Post # 7
Don’t ask them for advice and just tell them that you want everything to be a surprise.
Post # 8
I haven’t experienced this from the ILs, but some people say it and generally I just respond that everything has already been decided. Most people know us well enough to know that in school I studied event planning and interned at a wedding venue, so it’s not a stretch at all to assume I have everything already planned!
Post # 9
I kept telling myself. .. these people are not as smart as I am … smile and nod and humour the crazies and then do what you like…….. oh and had a stepford wife grin on my face the whole time 😀