How did you know you were/are ready for a baby?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 4
Hostess
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Honey-Bee:  DH and I don’t have kids yet, but I think when you know, you know. That’s all there is to it! If you feel like you’re as ready as you can be and it feels right in your heart, then go for it. 🙂

Post # 5
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Honey-Bee:  I’m on the same “You know when you know” boat. It sounds so abstract and less than insightful but it will just feel right. DH and I thought our timeline would look more like 4 or so years before we even started trying when we first got married but something changed in us recently. We are both still in school and are not financially stable yet but we can’t fight this desire to want to try. I also have endometriosis and they thought that waiting might leave me infertile is another fire under our rears. But we just want to have a family. It’s not always going to look like your ducks are in a row so you start having kids sometimes you have to work on those struggles as a family but if you are financially ready and you feel strong enough as a couple to bring another life in to this world then do it. Don;t, however, feel pressured because of this timeline. Give yourself some time, play with some of your friends’ or family’s kids. For me, if you want to know the actual feeling, it used to happen mostly around ovulation I’d have major baby envy and start nesting but now this is an every day thing for me. I see a baby and all I can do is imagine how great of a father my husband will be and how much I will love our child. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have had two different mothers say to me that if you wait until you feel you are totally ready to have children, you never will.

I say this as a woman who has no kids and is still not sure, so I don’t know how helpful this is to you. : P

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

@Honey-Bee:  The way I personally knew i was ready is because I found myself day dreaming  about a little one of my own all the time, specially when I see other people with their kids. I also know that he would be a great dad and I’d be a great mom so I just can’t stop dreaming about having a little one of our own in our arms. But I guess everyone is different.

 

Post # 10
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think you have to take a leap of faith, but for us, being financiailly well off was something that was important before we had children.  We also had a really solid relationship, and still do, since having kids can magnify any issues you already have.  We also made sure we were in a posiiton to have enough space for children (we lived in a small place when it was just the two of us!)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We wanted to have a home, be married and have 6 months of salary saved up in savings for emergencies. 

We both got the “baby bug” too. Where we would constantly stalk the baby sections in stores, started noticing babies and children more, etc.

Post # 14
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2690 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We just knew.  We talked about it and both wated the same thing.  We didn’t plan it to death but we knew we wanted to have kids and we knew we were ready to have them when we started.  YOu just have to feel it… if you don’t feel ready, then maybe you’re not but you will never be 100% ready.  You just have to take that step when the time comes.  Good luck.

Post # 15
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

the situation will never be ideally perfect to have kids – it’s a leap of faith. if you’re financially stable, are happy with careers and know you want kids eventually, go for it. my son is 8 months old and was somewhat of a surprise (we just weren’t preventing) and he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to us. i’ve never heard someone say they regretting having kids. GOOD LUCK!

 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Honey-Bee:  Honestly, I don’t think I would have ever felt 100% ready for kids to the point I’d say okay, hunny I’m ovulating, let’s go!  So, we took the we’ll see what happens route.   Well, the first time we pulled the goalie, I got pregnant.  I knew it was a possibility since I had been tracking my cycle (not temping or charting), just trying to see cycle length since I Had just stopped BC.  I was anxious to test and couldn’t wait until I missed a period.  As I was getting ready to take the test I was wishing for it to be positive and thinking how disappointed I would be if it was negative.  That’s when it hit me that I was more ready for and wanted a baby more then I thought!

It’s a huge life change, I think it’s pretty natural to have some reservations.

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