Post # 1
What did you do before you officially starting trying to conceive? Vacations? Special health concerns? Finances? New medication? Did you tell your doctor you were going to start trying – or do you just START?
We’d like to start TTC towards the end of 2014, but I’m kind of a control freak and I want to make sure I have all our ducks in a row before we start trying. I’ve been reading the book “What to Expect BEFORE you’re Expecting” and it’s kind of overwhelming me. The book suggests having my husband and I both go through various health screenings, tests, bloodwork, special dental exams, and interviewing most of our family about potential hereditary illnesses that run in the family with the possibility of additional testings if certain diseases/illnesses run in the family. Also gives suggestions on diet and extra vitamins/herbal supplements to take. Lot’s more that I can’t think of at the moment. I get anxiety everytime I sit down to read this book!
I have my next ob-gyn appointment in September and I plan on telling my doctor I’d like to go off of my BC pill because we are going to try and conceive within the next year or so. Will she guide me and let me know what I need to do in preparation? Or am I on my own?
I really want to do everything I can to have a healthy baby. I didn’t think that pre-TTC was this complicated and I’m getting overwhelmed! What were the “must-do’s” that you did before you started TTC?
Post # 3
I would put that book down until you’re actually pregnant, lol. That book would scare the hell out of me right now.
I started a prenatal vitamin (which you could start now or a few months before TTC), got my teeth checked (to make sure I didn’t need any dental work done since you really can’t have any done that I know of), and I made sure that Darling Husband and I were ready for the financial aspect of it (we bought a house in the spring).
You can never be truly ready I don’t think. We really didn’t think we were, and then all of a sudden we went from “yeah, we will start trying in late fall” to trying RIGHT NOW.We just felt ready and the time feels/felt right.
Some women get pregnant right off BC and some women don’t (I am on cycle 4 of trying). I suggest going off in Sept and then start charting at Fertility Friend. The reason being that if you guys start to try and you can’t get pregnant, you have a chart to go off of that will really help your doctor identify the issue. I haven’t utilized the Bees yet, but lots of Bees share their charts to gain information about their ovulation dates so they can conceive easier.
Post # 4
@AlliMayWedding: I talked to my doctor last year to just see what suggestions she had. All she said was, “Start taking prenatal vitamins a few months before, get off the pill three months before you plan to start trying…then go for it.” She didn’t tell me I had to do any screenings, tests, or anything else. So, I got off the pill in Feb, we waited a cycle, then started trying. This is cycle 4 for us.
Like @megz06 said, STAY AWAY FROM THAT BOOK. I find all of that stuff just stresses me out. If you’re on the pill, start charting once you get off (Fertility Friend is great to use), that way you can watch your BBT and *hopefully* make it easier for you once you start. Good luck!
Post # 5
If you don’t want to start ttc until late 2014, I would maybe suggest not going off the pill until 2014, maybe 4-6 months before you plan to start, to get your cycles regulated and do some charting. I don’t know why you’d need to get off the pill in Sept. of this year…seems a little soon to me. But if you’d be okay with an oops in the year leading up to when you were planning to start then that’s your choice. 🙂 I’m a planner too; we’ll start ttc in late 2014 as well and I don’t plan on going off my pill until like July-August of 2014.
As far as what to do before that time, I’d say go on some vacations, especially places you might not take little ones. We went to Vegas this summer, and I’d love to go back to Mexico next year for a little beach get-away. Other things are fixing up our house to make it cozy and ready for a family, making sure our meds and yearly appointments are all in order, try to be healthier and more active, and enjoy a few wild nights out with friends while we’re still young and childless! 😉
Post # 6
Commenting to follow. I am also planning to TTC late 2014. I have been off BC for medical reasons for 2 years and I have regular periods (pretty much the same day each month). Do you think I should start charting now so I can be sure I O regularly?
Post # 7
Thanks for all of the tips/advice, this is great and makes me feel a lot less anxious about the whole process!
Little background info: September of this year does seem early… but before I was on BC pills I had a very irregular period. To the point where I could go 4-6 months without having a period. I also had a vaginal ultrasound at that time that confirmed I have PCOS. Right now, BC pills have been prescribed as my only treatment for PCOS, so I know I’ll have to be prescribed a new med once I’m off the BC, and then wait and see how my body reacts to it to know if I can continue with the new medication. And then hope that I’m ovulating more frequently than every few months! Basically just trying to give myself as much time as possible so I’m not saying “I wish I would’ve known this earlier…” to myself.
Several years ago when I was diagnosed with PCOS my doctor straight up told me that I shouldn’t wait too too long to try and get pregnant if I wanted children because there’s a good chance it will be very difficult for me. <– Huge, huge, fear that has hung over my head since the day she told me that.:/
If anyone else was in a similar situation before TTC and has any insight, I’d love to hear it!