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How did you know what kind of father your H would be before you had kids?

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    joygirl    July 10, 2010  

    This is something  haven't really thought about on its own, but I am wondering...

    For you moms out there....before you married and/or married your DH, what was it about him or your relationship that let you know how things might be when you started raising kids together?

    Thoughts?

     
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    joygirl    July 10, 2010  

    oops, i dont think i meant "married and/or married." uh....you get it. ;)

     
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    newbiecici    September 18, 2010   Louisiana

    I know how loving and caring my FI is with me when it comes to anything, so I know he'll be that way with our future children.  Also, he has a nephew (who's almost 4) and a niece (who's 2) and I see the way he plays with them and takes care of them, and that was also a pretty good indication of how he'll be with our future kids.

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    We don't have kids yet, but I know after we m,arry he will be a great dad becasue I see how he interact with my neices & nephews from the youngest to the oldest!

     
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    gocubbies       Illinois

    It is very hard to tell these things, I think.. There is nothing like having a child. The closest thing is pets, and even that still won't tell you everything!

    The only other thing is how he acts around children that are close to you and your families, if any.

    We have 2 dogs.. I had a 4 y/o when we first met, and we got a puppy together who is now 7 months old.

    The positives.. He is fair, extremely kind, and more nurturing than most.

    The negatives.. His quick temper.. He definitely gets this from his dad, and thankfully, it's a much more toned down version. I think we'll be just fine, though.

     

     
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    smyley    May 2010  

    I agree on the previous interaction with other kids. He was the favorite Uncle who played rough and tumble with the boys and could sit and read a book with the girls...or have a cup of tea during a tea party! lol

    I think someone who has a good sense of humor, has a lot of patience and an even temperament is a great start for a someone who will make a good father.

     
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    GlambrideNYC    May 3, 2009   New York

    I knew after a month of dating. He is sweet, attentive and very patient with me, I knew he would be a great father.  

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    He's an excellent provider, and takes right after his father. He hates it when I don't have everything I need, and never hesitates to take care of me. All he ever wants in life is for his loved ones to be happy and healthy. His father is the same exact way - like his main goal in life will always be his family. This is how I know he'll be a great dad.

     
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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    My hubby already had a daughter and seeing him with her let me know how great he is. It also let me see some of things he struggles with as a parent (and showed me some things that I struggle with too) and those are things we were already working on when we got pregnant. 

    DH wasn't really with stepdaughter's mom so he missed a lot of things (especially pregnancy things), which was really hard for him.  When we were first dating we watched the movie "knocked up"  and hubby made a lot of comments about how hard it was that he was unable to experience those things with his first daughter.  It was super touching and really let me know how great he would be with our future children.

     
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    Vitsippa    October 10, 2010  

    We're not married yet, and I won't know for sure until then, but I think my FH will be an awesome father one day! He's always wanted kids, is super gentle to me, and I know he'll be an active participant in child-rearing. He's also very close to his father and family and they are wonderful people. Him and his siblings had a happy childhood filled with all the things that matter: family time, baking, cooking, gardening, just talking. Love shown with time together and not by material possessions - I didn't know people like this existed before Laughing

     

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