(Closed) How did you split the guest list?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We were allowed to invite immediate family, aunts, uncles and first cousins. Then we invited our own friends. It wasnt a I get #, he gets #. It was based on relation. He ended up having many more people at the wedding due to his large family.


Any space leftover after that was split evenly for parents friends etc. 

Post # 4
9218 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We made of list of who we thought were each side’s “must-haves” (our aunts & uncles, cousins, grandparents, godparents, parents’ close family friends, etc).  Then we asked our families if we’d forgotten anyone.  We didn’t try to keep it equal and my family’s side has almost twice as many guests due to more family members, etc.  Nobody cares and there’s been no drama – everyone just wants the important people in our lives to be there.  However, we’ve been together for 10+ years so we are really close with each other’s families, etc.

Post # 5
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We decided to invite all immediate family and then one degree out: moms, dads, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, first cousins, and grandparents. Then we gave each of our parents 10 seats for anyone else they wanted. We got the rest of the list for the two of us.

We invited 113 people (81 came, including us). Our venue could hold 100, absolute maximum.

  • Family: 14 immediate (including us) + 39 extended = 53
  • Bridal Party and their SOs: 9 (including minister & his wife)
  • Family Guests:23 (my mom ended up getting an extra 3 after some negotiation)
  • Our Guests: 28


Post # 6
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

we invited all immediate family, family friends, and then our friends. his immediate family is larger than mine, my family friends are larger than his, and we have an equal amount of friends. it all worked out in the end.

now, who will come/be able to come? that’s another story. i’m trying to work our guest list out at the moment.

Post # 7
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We split it evenly. So we have a 300 people limit that we decided on.

My parents get to invite 100 people of their choosing, his parents get 100, and Fiance and I get 100.


We just mailed out Save-The-Date Cards and we found that Fiance and I couldn’t really think of 100 friends to invite! Makes me feel like a loser!

Post # 8
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fiance and I both added all the family either of us cares about (immediate, grandparents, aunts, uncles, 1st cousins), all of our friends, and each of our parents gets 6 seats. So far no guests list drama. we’re at 91 guests. I have no idea if I have more guests or if he has more guest because we really didn’t think about it that way.

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