Post # 1
Now that we have the date set and the venue booked, my next big item to tackle was the dress. I had done the magazine and online browsing and found that most dresses I saw, I was not crazy about. I pulled approximately 7-8 dresses that I found appealing and they were all similar – strapless or halter, light, modern. No big ballgowns, not very fitted, etc.
Yesterday I went with my mom and sister and tried on dresses for the first time. I was totally thinking I would NOT like most of what I saw, but in the end I really liked nearly EVERYTHING I tried on. And the styles were all over the map. A few really big skirt, princessy, ball gowns, a few of the goddess style flowy dresses, a few fitted dresses, etc. I felt so totally confused when we left the store (after three hours!).
How long did it take you to find a dress? How many times did you go out and try them on before you decided?
How did you know you had found “the one”?
How did you determine a style and stick to it? (i.e., I love simple, modern gowns but also loved romantic, cinderalla, traditional gowns)
How much did other people (fiancee, mom, bridesmaids, etc) influence your decision? (I feel like I am giving A LOT of weight to what other people think here and that may be part of my problem)
I am just curious to hear about your experiences!
Post # 3
Maybe go by yourself or with one other trusted friend? I like a bunch of dresses too. I figured out which one to buy when it made me feel like a bride, not just like me in a beautiful dress. “The” dress was transformative and elating. It didn’t have much to do with style/silhouette for me. It’s hard to explain, but I’d keep trying on dresses. No need to be a multiple-dress bride if you can avoid it :-).
Post # 4
I went with my mom and 2 sisters. We went to 2 bridal salons in the same night with a very open mind as to style and design. As I tried on dresses my entourage and I eventually decided which silhouette looked best on me and that I liked more embellishments on the dress. I originally went in wanting something simple, but ended up buying something a lot more ornate.
As I kept trying on dresses I did start to get confused. I’d definitely recommend taking pictures if you’re allowed. It’ll let you remember what each dress looked like without having to put them on again and again.
I knew I found “the dress” when the sales lady asked if I felt like a bride in a dress I thought I loved and I broke into tears. I knew that was my dress. After only one day of trying dresses and being engaged less than a month.
Take your time and try on as many different dresses you can. You’ll just know. Only bring a few people who know your style and aren’t afraid to tell you the truth about how you look, but in the end it’s how you feel about the dress and no one else.
Good luck and happy hunting!!
Post # 5
I went with my mom and best friend (MOH). I am that type of person where if I find something and love it then I go for it. So I was pretty sure I’d find THE dress. We went to the first salon and I tried on dress after dress and I just wasn’t feeling it. I was actually getting nervous, I had put all this pressure on myself to find a dress that day. We left the first salon and went onto the second one. I had a bunch of dresses that I wanted to try on and one in particular that I couldn’t stop thinking about. I put that dress on and I just knew! I had that feeling that I was looking for the whole morning! I had found MY dress! My mom started crying…and I was sold. So don’t give up! Your dress is out there.
Post # 6
It took me 3 months to find a dress. I went dress shopping 10-15 times, trying on 5-15 dresses each time. If I loved a dress, I went back a week later and tried it on again-that helped a lot. I have a tendency to get excited, so this helped me stay realistic.
Since you like lots of things, I would think about the wedding itself. How formal is, is it a daytime or an evening wedding, etc. I really liked a slinky satin evening gown, but it was way too glamorous for my late afternoon wedding. Hopefully that you will help you narrow it down a bit!
I let my fiance influence my decision way too much. I’m glad I showed him dresses, but at the end of the day, I picked what I wanted.
I knew it was the one because I have never felt so sexy in a dress before, and so me at the same time. I never had a “this is the one” moment, I just felt like myself and felt gorgeous. So I would say trust your gut, you know?
Good luck, I can’t wait to see what you end up with!
Post # 7
I was like you, I loved every dress I tried on, but when I put on “the one” we all knew it. It was so fun to feel so pretty in every one, I thought it would be like bathing suit shopping, scary and irritating, but I had such a blast. You’ll know when you put it on!
Post # 8
i picked my dress based on a few things:
i wanted to feel like i was still me on my day – a gorgeous me, but still me – not a barbie doll dressed up.
we didn’t have a bridal party and it was important for me that i be able to move around without assistance that day (read pee, sit, eat, drink – basically have fun!)
in terms of style, i went with what best reflected the vibe i wanted to set for the reception.
Post # 9
It looked the best AND i could afford it! And it required no alterations. Easy, inexpensive, and not stressful
Post # 10
I went with my mom and my sister. Their opinion had a HUGE impact on my decision. I fell in love with a dress that was out of my budget so I found an almost identical dress by another designer. It’s hard to tell right away which dress is the one, but you should definitely take into consideration your wedding decor, the opinion of those who matter to you, the location of the wedding (outdoors, indoors, beach, etc). Give yourself some time and eventually the ones that you didn’t like as much will naturally fade from your memory.
Post # 11
I didn’t think I would have the “this is the dress” moment, but I definitely felt different about it than any other dress I tried on, and I didn’t want to take it off.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
I went out twice. When I found my dress I was by myself. I was like you. I didn’t see a whole lot online or in magazines and when I went to the store I picked out all different styles. The dress I decided on was something I’d never imagined wearing. I ended up in a lace dress but it’s gorgeous.I knew it was the one as soon as I put it on. It’s super comfortable and fit perfectly. And I couldn’t stop thinking about it after I left the store. I knew it had to be the one. Good luck finding a dress!
Post # 13
I narrowed it down first by ‘shape’, since I am short and curvy but thin I found out trumpet style dresses look best on me. Also, since I have a largish chest, the sweetheart neckline was the most flattering.
I then decided that dresses that were too plain weren’t going to cut it (even though I always gravitated towards them) because I’m getting married in the evening in a beautiful church wiht a large fancy ballroom reception. So anything without detail or looked like an ‘outdoor’ dress didn’tn cut it – there had to be something going on.
I finally did a lot of online searching of different designers in my price range and saw that Priscilla of Boston offered a ton of trumpet style gowns with lots of different detail so I made an appointment there to try them on. I saw another bride trying on my dress and it was over – I knew it was the one.
Good luck and if I can offer advice, try to narrow it down like I did – first by shape, then by fabric/detail and then do some searches of designers within your price range. I never brought people with me (after the first time) because too many opinions or even worse blank stares really confused or upset me.
Post # 14
I went by myself to narrow it down, and found the one despite some drama with a rude sales lady. I just knew when I put it on, and it was very similar to dresses I had picked out online/magazines. When my mom came to visit a week later, I tried on four dresses so she wouldn’t know, but straight up told her it wouldn’t matter what she thought. It is my dress- and I’m paying for it.
A few years ago when one of my sisters went shopping she tried on 6 dresses at a store. The first one went on, then the second and she had to chose which one she like the best. When the next one went on, it was compared to the favorite, so by the end, it was narrowed down to her favorite dress. Maybe give that a try and see if it helps you eliminate some of the dresses. Happy shopping!
Post # 15
i lucked out, to be honest. i stalked eBay for a few styles I found online that I liked, and got lucky on a bid! you never know =)
Post # 16
I found my dress the first time I went looking, but had gone to try on a different one originally. I didn’t have a big ‘omg this is THE ONE’ moment but I kept remembering that one particular one and went back two months later to try it on again, and decided it was right for me then, but I think it’s ok to like a few dresses: I tried on some really lovely ones that almost swayed me too.
My mum and my FMIL both cried when I tried it on but I’m pretty independant in my choices anyway.