How did you pay for your wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I lived well below my means for seven years to save.  You know how they say your rent/mortgage should be less than 23% of your salary?  Mine at the highest was 14% but was usually around 8%. 

I also had a really small and low-key budget so I didn’t have to save up much.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We aren’t getting married for two years bc I didnt want to put financial strain on us, our parents, etc. My bro is also getting married next September so that also was a reason we decided to wait til 2015. I plan on having my fiance start saving in October, while I am paying off some credit debt. Then in a few months it will be paid off, then I will start saving big time fir the wedding. I planned it out so I have 17 months to save and he is saving longer but it’s less money saved each month. Hopefully we have enough saved to do it without our parents help. I know they are going to help but I don’t want to count on anything.

 

Post # 5
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Savings, credit cards and a little bit of help from parents/family.  We’re doing a pretty low budget wedding though (under $10K).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our parents ( mine 50%, DH’s 25%) and us (25%). And our part came from saving as much as we could.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I were paying for my own wedding we would be eloping on the beach, but since my parents are paying we’re having the big wedding everyone expects, which is fine with me since we’re not paying lol

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MangoLover4Life:  We were super lucky, my parents paid! We paid for the DJ and photographer. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Our parents gave us about 1/2 the budget as a gift & we paid for the rest by saving over our 2 year engagement.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

My parents paid for 1/3 of the wedding and we paid for the other 2/3. We paid all cash (from savings we had accrued over 2 years).

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@sangriiia:  As a lurker of your thread, I lolled. Tongue Out You’re all kinds of open awesome.

We are using only parents’ contribution. My mom had set aside a specific amount, and then FI’s divorced parents offered to pay for specific things (dad the catering, mom the photography). 

We are having a mostly-family DIY wedding. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My parents are paying, very generous of them.  And like a few others, the scale has “upped” because of their expectations of what their only daughter’s wedding should be 😛  We’re covering a few things ourselves, but because of health issues I’ve lost a lot of income over the past year and we’ve only recently started being able to put some savings together (we’ve only been living together/joint finances for a year, we’re almost at our second anniversary so it’s not one of these situations where we’ve been preparing for this for years)

But don’t kill me… we don’t actually have any sort of budget because any attempts I’ve made to bring that up with my parents seem to fail so we’re basically working on a case by case “does this seem reasonable compared to alternatives?” type basis.  And it’s kind of freaking me out!  But they’re happy so we’re just going along with it.  Don’t worry, I am completely and utterly spoiled and I know it!

Although (and this is also probably going to sound bad :P) every time FH and I start to feel guilty about it, we’re reminded of the fact that my parents have decided to dash off to San Franscisco for a week to watch the America’s Cup (they live in NZ) and will be going to Europe for three weeks in October.  So, obviously they’re at a stage in their life where they have money & are happy to spend it and the wedding obviously isn’t dragging them to their knees if they’re planning such trips. 

So, as we have from the beginning, we just deal with everything as it comes and try not to make the damage too much more than it needs to be 😛

 

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