How did you know he was the one?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: When did you realize he was the one?
    I remember the exact moment : (93 votes)
    22 %
    I don't remember the moment : (76 votes)
    18 %
    It was within three months of dating : (128 votes)
    30 %
    It was within six months of dating : (40 votes)
    10 %
    It was within a year of dating : (41 votes)
    10 %
    It was within 2-3 years of dating : (34 votes)
    8 %
    It was within 5 years of dating : (9 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I had this CRAZY feeling when I saw his online dating profile. Not that he was “The One”, but that I HAD to meet him.

    Then I was talking to a friend when we’d been dating about 5 months (and were planning on moving in together), and said “I just think he’s The One. I don’t have a Plan B for this guy! I just KNOW it’s going to work out.”

    Post # 4
    Member
    1233 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would say I knew he was “The One” about two years into our relationship. We had purchased a home together and started planning careers that would work for our relationship. I started to see that our dreams and aspirations were very similar and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him.

    Post # 5
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    3721 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’d been dating just under 2 months. It was almost Christmas. He sent me and email asking if I wanted to join him at his brother and SIL’s house for Christmas dinner. Of course I did, but it’s just my mom and I. I refuse to leave her alone of Christmas and was trying to figure out how to ask him if she could come too, since they hadn’t met and we hadn’t been together very long. Then I saw that it was the top message in a string of emails between DH and his brother – he made sure to ask his brother if my mom could come too before he even asked me if I want to come! That was when I knew. I didn’t even have to explain not wanting to leave my mom, he just knew that she would need to come too 🙂

    Post # 6
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    2394 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Well, the first time I met him, I walked away thinking “Now that’s the kind of guy I could see myself ending up with.” However, at that moment I never dreamed it would really happen. I was just thinking in hypothetical terms — he was exactly my type, and we just clicked.

    But the moment when I knew was about three months later. We had been dating steadily, he even gave me a diamond bracelet. We were in the car one afternoon, talking about how happy we were to have found each other, and when we came to a stop light, we just looked at each other and our eyes locked together, and it was as if time stood still. We both told each other that we didn’t ever want to be with anyone else. That was it. I just knew. 

    Post # 7
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    8916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I fell head over heels in love with my husband when I was 16. I had the strange sensation of simultaneously knowing he was The One and knowing that surely this couldn’t work in the long term… we were young and independent and didn’t want to be those country kids who marry at 21, only to grow apart and start to hate each other. We went to colleges on separate coasts. We lived on different continents. We spent a LOT of time apart for our careers. 

    I think it took a good 5 years to realize that this was going to work in the long term. And another 5+ years to get “settled down” enough to get married to the love of my life 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I knew when we broke up and he continued to pursue me like crazy even though I was at my wit’s end dealing with immigration stuff so we could be together, and wanted to give up. But he stuck in there, even took time he really couldn’t afford to take, to fly down to see me. Even though we were no longer together. I had always knew I wanted someone who was that committed to our relationship and making it work. And in those two weeks of us not being together, I saw that he was the man I wanted to be with for the rest of my life.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I fell in love with my SO within a month of dating him and I knew I loved him very much and we talked about marriage, but I didn’t have my “I know I am going to marry him” moment until around 1.5 years. I was studying abroad in France and while I was there I just had a moment where I realized that I needed and wanted to be with him forever and I knew I was going to marry him. I’m still a waiting bee, but its more of us “waiting” for the right time to be offically engaged- we’ve already agreed to get married.

    Post # 10
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    498 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    within the first month i knew he was the one…he was just so different than any other guy i met..he actually cared about little things, the way he lloked at me, the first time he kissed me..i remember a couple years ago when we had that really had hurricane and he didnt hear from me for a while so he drove all the way across the bridge in the rain and wind and flooded streets to my house to make sure i was ok…knew he was the one…no other guy did anything like that for me before

    Post # 11
    Member
    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had just broken up with my ex when I met him 2 weeks later, but we were talking on fb chat for a bit before – we were introduced through a mutual friend and going to that mutual friend’s party so he had fb friend requested me beforehand so we can chat before we met up. Anyway, I had in my mind exactly what I wanted in a man – it was fresh considering I had just broken up with my ex. And he just fit it all, right off the bat. I was hesitant, still heartbroken, but less than 2 months later, I couldn’t deny that I had fallen for him.

    I remember the moment I thought I loved him was when we were driving with his parents somewhere, I had just met his parents for the first time and we were on the way to go get dinner or run an errand, I can’t remember exactly – I just remember sitting in the back of the car with him, holding hands, and not paying attention to the conversation bc I was just staring at him, lost in love. I remember thinking, “Crap, I think I’m in love.” lol

    Post # 13
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    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Awww, I love these stories!

    I knew FH was the one for me quickly, I think less than six months after our first date. He’s very athletic, and I’m not, but he invited me to join the school gym with him. So I did, and the first time we went he said “They have a pool here, let’s go swimming!” I was 19, with a BAD case of hydrophobia, and I didn’t really know the first thing about swimming. It stemmed from when my dad used to throw me in the pool, expecting me to swim lengths or something. He was also way too cheap to sign me up for lessons down at the public pool. I was always afraid of sinking and drowning, so I managed to stay away from pools – until now. I thought, “How am I supposed to tell this guy, who I really like, that I can’t swim at all and that I’m afraid of the water?” I told him maybe some other time and he was a little disappointed but he went by himself.

    This went on for a couple more weeks, and then FH finally asked why I never wanted to go swimming. I told him everything. I was afraid that he would find all of that amusing or weird, or think, “Who doesn’t know how to swim when they’re 19?” He did not. Instead, FH told me he could teach me how to swim and not be afraid of the water. I agreed, and we went down to the pool once or twice a week and he patiently taught me how to swim. He made it extremely easy and not scary at all, and I learned. I was super happy!

    That’s when I knew I should keep him forever. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    2372 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Looking back it was several moments… ones that have constantly stood out to me and were impactful at the time.

    The night we met – I looked across and saw him and it was like POW and I HAD to go talk to him.

    He asked me to be his girlfriend, but I actually said no… I was just not positive that I was over a past love (wanted to get over him, but wasn’t sure I totally was yet and thought that would be unfair) and also I was leaving for Rome in 4 months and we had only been dating a few weeks. Fast forward a month and we were hanging out at Virginia Beach with his friends and I looked at him and I thought “You are being so stupid… don’t you DARE let this one go… you jump right in and fears be damned.”

    When I was in Rome I didn’t know what would happen… and I ended up missing him so much more than I could have imagined!

    When I came back from Rome and we said “I love you” for the first time I think I just never ever looked back. So those moments happened really early in our relationship, and at the time I don’t know that I completely recognized them for what they were. But looking back over the years, those were my signals that he was the one 🙂

    Post # 15
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think I really ever had an ah ha moment. With my other relationships I always wondered what else was out there and would think about different guys quite a bit. With DH I never wonder what it would be like to be with other guys instead of him. I mean obviously I find other guys attractive but I don’t wonder what a relationship would be like with them like I used to while I was in other relationships.

    Post # 16
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The first time I saw him I had a feeling; I knew for certain that he was it for me about  1 year and 6 months into the relationship. There were other moments inbetween those two events as well. I loved him before I knew for certain he was my future. The depth of my love for him continues to grow.

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