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I was just thinking how other Bee's lost their virginity and how it worked out for them (happy with their decision or not.

I made a concious effort to "get it over with" as I was not expecting to be in a long term relationship at any point in my life. 

I was a month shy of my 20th birthday and sick of people not believing I was a virgin. I wasn't saving it for anyone but myself. I was sort of a late bloomer I guess, I didn't have my first kiss until 16-17 depending on definition. I knew that I did not want to be in a relationship with someone and lose it, because I was afraid of the chance of my first partner being my first heartbreak (one thing I have yet, and hopefully will never experience- and my SO is absolutely wonderful so I wouldn't expect it to). 

So I had been talking to many of my guy friends- I had a lot left over from H.S. I could talk more openly to than many of my girl friends and we made a plan. I would just lose it to an acquaintance someone I could test out beforehand as far as knowing enough about them (i.e not in a relationship with someone else, not a virgin).  

(Sorry this is long)

So when I made plans to meet up with someone I had known my first year of college I knew it would be perfect. I wasn't 100% attracted to him which was great (I didn't want to be attached after "the sex"). I also wasn't going to be in town for more than a 24 time period and the town was hours away from my homebase (I don't like to "hook up"- a loose term I use to involve making out on up- with guys in too close proximity after an odd incident with brothers). So... I did it, probably within an hour of my arrival I was no longer a virgin, and I was so happy the way I chose to do it, on my terms, when I knew I was mature enough and ready. 

Had I waited for my SO I probably would have been more self-concious as he was quite promiscuous in his days before me and it would have been a weird pairing. 

I'm not at all saying I did it "the right way", I just did it exactly how I feel it was best for ME. 

*I am just curious to see how others lost it and if they're happy with their decision*

I lost it about 6 months into my first serious relationship (I was 18). I was not at all saving myself for any reason but looking back I do wish I would have waited. That relationship lasted way too long and I honestly think it's because I felt too attached. He was my first real boyfriend, my first love, my first partner and I just had a hard time letting go after that even though I knew the relationship needed to end. I don't regret it and I am for sure happy that my SO wasn't my first because he had quite a few partners before me and I would have felt so insecure.

@theredhead:  

Yes, I already get weirded out because a lot of my SO's exes live around the area and I'm like, there isn't anyone I've had sex with within 4 hours driving radius... I've only been with two other guys but still.. It's frustrating to be the only one having to deal with exes around (and some show up out of no-where).

@nineteen87:  HAHA. I understand that a little too much. My FI was actually one of my best friend from high school all the way through undergrad and we didn't start dating until my senior year in college. So I actually know every single one of his ex girlfriends AND every single girl he has ever been with before me. Sometimes I am thankful for that and other times I wish I didn't know so much about him! 

@miss.alice.m:  

Exactly, there are so many things I could have changed but it may not have brought me to my SO... Like if I was in a relationship with someone and moved and never came back to my hometown (where I met my SO).

So nice to hear all the happy stories of people that are still with their first! I guess I just lacked trust back then, but now am happier than ever that things worked out the way they did.

What matters to my SO and I the most is that #1 we've never actually been in love except with eachother, #2 we're been with eachother longer than anyone else, and #3 we're eachother's best (otherwise it may not have lasted, hah). 

I was 18 and a really late starter compared to everyone else in my friend-group (they lost it between ages of 14 to 16).  He was a really sweet guy, and we were both each other's first.  It was actually in the back-seat of his car - we'd gone camping, but then a freak storm kinda forced us to sleep in the car.  We stayed together for another 3 months, and then a couple of tragedies in quick succession put too much strain on us and we split up.  We stayed very good friends and I actually set him up with the woman he ended up marrying.  I couldn't have asked for a nicer person to loose it to really.  My FH would have been great, but I don't think I could have waited until I was 28 really.

I lost it after being with him for 3 months. He was 17 at the time, I was 16. He'd been with one girl before me, and honestly, I'm glad because he knew what he was doing and he didn't fumble around. He was sweet and gentle and we loved each other. Now, after 4.5 years together, we're engaged. :) It was perfect for me, and I don't regret it in the least.

I was 14, it was a planned one-night stand with a friend I fancied. No regrets.

I've been with a lot of men since, and I'm glad I had those experiences before settling down. They were good fun, plus I can positively say that sex with my OH is the best sex I've had.