How did you know you were ready for baby #2?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wish I knew the answer to this.. my DD is 21 months and I am nowhere near ready to TTC the next one.. and I almost feel like i never will be ready.

I had such insane baby fever before having her, that I figured it wouldn’t take long before I’d have that again..but I’m just not feeling it! We were going to TTC this summer..but now I think we’re waiting another year at least!

I’m honestly thinking that I want to wait until DD is 4 and almost ready for school.. I selfishly want to have more baby time with my next infant, like i did with her…

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am definately ready for #2.  Several factors for me come into play. First and foremost turning 40 this fall so age is #1 factor.  The 2nd factor is I want my kiddos to be close in age.  My son will be 22 months at the end of this month. 

 

And okay I have baby fever like mad…

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I knew I was ready for baby #2 when baby #1 was out of diapers and old enough to have play dates with friends. For us, that meant they were 4 years apart.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@roxy821:  We don’t plan on TTC til after my 40th so probably in Nov or Dec start…

 

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m interested in this topic! I just had #1 two weeks ago and I seriously can’t imagine having more even though I want 2-3 kids with ideally about 2 year gaps but I can’t even picture myself loving another baby as much. It seems mind boggling to me that I might have more than one child one day. 

I guess that’s probably not an odd way to feel with a brand new baby but still. I’m interested to see what other mommies will say 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsSawyer:  Congrats on baby! A LOT of women say the same thing ..”how will I ever be able to love another child as much as my first?”

..then they have the second and it all fits into place 🙂

I’m just so satisfied with having one that I don’t really feel the need for another right now..lol

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

DD I will be 3 this October and we are due with #2 in January. We weren’t really ttc but we weren’t not trying either. I’m so glad we got pregnant and I cannot wait for DD to have a playmate 🙂 dew wouldn’t ave “known we were ready” unless it just happened for us…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have 3, pregnant with #4.  I knew it was time for us to try for #2 because I had reached all our goals I had set for ourselves for a second baby.

1. We were about to own our own house.

2. I was 26 years old (we had our 1st really young so I knew I wanted to wait a few years between kids).

3.  My 1st son was 6 years old and old enough to handle a sibling

4. I was having baby fever

5. We were financially ready to have another child

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I want my kids two years apart in school and even though I feel like starting trying again in 10 month seems CRAZY, that’s what I want my family to look like in another 15-20 years. So . . . yeah. My son was born in May so our next child will have to be born before August 2015 for them to make the school cutoffs. Brutal! But worth it, I think.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We talked about money & what having another baby would mean. Ideally I wanted our kids closer together Dd is 4 1/2. Basically ffigured out the cost of childcare etc and decided we should wait until our lease was up (feb)and we could move to a bigger place. And until we were both promoted (both in line for promotions). So all of this was gonna take place early 2014 thought we’d start then… surprise I got pregnant in april! Lol Luckily my promotion happened early & his will kick in before the baby comes. Things happen & we are so excited. I think you need to talk about it, make sure you can afford it & are prepared (kid #1 potty trained lol). Then go from there. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think 4 yrs apart actually seems like an ideal time. The 1st one is able to look after themselves a bit more. Like going to the bathroom, communicating better, starting school, etc. In some cases they are even capable of helping out here and there with small things with the new addition.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Number 1 won’t even be here for another 11-ish weeks and we have already started talking about number 2 lol.  Our biggest factor is going to be money, we can afford 1 kid right now, but definitely not 2 until I am finished with med school and have an actual income other than just student loans.  We also want #1 out of diapers before #2 comes, so we are thinking at least 3 years between them, maybe even 4.  We also don’t really want our kids to come in a rush and all be graduated and out of the house within a matter of a few years, we kind of want to stretch it out and enjoy having kids at home for longer. 🙂 We want 3 total and we are only 24 years old, so that should give us enough time to have a few years between the 3.  I just can’t imagine having to deal with 2 little babies, I give serious props to the parents that do because it looks so exhausting!  By the time #1 is 4, I feel like they could be at least a little bit of a helper with baby #2 rather than just being pretty oblivious and having to have every single one of their own needs tended to by mom and dad. 

Ha…additionally, as of right now, I am SO SICK of being pregnant!  I want to get back into great shape and be able to enjoy my body (as much as one can post-baby I guess) before I surrender it over to baby-making for almost a year again.  I don’t want to be pregnant, give birth, then be pregnant again all over less than a year after #1. I am hardcore missing being able to drink, work-out, buy cute clothes, have normal sex without my giant belly in the way, etc.  I am just completely over being pregnant right now and I still have most of the 3rd trimester to go. Yikes.  Hopefully I can refer back to this post if I get baby fever too soon to remind myself how much I do not really enjoy being pregnant 😉 

So I say all this now, but who knows what will actually happen.  I hated being on hormonal birth control, so planning on using condoms/pull out/FAM for birth-control post-baby.  I dont have great faith that that will be super reliable for 2-3 years, but who knows!  And if we have an oops we will definitely welcome it as a surprise blessing, but in my perfect world, we will be able to use non-hormonal BC for a few years until we are ready for baby #2. 

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