Post # 1
I saw a thread earlier about giving BMs jewelery and everyone was saying that you should tell them in advance so they don’t plan/buy their own jewelery.
i was having this dilemma too because i was planning to give them their gifts as surprises a couple of days before the wedding. but i figured i was going to have to say “you don’t HAVE to wear it”….but the thing is, i really want them too! i just felt i couldn;t expect them too since they might have already had something in mind.
but now i am hearing this concept of telling them in advance that you have jewelery for them. and i was just wondering – any special way to do this? call them? mass email them? (i have six). send them a cute note?
here is what i got them. and i thought it would go cute with their dresses, which are all different, so this would be the thing they have in common.
Post # 3
I told them to only worry about getting their shoes and dress. Any time they asked about jewelry I said “that’s been taken care of. Don’t worry about it.”
Post # 4
@JoJo Bananas: maybe i am paranoid, but i feel like they might get annoyed with me, like i am trying to dictate too much? thats also why i was going to give the “choice”. but then again, i gave them freedom to choose their dress, just had to be the color i picked. my thinking was i cant tell them to wear a specific dress unless i buy it for them, which i couldnt afford to do. but with the jewelery, i DID buy it for them, so maybe i shouldnt be so worried?
Post # 5
@dynamic_duo: I recieved jewelry to wear for the wedding from my SIL and honestly was happy to get it. That way I knew exactly what she wanted me to wear. I wouldn’t have bought anything without clearing it with her anyway. Plus I really liked the jewelry so it was an added bonus!
Post # 6
@Mrs.tobe: I am going to give jewelry as part of their gift as well. I just told them that when they are picking out their dresses, they need to keep in mind that they will be wearing a necklace. (and earrings and hopefully a bracelet as well) they all seem to be excited to see what I come up with!
Post # 7
@kimberlysnyder08: maybe i will take that approach then, i’ll send a group email and try to get them all excited about free jewelery.
Post # 8
i think you can just say in your email, make sure to get your dress, shoes, etc. but don’t worry about the jewelry. or you can say i prefer if no one wears any jewelry on the wedding day and then they’ll be surprised when you have it for them.
Post # 9
@pamplemousse: ohhhhh, saying that you don’t want to them to wear jewelry is a gooooood idea!
Post # 10
When we were picking out dresses I just told them I’d buy them earrings.. I’m going to surprise them with robes though too
Post # 11
I just told them not to bother with jewelry, and then gave them some. It was simple.
Post # 12
giving gifts to the bridal party is usually done at the rehearsal dinner. however, you shouldn’t expect your bridesmaids to wear the gift for your wedding day. the gift is simply to express your appreciation for their participation in your day. the best thing to do is give them the jewelry to wear for the wedding, and purchase new gifts to present them; ones with no strings attached.
Post # 13
I just told my BMs early on when we were discussing hair/makeup etc that I was buying them earrings as a present. I think this made things easier so there was no confusion about them needing to buy jewellery.
Post # 14
My BF’s Mother-In-Law makes jewelry and she even showed me ahead of time, heck I think all of us saw it for making sure necklace was right length. She gave us that, some cute bags that matched her colors and some slippers to waer while getting ready cause she saw them cheap and cute…
Post # 15
When they asked about attire for the wedding I said “Your dress, black shoes, do something with your hair and, oh yeah…don’t worry about jewelry. That’s taken care of. Now, forget I just said that.” *sly wink* They got the point, and they Loved the jewelry!
Post # 16
its nice to get them jewerly, but if you want them to wear it at your wedding it’s not really a gift for them, but a gift for you.
When I was in a wedding I got jewerly to wear, but that was not my gift. It’s not really if I am expected to wear it.