(Closed) How did you know they were *the one*?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
73 posts
Worker bee

hmm your SO show the way to win your heart is cake. He knew you loves him making a cake for you or anyone. I am sure he is speical guy to you. πŸ™‚ Not just the cake there is something else that you really love about him. πŸ™‚ How to know if he is the one.. … i suppose it has to do with your gut and feelings to know that he is the one. Maybe he ticks all the boxes that you looking for in him?? so you probably know he is the one. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 4
699 posts
Busy bee

@rabidsmiles:  when matthew stayed with me through a bad strep throat, he fed me soup, and made sure i was ok. nursing someone through sickness, and the rest is history….without the ring lol!!!!

Post # 5
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Because, ever since I met him 5 years ago, he was the only person I ever saw in my dreams about getting married. Sure, I’ve had dreams about other guys i’ve dated, but when I got into wedding-fantasy mode (like going to other friends weddings and the like) he was always at the end of the aisle.  We didn’t even start dating until 1.5 years ago, but I think I always knew he was the one.

Oddly, when I dream about weddings its a long aisle and a white veil and the whole thing, but we’re not even doing those things πŸ™‚

Post # 6
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I knew almost as soon as I met him. I couldn’t get him out of my head and I couldn’t wait to see him again and I would get so excited and nervous whenever he would call/email me. That alone was something new to me because I’m not the type of person who reacts that way when they meet someone. It has never happened before where I have had such a strong pulling feeling towards someone.

I knew he would be the one I spend my life with when he told me he loved me.

Post # 7
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

There wasn’t really any one moment for me that did it. It was more gradual, a series of moments. 


But I know that he’s the one for me because we can talk about anything under the sun. He always puts me first and makes sure that my needs are met. He knows every little secret, even the bad ones and he doesn’t judge me for it. He loves my personality and how silly I can be. He never talks down to me or makes me feel like I’m stupid. And he goes out of his way to make sure I’m comfortable in every social situation. I am hard of hearing and he always takes that into consideration whenever we go somewhere. I can be completely myself around him and there’s no fear whatsoever of being judged or made fun of. And he makes me laugh. Even when I’m mad at him, he’ll say something which will make me burst out laughing. I can never stay mad at him for long lol. 


I love him so much and I feel like the luckiest girl in the world to be dating him. πŸ™‚

Post # 8
2759 posts
Sugar bee

When he made time for me almost every day during his month-long business trip to India despite the time difference. The fact that when he has a bad day, he needs to see my face. How he takes the time to listen to, appreciate and love every song I put on the mushy mix CDs I’ve been making for him every month of our long distance separation. The fact that he knows all of my deepest, darkest secrets and issues and not only loves me despite them but BECAUSE of them.

There wasn’t a moment, exactly, but since I met him I haven’t felt as safe or excited for the future any other time in my life. Every little thing about him lines up with what I dreamed of growing up.

Post # 9
148 posts
Blushing bee

  • When I first met him I was weak at the knees. Totally cliche and literally weak at the knees and taken aback by his looks. We were meeting to chat about a mutual friend, I’d seen his picture but in person I “swooned” haha. And walked away thinking about him nonstop.
  • A few weeks after we met he was going to fly across the world to help me (I was in Japan and in a bit of trouble)…people don’t do that sort of thing and he was completely serious.
  • He talks about his feelings, is considerate, open, knowledgeable, interested…too good to be true…yet, is truly everything I could have ever asked for. My previous partner passed away. I embarked on a new relationship with the highest possible expections of a human being and have not been disappointed on any level. I think I would be the craziest woman on the planet to let someone such a good fit with me walk away.
  • He doesn’t give in. And is the first man I’ve met who hasn’t gone to mush and just done whatever I wanted (I am very opinionated and a strong personality. Most people just go with what I want). He’s an equal

Post # 10
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

As unbelievable as it was to me, I “just knew” that he was the one for me within 2 weeks of us dating/meeting.  It wasn’t so much something that he did but just a general feeling I had, an overwhelming sense of joy in his presence, sheer happiness to see him, feeling safe and genuinely cared for by him.  After grappling with whether or not I should tell him so soon, I did so a week later and no, he didn’t think I was a crazy stalker.  He was thrilled to hear it though a little reserved to respond with his side at that point.  I didn’t need him to tell me how he felt, I already knew through his actions.

I’m generally one of those people who analyses everything to death, an over-thinker to the max and yet there’s never been any doubt or concern when it comes to him.  This is one aspect of my life that I have purely allowed my heart to dictate and leave my brain out of it!  Is it logical to fall so hard, so fast?  No…  Do I have any regrets, 9 months later?  No!

Neither one of us is perfect and yet we both see those flaws and accept each other despite them.  I couldn’t ask for a better man for me.

Marriage has always been something that I wanted, but I was on the fence about children.  Funny how all of that can change when you meet the right person!

Post # 11
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rabidsmiles:  I don’t really have any sweet, “this-is-when-I-knew” stories…being with him long term just makes sense to me.  We are each others best friends, and he includes me in *everything*, much to the chagrin of some of his male friends.  I’ve even asked him “hey, you know you don’t have to take me everywhere, right?” and he has always consistently said back “why wouldnt I?”  That is a far cry from other guys I’ve dated who, a couple of nights a week, would go out galavanting around and I was not invited because it was a “guys night.” So that’s one thing, I guess.


We live well together.  We have been living together nearly as long as we have been dating and it’s worked out swimmingly.  Being home together is probably one of our favorite “activities” πŸ™‚


He thinks I’m “cool”.  Let me be clear: I am THE farthest thing from cool.  Despite being a jock, he is always so interested in what I’m painting or making or reading about.


So yeah, no big story here, we just “work” together πŸ™‚

Post # 12
2026 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@rabidsmiles:  I dont know if I ever really ‘knew’  I knew he was different from any of the other guys I had been with.  He did, however, get the key to my apartment on our first valentines together and decorated my room with balloons (he drew all over them pics of us) and roses, and made a heart with our initials in the middle out of chocolate! It was so sweet since I didnt get to see him on Valentines day because I had to work that night. 

Post # 14
7462 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I knew within 2 weeks that he was the one for me. I burned my lip very badly and it looked disgusting!!! He was supposed to come over that night, but I told him I didn’t want him to see me like that. He said, “I don’t care if you pooped your pants, I just want to see you!”. He came over and still made me feel beautiful. He just accepted me for who I am, and he never played games. We were engaged 5 months later πŸ™‚

Post # 15
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

He will move heaven and earth to make me happy.

He does all those little things.

I was going through some yuck medical stuff when we met and he never once wavered on wanting to be with me. 

He makes me laugh… as in, ridiculous, omg this is stupid but hilarious and I love you for making me snot chocolate milk out of my nose laughter

We got through the first few months of living together without killing each other πŸ˜‰

Loads of other things…

Post # 16
1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@badabing88:  +1. You said essentially what I said, but better. We go everywhere together too and people just cannot understand it.

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