Post # 1
I am forever curious about people and relationships…and how one day you can look at this person you have been with and think ‘I want to spend the rest of my life with you’. So here’s my question, when did this moment happen for you? Obviously this is for both people, not just the one who asked the other to marry them 🙂
I fell in love with my SO over a chocolate cake. Well, not just any chocolate cake…and not just one either. My SO loves to bake and my birthday happened to fall in the first few months we were dating. I told him that no one had ever made me a cake before, not even from a box mix. He tells me that he was going to make me a homemade chocolate cake from scratch. He baked this cake the previous night, and when I come over on next Saturday of my birthday he tells me that it fell apart. He then proceeds to kick me out of the kitchen and dining room and tells me that he is going to rebake the thing because he wanted it to be perfect.
So for the rest of the morning, he is slaving away in the kitchen. The candle and singing time comes and he shows me the cake and I just melted. He had hand traced and cut out silhouettes from CD covers of my favorite band in fondant and hand piped the lettering. From that point on, I knew I was in love. So much care and thought went into that cake. I am so sentinmental that I scraped off the frosting and tucked one of the fondant cutouts into a plastic baggie that I have tucked away in a memory box
Post # 3
hmm your SO show the way to win your heart is cake. He knew you loves him making a cake for you or anyone. I am sure he is speical guy to you. 🙂 Not just the cake there is something else that you really love about him. 🙂 How to know if he is the one.. … i suppose it has to do with your gut and feelings to know that he is the one. Maybe he ticks all the boxes that you looking for in him?? so you probably know he is the one. 🙂
Post # 4
@rabidsmiles: when matthew stayed with me through a bad strep throat, he fed me soup, and made sure i was ok. nursing someone through sickness, and the rest is history….without the ring lol!!!!
Post # 5
Because, ever since I met him 5 years ago, he was the only person I ever saw in my dreams about getting married. Sure, I’ve had dreams about other guys i’ve dated, but when I got into wedding-fantasy mode (like going to other friends weddings and the like) he was always at the end of the aisle. We didn’t even start dating until 1.5 years ago, but I think I always knew he was the one.
Oddly, when I dream about weddings its a long aisle and a white veil and the whole thing, but we’re not even doing those things 🙂
Post # 6
I knew almost as soon as I met him. I couldn’t get him out of my head and I couldn’t wait to see him again and I would get so excited and nervous whenever he would call/email me. That alone was something new to me because I’m not the type of person who reacts that way when they meet someone. It has never happened before where I have had such a strong pulling feeling towards someone.
I knew he would be the one I spend my life with when he told me he loved me.
Post # 7
There wasn’t really any one moment for me that did it. It was more gradual, a series of moments.
But I know that he’s the one for me because we can talk about anything under the sun. He always puts me first and makes sure that my needs are met. He knows every little secret, even the bad ones and he doesn’t judge me for it. He loves my personality and how silly I can be. He never talks down to me or makes me feel like I’m stupid. And he goes out of his way to make sure I’m comfortable in every social situation. I am hard of hearing and he always takes that into consideration whenever we go somewhere. I can be completely myself around him and there’s no fear whatsoever of being judged or made fun of. And he makes me laugh. Even when I’m mad at him, he’ll say something which will make me burst out laughing. I can never stay mad at him for long lol.
I love him so much and I feel like the luckiest girl in the world to be dating him. 🙂
Post # 8
When he made time for me almost every day during his month-long business trip to India despite the time difference. The fact that when he has a bad day, he needs to see my face. How he takes the time to listen to, appreciate and love every song I put on the mushy mix CDs I’ve been making for him every month of our long distance separation. The fact that he knows all of my deepest, darkest secrets and issues and not only loves me despite them but BECAUSE of them.
There wasn’t a moment, exactly, but since I met him I haven’t felt as safe or excited for the future any other time in my life. Every little thing about him lines up with what I dreamed of growing up.
Post # 10
As unbelievable as it was to me, I “just knew” that he was the one for me within 2 weeks of us dating/meeting. It wasn’t so much something that he did but just a general feeling I had, an overwhelming sense of joy in his presence, sheer happiness to see him, feeling safe and genuinely cared for by him. After grappling with whether or not I should tell him so soon, I did so a week later and no, he didn’t think I was a crazy stalker. He was thrilled to hear it though a little reserved to respond with his side at that point. I didn’t need him to tell me how he felt, I already knew through his actions.
I’m generally one of those people who analyses everything to death, an over-thinker to the max and yet there’s never been any doubt or concern when it comes to him. This is one aspect of my life that I have purely allowed my heart to dictate and leave my brain out of it! Is it logical to fall so hard, so fast? No… Do I have any regrets, 9 months later? No!
Neither one of us is perfect and yet we both see those flaws and accept each other despite them. I couldn’t ask for a better man for me.
Marriage has always been something that I wanted, but I was on the fence about children. Funny how all of that can change when you meet the right person!
Post # 11
@rabidsmiles: I don’t really have any sweet, “this-is-when-I-knew” stories…being with him long term just makes sense to me. We are each others best friends, and he includes me in *everything*, much to the chagrin of some of his male friends. I’ve even asked him “hey, you know you don’t have to take me everywhere, right?” and he has always consistently said back “why wouldnt I?” That is a far cry from other guys I’ve dated who, a couple of nights a week, would go out galavanting around and I was not invited because it was a “guys night.” So that’s one thing, I guess.
We live well together. We have been living together nearly as long as we have been dating and it’s worked out swimmingly. Being home together is probably one of our favorite “activities” 🙂
He thinks I’m “cool”. Let me be clear: I am THE farthest thing from cool. Despite being a jock, he is always so interested in what I’m painting or making or reading about.
So yeah, no big story here, we just “work” together 🙂
Post # 12
@rabidsmiles: I dont know if I ever really ‘knew’ I knew he was different from any of the other guys I had been with. He did, however, get the key to my apartment on our first valentines together and decorated my room with balloons (he drew all over them pics of us) and roses, and made a heart with our initials in the middle out of chocolate! It was so sweet since I didnt get to see him on Valentines day because I had to work that night.
Post # 13
@ninelives: Oh yes! I was on the fence too about whether or not I wanted to have kids or even get married. I figured someday I guess I’d say yes to someone. Now that I have this amazing guy in my life, has totally shifted my ‘maybe’ to ‘yes’ with the whole kids fence sitting.
@badabing88: Yes it’s nice to be included! I had others in the past who treated me like your previous ones did, it was horrible. The SO included me in everything from the start, second date in I was meeting his best friends and hanging out with them on a constant basis, Made me feel awesome knowing that he was willing to share those people with me.
@LadyBlackheart: That is a great point, being able to talk to them about anything is the key to making it work. Mine loves my weird sense of humor and ‘gets me’, I am constantly amazed that he laughs at my stupid jokes or puns and will even fire them back at me.
@bkrocks13: You know I never had dreams about marriage or anything of the sort til I met him. So maybe it’s the brain telling us something that takes the rest of us so long to realize lol
@MissCalifornia: Mine knows the deep dark things I keep hidden, he’s the first person I have been able to talk to about certain topics. He really is the rock I can hold onto during a life storm.
Post # 14
I knew within 2 weeks that he was the one for me. I burned my lip very badly and it looked disgusting!!! He was supposed to come over that night, but I told him I didn’t want him to see me like that. He said, “I don’t care if you pooped your pants, I just want to see you!”. He came over and still made me feel beautiful. He just accepted me for who I am, and he never played games. We were engaged 5 months later 🙂
Post # 15
He will move heaven and earth to make me happy.
He does all those little things.
I was going through some yuck medical stuff when we met and he never once wavered on wanting to be with me.
He makes me laugh… as in, ridiculous, omg this is stupid but hilarious and I love you for making me snot chocolate milk out of my nose laughter
We got through the first few months of living together without killing each other 😉
Loads of other things…
Post # 16
@badabing88: +1. You said essentially what I said, but better. We go everywhere together too and people just cannot understand it.