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I was not 100% on my dress but it was the perfect dress for my wedding.
i was sure when i bought it, but as the months went by i became less sure. untill wedding day, than i thought it was perfect. and that's what counts.
i bought a dress in september that i was 98% sure of. It is a very pretty dress but I second guessed it from the second i purchased it until I finally decided to do something about it last month. I bought a dress that I'm SURE is the right one for me. There was just nothing about it I wanted to change. I felt pretty and I just wanted to get married in it. The other dress didn't do that for me.
I decided because I started trembling and tearing up at the thought of not having that dress (it was over twice my budget). So I negotiated and got it.
Since then, I've seen several beautiful dresses I also think I would have liked, but they are almost all in the style of my current dress.
i have second thoughts everyday about my dress, but always come back to it, and i love it! i saw it in a magazine, saw how it made me almost look skinny, and was in love! lol.
I am soooo indecisive! I was between 3 dresses for a long, long time. I finally cut 1 out and then had a really tough time betweent the final 2. I think the most helpful thing for me was having my mom take photos of my in the dress from several angles. In the end, I chose my dress for 2 reasons: I liked the fuller skirt because it felt more "once in a lifetime" and I liked the dress on me from the back better than my #2 option.
But, even with that, I did have lots of second thoughts throughout the process, right up until I tried on my dress when it came in a couple weeks ago. I kept thinking maybe I would actually look better in the other, the other would fit the location better, the other one was more classic, etc. It was even to the point where I didn't call the shop back or go see my dress for 3 weeks after they called to tell me it came in. But when I finally put it on, those thoughts went away. I am so glad, I know it's perfect now.
I have a really really hard time making decisions, but the dress was the one thing for me that was pretty easy. It made my sillouette look amazing, my mom cried & I didn't want to take it off. That plus a price tag of 650 (and they threw in the veil) sealed the deal for me!
PS, I totally had second thoughts the next day, but I have second thoughts about every LARGE purchase. SO I talked to my mom, and she reassured me that I made the right choice! And I love it now! I can not wait to wear it!!!
no second thoughts here...but I'm usually a very "final" decision maker. Plus I took my time with dress shopping, and spread it out over five months so I would really have time to think about it. Even though I fell in love with my dress the first time I tried it on, I kept looking and tried it on three separate times before I bought it. I actually spent an entire appointment at Saks trying on every dress that I remotely liked to erase any doubts!
I was really indecisive about a dress too. I don't think about it much anymore, but I was driving myself a little crazy for several weeks. I think it's that I WISH I were edgy, but I'm traditional at heart. I tried to go for something offbeat, but finally had to admit that, as cool as that is for other brides, it's really not me.
My final 3 dresses were a short one, a high-low, and a more traditional gown. When I was really honest with myself, I felt the most comfortable and 'right' in the traditional dress. I think I had to let go of visions of who I WANTED TO BE as a bride, in favor of who I really am. Then it was easy. I still have moments of 'dress lust' when I see another Bee's gorgeous gown (Marisa 815, I'm talking to you), but mostly I'm peaceful knowing I made a good choice.
Wish I could remember which married Bee posted that ultimately her dress choice didn't matter that much: she could've worn a dress from her closet and felt just as beautiful and special on her wedding day. Thanks, whoever wrote that! It's helped me keep perspective in those moments of doubt.
See this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-settle-for-a-dress for some good perspectives on choosing a dress. Some brides have that 'lightning bolt' certainty; others don't. It's all good!
here's the thing: i think it's impossible not to have any second thoughts. i mean, this is a HUGE day for you, and you want to look your absolute best, so who wouldn't just have a bit of insecurity regarding her decision? there are a million gorgeous dresses out there, and frankly, i wish i could wear so many of them, that having no second thoughts seems just implausible! eventually you have to just pick one (well, unless you're a celebrity) to wear the big day. if two dresses make you feel fantastic, you'll have to pick one, and once you do, stop thinking about it! you'll love it the day of the wedding as it will be the only option - think of it that way!
good luck!
I love my dress but i have to say that my SIL in getting married in sept and after i paid for my dress when i went with her i wish i had looked more and then i saw another that was similar to mine but more simple. i wanted to change my dress but then the consulant talked to me about how beautiful my dress was and it was way better so i fell back in love with mine again
I probably searched harder than any other Bee here (22 stores!). It was the hardest decision of my entire wedding. But the issue wasn't decisiveness, it was not finding the vision in my head. It seems like for some reason no designer decided to make that dress this year (drop waist ballgown in allover lace) even though it didn't seem it would be that difficult to find. Had I found THE ONE, I would've known right away. I know this because I was married before, and I got that feeling then. This time it wasn't meant to be. So I chose the nicest looking dress of all the ones I'd seen and that wasn't ridiculously out of my budget. At least I know two things 1) it's not a cheap looking dress 2) it's special and beautiful. But...it's not my dream ballgown. Now when I finally pick it up in a couple weeks and bring it home, if I hate the way it looks on me, I'm totally going on a last minute sprint to find Plan B!
I loved my dress the minute I tried it on. It fit well and the chiffon flowed so elegantly. But it's CHIFFON! I went back and forth worrying about getting a dress in such a fragile fabric. But ultimately, I just went for it.
The key I think is once you have truly made up your mind- not too keep looking at dresses. It is way too tempting!
i found my dress just the other day and i actually cried when i put it on, so i new it was the dress for me. I don't have any desire to keep looking for another dress because im so in love with the dress i found.
Second thoughts on the dress? You bet.
It is lovely, but it doesn't fit right in the bust. Bought it online. I am going to a tailor soon to see what they can do.
What a deal I got at $250 and it is exactly everything I wanted in a dress.
At the moment, I am looking at it as at least I have something to wear and if something better comes along I can change my mind.
I am so surprised so many other brides have second thougths as well. My friend just told me she walked into David's Bridal picked her first dress and never cared after that. Her dress was also only $300. It looked nice on her, and she was happy.She claims she just doesn't understand how brides can be so indecisive. lol SInce she did not have the same experience I did.
I found my perfect dress at the first shop I went to. It was about the 5th dress I tried on. The first time I went to the store, I took a coworker and we found The Dress. I took my mom to the store later that week and she got me to try ona few that SHE preferred..but none compared to my "first love".
I never had second thoughts and when it came in and I went for my first fitting, I still thought it was amazingly perfect.
The trick is.. once you buy a dress (and only buy one that you LOVE), quit looking. There will always be other dresses out there, new ones coming out, etc. But keeping looking will just cause those second thoughts.
I found my dress..and quit looking. Sure, I peruse some of the dresses posted here, but not in a "I'm still looking" mindset. I've seen some that I like..but having quit looking in person and trying any on.. there was no second thoughts on mine.
Of course, mine is far too fancy for my reception hall..but hey.. my wedding, my day :)
wulfin, That is awesome!Congratualtions!! what dress did you end up getting? Do you have a pic? Why do you say it is too fancy for your reception hall?
I loved so many dresses but I was looking for something that I could feel comfortable wearing to my wedding considering the 'feel' we were going in and the way I wanted to day to go...I found dresses I loved, but I finally made my decision when I could picture my FH loving it and I felt super comfortable in and when I found the dress I just knew that it was exactly what I was looking for. My aunt ended up making my dress so I saved so much money, but I still come across dresses that I love and wonder if I could have had her just make that dress..... after talking about this I'm so tempted to go home and try it on! ahhhhh!!!! lol It helps me remember how much I love it and I'll love it even more once everything comes together :)
I have an Essense of Australia dress, I'll post a pic of it from my first fitting. I had to get something that would come in within 4 months since I had a 6 month engagement.
The reason I say it's too fancy is that my reception is in the hangar at an Aerospace museum.. i'll post a pic of that too! But there will be planes all around and the exhibits are open to the guests if they want to peruse. We'll be decorating it within the limitations of the venue (can't decorate the planes..haha), but I've seen pictures of it decked out and it can be gorgeous. It'll be fun!
ETA: The tables for the reception will be on the main floor..the space infront of the yellow plane, etc.
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for me, it was probably the eighth or ninth dress i'd tried on, and i just knew that i loved it. i cried, my mom cried, the bridal consultant cried, and random people in the store were nodding at me and giving me the thumbs-up sign.
my best friend (also a bride-to-be) is having a harder time because she's found several dresses that look awesome on her. it's an intense selection process!
I tried on a lot of dresses, mos tof the ones I liked online didn't look great in person. I'm second guessing my dress currently...but I don't have the money to get another one. The dress I bought is beautiful, I just keep wondering if I should have bought something more fitted to my body versus such a big skirt/train...sigh!
Mulfin, The airplane venue is awesome and so creative and memorable. I think your dress looks great for any venue.
MissPumkin, Your friend sounds like me. I am haveing a hard time and I just don't want to go crazy on just the dress alone. I still can't figure out where I want to get married either. lol But I think I care more about the dress because It is the only thing with me and my groom that will be in all the pictures. lol
I felt the same way Marlew. So it seems most brides second guess their gowns, unless they are lucky enough to find the One!!!
I am very indecisive about clothing & shoes. Big purchaces (houses appliances cars etc) i don't give a second thought about! I am actully getting 2 dresses. 1 for the wedding in the Bahamas and 1 for our reception at home. I had no worries about the dress from the Bahamas I got it on LightInTheBox.com for 100! its a very fun dress and exactly what i wanted. The dress for home now thats another story!!! I was down to 2 dresses 1 was 600 n the other was 500. Personally I'm a shoes girl and spending 500-600 on a dress for a few hours of use is beyond me! So I put an add on etsy to have my "dream dress" made the top from 1 dress & the bottom from the other and a corset back that neither dress had . Ended up costing $425! And i've budgeted in for some LOUBOUTINS!!
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I am feeling like such an indecisive bride. Was anyone ever so sure of their dress that they had no second thoughts? How did you make your final decision on your dress?