Post # 1
We will be TTC soon, and one of the biggest things I am dreading about being pregnant is being the center of attention. Being the center of attention or having people ask me personal questions makes me panic. I am a very private person, being pregnant is bad for my career, and at high risk for miscarriage, so I would like to hide pregnancy as long as I can. I am thin with a short torso, so that probably isn’t going to help. What can be done? My ideas so far:
I often don’t drink, so not drinking alcohol shouldn’t tip anyone off.
Strengthen my abs (I was planning on doing this anyway)
I often wear shirts that are fairly form-fitting, and I should probably change this now, so no one suspects when I change what I am wearing, but not sure what to wear.
What worked well for you? What didn’t work well for you? Thanks!
Post # 3
honestly dont tell anyone.. not even your friends.. they cannot keep secrets. even if you think thye can.. seriously. they may not even mean to tell ppl
also when ppl ask you directly you can tell that that
A) “oh wow, i knew i was putting on weight, didnt know it was that noticable”, and they usually want to change the subject pretty quick
B) “well we are trying, but it can take a while” this will ensure more questioning and ppl will keep looking at you.
C) “um wow thats a bit personal,” and flip it around and say “sorry when are you due again?”
But honestly ppl will be rude and ask you straight out.. you hould practice with your hubby.. i had heaps of pple ask me straight out. and i wasnt ready and i had no good comeback. ergh!
Post # 4
@guitargirl: Apparently I wasn’t very good at hiding my pregnancy as when we finally told everyone, most people we told eithor said they knew or were waiting for the announcement!
We didn’t tell anyone until 11 weeks and then we told our parents. After we had the 12 week scan we slowly started telling the rest of family, friends and work.
I was quite upset that everyone at work said they knew, but DH said its natural that they would expect it, we got married earlier this year and I had made no secret of the fact that we want kids (I work with kids also, im a teacher). Luckily I didn’t get any morning sickness because they were all watching me like hawkes!
I started to show quite early so changed to baggier tops and I did manage to keep it a secret from parents (of the kids I teach) and people that don’t know me as well through changing what I was wearing.
MIL said she knew because I always drink wine with her and for the last few times we went over there I said no to wine!
I did manage to go to a party and get away with it tho at about 8 weeks, I bought a bottle of sparkling grape juice and scratched off a bit of the label that said what it was and it looked like champagne! It was hard having to pretend to get tipsy when everyone else was but no-one guessed!