Post # 1
Just curious what process other couples go through. For us, i find i have been the only one coming up with baby name ideas, but DH will approve or disapprove. So at least i know he is not saying yes to anything i suggest and he is actually putting some thought into it that way – because he has no to a lot of my suggestions!
I was wondering if this is somewhat common – that the mother has more ideas and the father just agrees or disagrees. One of my friends told me they went through the process the same way.
Oh and do you think it depends if your baby is a boy or girl? I knew if we had a girl, i had tons of ideas, but I didn’t have so many ideas for a boy but assumed DH would. Well he didn’t, so i have been coming up with boy names now. (Actually i think we have it finalized and we both like what i chose a lot! I am just letting it sit for a while before we commit 100%)
Post # 3
I probably contributed 80% of the name ideas, but we both have unlimited veto power…which means that even though we’ve both had to give up names we loved separately, our short list is filled with names we BOTH really love.
I will say we had a much much easier time with girl names…or with narrowing them down haha, in part because we of our name guidelines:
-needs to flow well with our last name
-not be used by a family member (this is hard for a boy name because there hasn’t been a female born into DH’s family in 75 years, so a lot of boy names we might otherwise consider are already taken)
-not be in the Top 10
-be at least somewhat classic/traditional
-we both had to agree on it
There are a ton more girl names that fit our criteria (even after discounting names we loved because they are on the Top 10 list).
Post # 4
@Mrs Sarah McK: i had some similar criteria. i didn’t want a close family member or friend to have the same name or a close variation of it. And i also didn’t want a Top ten or very popular name….but also didn’t it want to be too unique. And i also wanted it to flow with our last name. Then the criteria for middle name was the same plus is had to flow with the first name!
DH’s only criteria that he specified is that the name can be easily pronouncible in French as well as English since his family is French – which made things tricky, because that made me add onto the criteria that *I* have to be able to pronounce the name perfectly in English, since i have no French accent in me! (I can’t say my husband’s name properly, and I certainly did not want that to be the case with our son!)
Post # 5
We made lists and vetoed names we didn’t like. It just so happened that we both liked one particular name and it went well with the middle name. And that name became our son’s name. Though, DH had the final veto power with a boy and a girl’s name is already picked out if we ever have a girl.
Post # 6
My boyfriend and I chose our dauhters name in less than one day. We wanted something exotic. We didnt want a name that many others have. I bounced a lot of ideas off of him, until we found one we both got really excited about. The name we chose ended up not coming from a baby book ar anything like that. I ended up combinin my two favorite names Kali and Nala, to get Kala.
Post # 7
We both came up with options, but interestingly, my husband named both of our kids! He just has great taste in name, I guess. 🙂
Post # 8
We both gave options.
When it got down to our “short list” and were trying to pick the final name, we made a deal: DH got final pick of the first name from our list, I got to pick the middle name. (And next time, we’ll switch: Once we get the list narrowed down, I’ll get final pick of first name, and he’ll get to pick the middle name.)
Post # 9
We both went through a baby name book and marked what we liked. We had a few of the same, but some were wildly off. And there were some that were outright vetoed by either me or my DH.
Once we got it down to each of our top 3s, we found that our #1 name for a boy was the same. It’s also my dad’s middle name, and we just really like that it’s a family name. We decided that the baby’s middle name would be his dad’s first name. That way we have a name from each family.
Post # 10
@2PeasinaPod: i know other people that have chosen the name based on their parent’s names. I suggested doing that even for a middle name to DH and he immediately vetoed it! Which i didn’t mind, i was just throwing it out there. In reality, bothof us are not huge fans of either of our parents names!
Post # 11
We haven’t really gotten far on the boy name. Girl name is pretty much set. We’ve been on that name for over a year. We want to use a family name for the middle of the boy but the choices aren’t too easy to pair with a first name. I jokingly made up a name the other morning and told DH and I think he actually liked it and is considering it. But it would be really out there. Not sure if we okay with such a unique name. I’m kind of waiting until we know the sex to spend too much more time on it.
Post # 12
I gave most of the options but the first name we decided on was his suggestion. It was the only name he wanted for a child even though he said I could name the first girl whatever I wanted. The catch was he wanted to have two girls in some way so he could use that name. Luckily for him (and me in a way), the name I had picked was way too popular and lost all appeal for me so we went with the first name he picked since we had both agreed on it and I suggested middle names until we both liked it.
Post # 13
I wrote out a list of both our suggestions and eventually we settled on the first name I really wanted, and the middle name he really wanted.
The names we picked are both family names.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
lets see with my daughter I wanted a Hayley but his cousin had a daughter already with the name so we went down the alphabet and ended up with Kaylee, her middle name is his moms middle name so shes Kaylee Mae, my middle child I wanted a Michael so my exhusband chose the middle name which is his brother( who passed away) middle name so i had a Michael Edward. and my youngest my exhusband picked his first name and i picked his middle name which is my great uncles name who i was very close to and he passed away my senior year in hs. so i had a Nicholas Carl. my FI and I want a baby and if its a boy it will be Henry( my gpas name) Martin( my FI and his dads middle name) if its a girl then it will be Linnetta( my moms name) Elizabeth ( my twin sisters name).
Post # 15
Ok, so we’ve been ttc for a year so we don’t have a “real” baby to name yet but it’s definitely been front of mind for a while. Dh has the #1 boys name of most of the 80s and is fairly anti “weird” names whereas I was the only Alicia most of the time and really like a less common, but not “out there” name. So we just read off all the names between 50-250 on the popularity list for both genders with unlimited veto power for any reason, and only ended up with about 20 for each that we didn’t dislike for some reason. We both work in policing so names often get “ruined” by jackass clients :p
Then I popped the names into my baseball tournament creator software and ran a round robin of head to head comparisons. Haha.
Were both the type that want to Consider ALLLLL the options before making decisions.
Post # 16
For our first girl (whevever that might be) I had fallen in love with the name Kaia Lynn a LONG time ago. I just love the first name and Lynn was supposed to be my middle name after my dads mom but my mom has the same middle name and didn’t like naming me after herself. So I want to name my daughter after both of them. When I brought it up to Mr. Hedgie, he loved it too. We had decided on a boys name too but when his mom found out she flipped. Apparently there is some tradition in their family (that I swear she just made up) that you can’t use a living persons name (specifically hebrew name) and give it to a new baby. So, since Mr. Hedgies hebrew name is Benjamin Avraham, having a son named Benjamin Alan was beyond comprehension. So, to make his mom happy, he scratched it. We still haven’t thought of a boys name. Oh well. We have time and I wasn’t thrilled with the name anyway.