(Closed) How did you NOT know you were pregnant?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I used to wonder the same thing, but I know a girl who, at the time of her delivery (she did know she was pregnant BTW), had only gained about 5 lbs (I think she lost fat while gianing baby weight), and did NOT look pregnant.  Her baby was facing backwards and her placenta was in a weird place, so she didnt feel any movement or anything.  She was still in totally normal clothes.  If she and her husband werent TTC, she may not have known.

I love that show “I didnt know I was pregnant.”  Insanity

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

some women don’t get those pregnancy symptoms! i don’t think it’s very common, but it’s possible to still have monthly bleeding, not feel the baby’s movement and not gain much weight. they probably just think they have bad indigestion!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

I think a lot of it is psychological. I think a lot of these women who “didn’t know they were pregnant” really don’t want to be pregnant so they rationalize or ignore the symptoms because they are in denial. If you aren’t showing a whole lot  or at all and you continue to bleed regularly (which some women do during pregnancy) you can convince yourself that all the other symptoms are due to something else.  “Oh I’m really gassy” “I’m exhausted because I’ve been working too much” blah blah blah.  Deep down though, I bet they know and are just desperately hoping otherwise.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Um, where can *I* sign up for one of those pregnancies where you have no symptoms and only gain 5 pounds?

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Lozza: Seriously!!! Sign me up!!! lol

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I love that show, it’s such a trainwreck! But then they talk about how the women got pregnant and i think, “duh, people…duh”. I think a few of them are in serious denial.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

One of my college roommate’s had a friend whose pregnancy was like this. She had NO idea she was pregnant. She played soccer for their country’s national team and she had to quit because she was having such horrible back pain. She gained maybe 5 pounds but thought it was from having quit soccer. In fact, she didn’t gain at her tummy but at her hips. She went into labor and they thought it was appendicitis, including the doctors until they checked and realized she was in labor. She was actually relieved to find out she’d been pregnant and that was what was causing the back pain and not a more serious health issue. Plus she got to go back to playing once the baby was born. The baby had lain horizontally and had more or less wrapped himself around her torso so she never had a bump. She was on the pill and got her period every month as well. I’m not sure about the skin pigmentation, except that it doesn’t happen to every one. This girl was Icelandic and they  have very, very fair skin. It may not be as noticeable on lighter skin? Who knows, either way, she definitely didn’t have a clue!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Not everyone has symptoms. I have a smaller frame, so my only symptom was my belly expanding. That didn’t happen until I was about 7 months pregnant (at which time, if I wore a sweater, people still didn’t know I was pregnant!) And I gained about 25 lbs. I wasn’t sick, I didn’t have anything that pointed to pregnancy until around 7-8 months. I knew though, because I didn’t have a period. Some people continue a light spotting during their pregnancy, so its even confirmed.

It could go the other way too, my sisters best friend was pregnant, and kept going to the doctor to confirm/see what was wrong, the doctor kept telling her she wasn’t pregnant and she ended up going into labor and calling 911, she had her baby in her bathroom. Pretty crazy.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

A very long story short:

 I was raped after high school at a party. I had never had sex before and wasn’t really sure what to do, but for some reason I decided not tell anyone.  I never gained weight, or had pregnancy symptoms nor did I ever have to buy a different size of clothing. I was active in sports all through high school so missing periods wasn’t anything new to me. It wasn’t until I got to the hospital (I thought I was dying lol) and the nurses and Docs thought DH (boyfriend then) and I were having a VERY early baby that I snapped to reality. So yeah I can agree I was in denial, but I was also young and didn’t reach out for help when I should have.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think some people are certainly naive about it, but others who are on birth control or who have been told that they will never be able to have children just don’t attribute the symptoms to being pregnant, since they think it isn’t a possibility.

DH and I were trying, so I suspected my early signs (one tiny occasion of spotting and sore boobs) were because I was pregnant and took a test. However if I hadn’t been expecting it, I would have attributed my sore boobs to taking up running again and needing a better bra and would have thought that the spotting was related to “adult time” as it was tiny and only once. I think I easily could have gotten to 20+ weeks without knowing. I have had heartburn and nasuea much more frequently, but nothing too extreme that it yells morning sickness, and I’ve always been sensitive to certain foods, especially diary. I’m tall and have an athletic build, and my weight has fluctuated up and down about 20 pounds over the last 4-5 years. Right now at 26 weeks I’ve only put on about 13-14 lbs, and only recently is it clearly baby belly instead of pudge. Had I not been trying and taken the test, I think it’s possible that I’d have not known until I started feeling the baby kick around 22 weeks.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@missfireslayer: Hugs from me as well.  You are incredibly brave, just to let you know. 

See, they do exist!  Its amazing how you NEVER hear about these stories, but they are pretty abundant

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i thought “I didn’t know i was pregnant” was a parody skit until i realized it was an actual show. it’s sad that a lot of the babies end up being born with defects that could have been prevented if the mom had known.

 

@missfireslayer: amazing story. it takes a lot of courage to raise a baby that belonged to someone who did that to you.

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