Post # 1
I’m feeling a bit BLAH – I cannot for the life of me decide that I have found THE dress.I don’t feel any wow factor, I just dont have any problems with it compared to other ones I’ve tried on. I’ve seen say yes to the dress and pretty much every time a girl KNOWS that is the dress for her, and I’m totally not feeling that at all. I don’t even bat an eye when I go to take it off.. and I’ve seen girls parade in their dress for an hour!
Should I expect to feel that wow factor or should I just go for what’s been best? I do have a few months before I actually need to decide, and I have been to 4 bridal shops and only one those did a lady actually help me into the dresses and pull dresses for me. I have probably tried on about 40 dresses. I am thinking I should keep looking but my Maid/Matron of Honor thinks I have found the one, and I am just torturing myself by continuing to look.
What do you all think?
Post # 3
I only tried on like 4 or 5 dresses. When I tried my dress on, I didn’t feel WOW, but I knew it was meant for my body and so did everyone else that was with me. When I picked it out, the sales girl told my mom that she was glad I picked that one. I was a little aphrehensive but now when i see my wedding pics, I’m glad I went with my and their feeling.
Post # 4
@Captain013: I’m sorry you’re having a hard time finding the one. I tried on dresses once (4 dresses) and found nothing I was even remotely wowed by. Then one day I saw her online and couldn’t stop thinking about it. Every dress after that one paled in comparison. I didn’t get to try it on before buying so I had to go on looks alone. I think it’s different for everyone. Try to find one that makes every other dress seem… vanilla haha.
Post # 5
@Captain013: I’m currently going through this as well and I haven’t felt the WOW at all….. I’ve been very calm and just “well, this one is nice”
I’m not sure if I’m missing that gene! or what? haha =)
I totally feel ya on this!
Post # 6
Keep looking. Try dresses you don’t think you would like that are hanging up. I did that my very last trip dress shopping and found the one quickly. I didn’t think I would have gone for the one I ended up with. You’ll know, you won’t want to take it off and you’ll start checking to see what it looks like at every angle. Then you’ll want to go back again the next day just to see the dress again.
Post # 7
Everything that MapleBecky said, I agree with. Keep on looking. You’ll find it!
Post # 8
@Carolyn72: I am kind of going through that. Maid/Matron of Honor is fantastic she know what will look good, and it does look good. When I have it on I’m just like great another dress. I do like it. I do. I am just so confussed 🙁
Post # 9
I was like this as well. I went to 8 salons, doubted myself hundreds of times, but if there’s one thing I have learned, it’s that you should trust your instinct (and not anyone elses). You are the one wearing the dress – so even if your Maid/Matron of Honor says it’s your dress, if you don’t truly feel it, it’s not it.
I found one that I loved due to the following:
– I loved it, and I knew that even if my bridesmaids didn’t like it, I’d still want to wear it.
– I couldn’t take it off 😉
– I could picture myself walking towards my Fiance in the dress
– I couldn’t take the smile off of my face
You have a lot of time. Just be honest with yourself and take your time. For some people (myself included), it is an incredibly frustrating thing… but you’ll find the one!
Post # 10
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Man 4 or 5 dresses, I wish! 🙁 I did try on some out of the box ones lol- and they were pretty ugly. haha
EXACTLY! Excatly what I want. I don’t want some vanilla dress!!
@ms.oregon.state: Good to know 🙂 BAHHHHH! I wanna be wowed
@MapleBecky: Thats exactly the feeling I am looking for. I haven’t spent very long any of of them, I feel like they are nice.. but for someone else.
Post # 11
How did I know it was the one? It was red. It had a slit in the front. Bingo!! I’ve known for a while now that I didn’t want to wear a white dress. I agreed to try some on because FH really thought I would change my mind. I tried on about 6 or 7 dresses (in white) and none of them did it for me. I’m super short and really curvy..it’s hard to find flattering dresses on petite curvy women lol. I found a white one with a slit but it was out of our budget – obviously, that couldn’t be the one lol. Then, I went to a prom dress shop and saw mine in the catalogue! Ordered it and tried it on when it was delivered – I felt like a diva!
To help your search, find specific details you like in a dress. Maybe you like one dress’s neckline, and another dress’s train – make a list and circle areas on dress pictures so you have a reference when you try on dresses. Even though I didn’t go with a white dress, after I tried on a dress with a slit, that became a must-have for my dream dress.
Post # 12
I ripped the same dress out of a magazine four times over the course of a year without realizing it. Then I found out it was WAY out of my budget. So while I was trying on a similar dress I made a comment to the consultant about how it looked like sabelle and she said oh it is right here would you like to try it on. It was in my dressing room in my size. Fate I tell you! I didn’t get teary eyed or anything but I knew!
You may not get the wow feeling but it could still be your dress. Take your time and you will find the one!
Post # 13
@NinaS: I think you are right. I think I need to go by myself and go back to the first bridal store becuase the girl was very helpful and very nice – and not pushy.
I found myself so jelous of the two girls yesterday paradaing and waving to people. Trust me I would much rather have found my dress and be compeltely in love with it, basking in the glow of wedding hood. Me and my dress floating off to live happily ever after…. lol.
Post # 14
@Captain013: I hear ya on this one! When I went shopping I never got that “feeling” you have mentioned. When I tried my dress on I felt different but didn’t cry/get overwhelmed etc. However, that different feeling made me feel that it was the one although I doubted myself immediately. Months later I went back and tried on the dress with the right veil, shoes etc and I did become overwhelmed and I defintiely had that moment.
Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to have that moment, especially right away. It just doesn’t happen for some women. If the dress fits all your requirements and makes you feel like a million bucks (and you think you look amazing) then it is probably the one, regardless if you cry etc.
Post # 15
@misssydneyj: Thats a good idea. I do have alot of things I have most defiantely narrowed down, but I am also compeltely open. If she can find a way to put a paper bag on me and I am wowed then thats the dress for me.
Post # 16
@princessbelle: Thats really great! I actually made a short Maggie must try on list becuase I haven’t treied on ANY of her gowns Sabella is one of the 7 she even has a star next to her. Maybe this is fate bringing me closer to Sabelle. **crosses fingers**