Post # 1
I had always planned to wait until marriage to have sex. This is mainly due to religious reasons. I had been with my boyfriend for over a year when I really started to think about things. I started to feel that since we loved each other and were talking about marriage then perhaps having sex wouldn’t be so bad. We slept together after being together for two years. I feel like it was the right decision for us.
How did you determine when you and your SO should sleep together for the first time? Were there a lot of factors involved?
Post # 3
We waited about 5-6 months. I wasn’t a virgin, but he was. Neither of us are religious at all, so that had nothing to do with it. I’m the only one he’s ever been with, and now we’re getting married 2 years later. He said he felt he was going to spend his life with me, and I felt the same about him, so it felt right. And it felt so good that we waited! Just don’t be hard on yourself for not waiting until you were married. You waited until you were in love, which says a lot these days.
Post # 4
No factors ..besides Jameson and it was late at night. A month later he wanted a relationship and now we are engaged 🙂
Post # 5
Kacey23: Have to try it before I buy it 😉
I’m not getting into a relationship in which the sex is horrible. It happened about a month after seeing one another and hanging out. I knew I liked him, so it was the next step to see if we were going to be in something exclusive. Here we are… Matried.
Everyone and each couple, has to go at the beat of their own drum.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I think sex is like shoes… You should try then on to see if they fit. You should walking them to see if you like them. If you are happy with the shoes then buy them.
Post # 7
Kacey23: Factors as in we liked each other but it wasn’t until we went out with our co-workers to a bar that we both realized it. Drinks were involved, a few bets and pool games. But I think I would have slept with him regardless of the drinks. For me, since I wasn’t a virgin when we met it wasn’t hard for me to decide. Had I been, that would have been a completely different story.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
We had been on 2 dates and texting and talking all day every day. The third date he came over, and has pretty much never left. We had sex that third date. I am not religious, but i don’t think God really minds, He has bigger things to worry about IMO.
Post # 9
amandajane4949: “He has bigger things to worry about”
That’s what she said!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
jnnfrgls8: LOL riiiiiiiiiiiight!!!!!?????
Post # 11
Second date for us..there was so much sexual tension between us that we could not wait any longer to do it. I would personally not wait until marriage to see if there is good sexual chemistry or not..
Post # 12
I lost my virginity when I was 18. It was beautiful and romantic.
When I started dating my husband, I wanted to jump his bones the first night because he was so sexy. However, I knew that most men did not respect women who had sex very quickly after meeting. I waited nearly two months to sleep with my then boyfriend because I wanted to be sure that we were on the same page about having a relationship and I really liked him.
My husband always jokes that I teased him. We did mess around a lot but we never had sex until the aforementioned time in our relationship. I remember the moment I knew I was ready to sleep with my husband: I was very angry about some problems at work and he wasn’t phased in the least. My then boyfriend just listened to my rant, held me and then he took me out for ice cream. Later that week while we were speaking on the phone and I informed him that I was ready to go to bed with him. It was planned and he bought me flowers for the occasion which I thought was very sweet. I wore sexy lingerie. The sex was a little awkward because we were both a little nervous but that went away fast.
Because I am a very sexual person, I could never wait until marriage for sex. It doesn’t make sense to buy a car without test driving it first.
Post # 13
We just felt like getting jiggy with it. There was no reason other than that. I flew out to visit him for three weeks, walked in the door, got my stuff situation and we were like, “Hey. Lets dance.”
Post # 14
We were 14 when we got together. I wanted to wait until we were together a year initially, but it was 7 months before we ‘hit third base’. Neither of us are religious.
We were each other’s first, so it was kind of a big deal in that sense. The thing that made me decide that he was the right person and to go for it was actually a piece of advice from Seventeen (and that magazine is pure and utter garbage with the WORST advice for young women, so I’m surprised a piece of good advice came from it). The advice was “If you broke up the next day, would you regret having had sex with that person or would you be content with your choice?
The answer was that he was the perfect person to ‘lose it’ to; he’s kind, caring, didn’t pressure me into it, and I trusted him. I wouldn’t have done anything differently even looking back. It wasn’t exactly ‘perfect’ or ultra romantic, but it was as good as it could have been for a first time and I’m happy it worked out that way.
Post # 15
I was waiting until we had made it “official” which took us like two months. After he asked me to be his girlfriend, he told me that he didn’t just ask me to get in my pants (and had never ever pressured me up until that point) and even when I said “…well that’s what it means, hooray!” he made us wait an extra week. Such a romantic that guy 😉