Post # 1
Just wondering how you ladies asked your friends to be your bridesmaids. I fell in love with the bridesmaid box on Wedding Chicks http://www.weddingchicks.com/2011/08/03/will-you-be-my-bridesmaid/ and decided to make my own.
I bought the cigar boxes at Michaels. They were around $7 each but I used the Michaels 40% off coupons so that brought the cost down. I painted them in an ivory colour and a mint green (one of my wedding colours). I also bought a set of stamps at Michaels and stamped the words ‘be my bridesmaid?’ on the inside lid of the box.
The Wedding Chicks box included a vintage handkerchief for each bridesmaid. I don’t have vintage handkerchiefs just lying around so instead I went through my mom’s fabric stash and found a good sized piece of linen to make them from. I made 10 inch square handkerchiefs. I then used my new stamps to stamp each handkerchief with the recipient’s monogram. I embroidered over the letters in purple embroidery floss (one of my other colours).
My boxes also included paint chips in my wedding colours, a bridesmaid inspiration board, chocolate almond Kisses, and cards with information about the wedding, the bridesmaids, and what I want them to look for in a dress.
I made 5 boxes and it actually took quite a bit of time. Once I was done I invited the girls over for dinner and drinks at my apartment. After dinner I gave each of them their box and am happy to say they all said yes!
Unfortunately, the only photos I have of the boxes are the ones that 2 of my bridesmaids posted on instagram.
Post # 3
I made a little booklet to go along with a ‘Bridesmaid’ photo-manipulation I did:
Post # 4
I did nothing 🙂 When I saw them, I just asked them. They have all been my best friends for years, they knew we were getting married and knew that they would be the people I asked. I think as you get older, I’m 38, you just ask the people who are important. I didn’t even really know this was a thing until I was engaged and came on weddingbee.
Post # 5
I don’t have any pictures to share, but I gave/mailed them each a 4×6 picture of us (meaning the Bridesmaid or Best Man and me at some point in our lives) and wrote a message to them on the back about how I know I can count on them to help me with various things in the wedding. I ended with “You’ve been there for me through [fill in history with friend], will you be there for me on the most important day of my life? Will you be my bridesmaid?”
P.S. They LOVED it. 2 of the 3 cried. The other one is a serious cynic but even admitted that it was cute. 🙂
Post # 6
I made my own box and sent each of my girls (I only have 2) a necklace that I made to suit their individual tastes in my wedding colors. I asked them by using a poem I altered to include specific things about our friendships. I plan on giving them matching earrings, along with a wristlet, a macaron coin purse, a mini emergency kit and some gift cards as thank you gifts. I decided to include their invites as well since they both will have to travel from CA to attend my wedding in NC.
The gift boxes were made out of old cardboard that I cut, shaped, glued and decoupaged.
I’m actually an older bride at 32 (will be 33 and the first marriage for Fiance and I), but my girls still appreciated it. I LOVE WB for giving me the idea to ask like this!!!! So thank you to all the creative bees, I would love to see what everyone else did.
Post # 7
@gangqinjia: That is so sweet and so personal – I love it! I had wanted to put a photo of the Bridesmaid or Best Man and I in each of the boxes but I didn’t get them printed out on time.
Post # 8
@kobecakes: I saw the box on Pinterest and I loved it! I, too, have been thinking about unique ways to ask my bridesmaids. I did like the Ring Pop in the little box idea, but this ideas has a lot more information.
I also did consider making people-shaped cookies decorated in their respective bridesmaid dresses.
I just don’t know. So many ideas!
Post # 9
Perhaps I’m crazy, but I asked three of mine through a text, ha! I wanted to give them a chance to think it over (since they are travelling cross country) without any pressure like there would be if I were to hand them a package, ask them in person, or over the phone. I did ask the other two over the phone when I called to let them know I was engaged. But that’s only because I KNEW they would say yes.
For what it’s worth, though, these are all lovely ideas!
Post # 10
I took them all to the restaurant where we had our first date. I had a violinist play “our song.” I told them I would not be the person I am without them, that they have changed me – made me better. I made them blush when I spoke of the first time we made love – how it moved me in a way the act never had before. Then I got down on one knee, took out three ring pops, and said, “Will you be my bridesmaids?” They wept. I have found “the ones.” The one girl who has been my friend a long time even though we aren’t necessarily all that similar any more, the girl who I’ve become pretty close with from work who I get drunk with a couple times a month, and my one friend from college who looks good in pictures – my soul mates!!
Post # 11
I “unofficially” asked all my girls within a day of getting engaged which ended up being a HUGE mistake, but that’s another story for another time.
To make it “official”, I made personalized scrapbooks for each of my ladies. You know, pictures of the two of us through the years with funny stories to go along with them. My Maid/Matron of Honor got an “extra-special” one, but all of them ended with a full page “Will You be My Bridesmaid?”
I still don’t know if all that work was worth it, but with a two year long engagement, it was nice to do a small wedding related project before all the fun began to get things going.
Post # 12
This is how I asked my 3 sisters
Post # 14
Yeah I did nothing. Called Maid/Matron of Honor to tell her I was engaged, and she was like “Awesome! I get to be a MOH!”
She’s been my best friend for like 17 years, it was a given that she would be Maid/Matron of Honor. I didn’t even ask, haha.
Post # 15
@the_future_mrs My sister did the same thing! The rest of the girls got a ring pop in a box that said [FI’s name] popped the question, now it’s my turn…and the inside say will you be my bridesmaid. I was lucky to get to give them in person to 3 of my BMs, but had to send the other by mail. They all loved it.
Post # 16
When I went to Jamaica, I picked out a gift each. I had them come over for a ‘ladies lunch’. I made cards with their names outside and inside saying ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’ I pretended they were place cards, and that the gifts were just to be souvenirs. I waited anxiously for someone to open the card. It took 2 of the 3 courses before my sister finally did and made everyone open their card. They all got up and hugged me and they were so happy and surprised. I actually just laughed thinking about it. It was so fun!