Post # 1
I’m curious! I’ve been single for about 2 months now and am having a hard time meeting people. I have been active online, but have talked to many guys and several disappointing dates.
I’m 25 years old next month and would like to meet someone and have a good relationship. But I’m finding it really challenging to meet guys. Most guys online only want sex or aren’t serious about finding someone or aren’t interested/compatible with me.
So I’m kind of at a loss of what to do. I work at a place that is primarily women. So there’s no way I can meet guys through work either.
How did you meet your SO?
Post # 2
I was 28 when I met my husband at work. We worked in the same department and he shared an office with someone I was working on a project with.
Post # 3
OKCupid, I found his pprofile and messaged him. Personally I think there’s more diversity on the free sites, but there might be a lower percentage of guys who just want sex on the pay sites.
Post # 4
sarabee: I met FI at work. He was actually my boss!
Post # 5
Plentyoffish.com lots of losers (since its a free site) but I am the second person I know who met their spouse on there. So, if you are willing to wade through the frogs and also be VERY careful (meet at a public place, do what you can to verify identity, etc.) there are some hidden gems on that site.
Post # 6
I met my FI the old fashioned way, drunk in a bar…
Post # 7
I met my husband when we were 16. We worked together at my very 1st job, a seasonal ice cream place! We hung out that whole summer. We went our separate ways & never saw or talked to each other for 10-11 years. He actually even moved across the country & lived out in California for 7 years. After a year of being back in Ohio, we ran into each other at a place that I bartender at…on my night off. My friends & I were at a place a couple spots over & had decided to stop by the place where a couple of us worked at. We’ve been together ever since. It hasn’t been smooth sailing though, that’s for sure. This relationship is so difficult because we were raised to communicate so differently. I understand what you’re going through though. I used to feel like that A LOT! I even feel like you do now, except for I want to meet friends. I’ve never kept in touch with any of my friends. After bar tending I ran a huge gym. I had to quit because of medical reasons. I got injured & then got sick, & I couldn’t keep up with the grueling hours & they wouldn’t let me take the time off for doctors appointments. So I then worked for my friend’s family’s company & was the only girl. I was living with my now husband at the time, so it’s not like I hung out with the guys at work on my time off, I was at a doctors appointment 4 days a week after work, & I desperately needed to rest on the weekends. Eventually I had to quit working altogether because of my medical issues & didn’t work for 3 years. Now I nanny for my sister. My nephew is 5 months old so I don’t get any adult socializing. I have 1 friend & she has 7 year old twins & a husband. So basically I have no one. My husband works 60 hours/week too, so I never see him.
I really hope that you meet your soul mate soon…or if you don’t believe in soul mates, then the person that you’re supposed to be with. I’ve learned that when you’re focused on yourself & just having fun & not looking, that’s usually when you meet someone special. It’s tough to get to the point of not caring or thinking about it though. Just focus on you & doing things that make you happy. He’ll come along soon enough.
Post # 8
By the way, what do you mean “serious about finding someone?” Maybe that’s your issue. You’re only 24. Very very few single guys are focused on finding something serious before 30. In my experience, most men in their 20s tend to not worry about the long term while they get to know a woman, but if things keep getting better and better, THEN they start to think about the future. Not before. Relax, you’re still young, just have fun, go on first dates. If they pay for your dinner, don’t immediately try to get in your pants, and you both laugh, they’re probably good enough for a 2nd date. Don’t worry about anything further than that. If all else fails, move. Maybe you’re in the wrong place.
Post # 10
I used to use OKCupid and POF. I tried Match and didn’t like it personally, I met more people on the free sites. I agree with SweetEmerald, meet in public at a public place. I would NEVER give out my phone number and would tell people who were pushy for it that I wasn’t interested. I gave it out once and it was a huge mistake. I always did coffee or drink dates…if it sucks, I would drink faster to end it. Don’t give your number at the end of the date if you do not want to meet them again. Let them know that it was nice to meet them and then write them later. Good luck but be safe! I went on a ton of dates over 2 years through those sites. I’ve also heard that there are fun groups for singles on meetup.org, but I hadn’t tried those. If you’re athletic, maybe a co-ed softball team? Do you have a friend who might want to play for a season with you?
Post # 12
ladyamalthea: I’m kinda beginning to wonder if I do just need to move. Most of the people in my area are already married, in serious relationships or have kids. Most of my friends are married and have kids. Some of my friends already have several kids. It’s pretty crazy considering how young I am. But I would like to meet someone. I’m not looking to get married right now, but a long-term relationship, yes.
Post # 13
I met my SO the first day of high school at 13 years old. We sat down next to each other in our first class and have been inseparable ever since.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
SweetEmerald: I met mine on plenty of fish, too!
sarabee: I think it’s on how you set up your profile. Have pics showing you have fun. I know I clearly stated on there I was NOT looking for hook ups but to find one person to date and see where it goes. I think I only had 1 guy be lame and I just ignored it. Always be yourself and true to that. Don’t focus on long term right now. Just to on one date at a time to get to know someone. Don’t sleep with them for a while..a long while if possible. It’s just dating, go out and have fun, be happy and the right one will find you.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm
I was very lucky. H and I met through mutual friends when I was 20.