Post # 1
How did you tell your coworkers you got engaged?
I came in and told a number of people I got engaged right away, those I talk to/knew it was going to happen soon/I knew would be excited etc, but how did you tell other people? I think it is weird to be “how are you” “good, engaged”. I work with a lot of men too, so would they even care? I feel like I should tell people (I’m exicted!) but I haven’t said anything for a week because it seems everyone is busy and I’m getting the ring resized so it’s not like they can say oh, exciting let’s see the ring, it kind of makes it less real until they can see it. Should I just wait for people to see the ring and notice?
Note: I’m a very quite person in general so it is awkward for me a bit no matter what.
Post # 3
@jmLL: I didn’t, the ones that noticed my engagement ring asked….the rest..who cares?
Post # 4
Not engaged yet and I plan NOT to tell my coworkers at all. I’ve read too many horror stories about people being offended and in turn making brides to be miserable or uncomfortable. I even know of a girl who had to quit her job after her wedding because she didn’t invite her boss and her boss couldn’t get over it. Too much drama.
Post # 5
I’m not engaged yet, but it’s going to happen in a few months. I’m friends with a lot of my coworkers and I carpool with three of them, so I know when they ask how my weekend was (SO and I are in an LDR and only see each other on the weekends) I’ll tell them I got engaged! And, of course, that will spread throughout our office like wildfire. Ha ha
Post # 6
I am very quiet too, when I first went into work after getting engaged I was hoping someone would notice the ring so I wouldn’t need to say anything. But they didn’t so that afternoon I told my supervisor, a few of my coworkers overheard and it spread around our team 🙂 (worked in a large company in the finance department and the ‘teams’ all sit together.)
Post # 7
I didn’t go out of my way to tell my coworkers. I’m friends with a couple of them on Facebook, and I’m pretty sure one of those people told a few of coworkers (which I was fine with). A couple of people I told because it came up in conversation (we were talking about vacations, and I mentioned a honeymoon). I’m sure plenty of them have no clue I’m engaged, and I’m perfectly happy with that. They’ll find out when they notice I’m gone for two weeks, if they even notice!
I definitely didn’t make some big announcement (like one of my coworkers did when she was pregnant, and then proceeded to talk about nothing but her pregnancy until she went out on maternity leave. I didn’t want to be like that about my wedding).
Post # 8
Honestly, I think it’s kind of weird to announce it to co-workers. There were people who noticed my ring and asked, but I didn’t come out and say it. I felt like I would be rubbing it in their faces or bragging. That’s how I would feel (that they were seeking attention) if someone announced it without my asking.
Post # 9
I sent out a mass text at the time… The rest just found out when they asked how winter break was. ( I’m a teacher.)
Post # 10
Posted it on FB. I had been on maternity leave for 3 weeks. I think a lot of them still didn’t realize until I was back and started mentioning wedding stuff…I still have coworkers noticing my ring for the first time!
Post # 11
Just let the ring do the talking
Post # 12
Like PP, those I’m close to or noticed I told. To heck with the rest!
Post # 13
I waltzed in on my day off wiggling my sparkley fingers and grinning. (I work as a sous chef in a retirement home.) All of us coworkers are pretty friendly so I got all smiles and a couple of hugs. It was awesome.
Post # 14
Thank you all! I was feeling kind of bad that I wasn’t running around and telling people, but hey they are coworkers and not family or friends. So thank you for putting my mind at ease.
@BruinBeeMPH: Uh, quiting over it- horrible! That is one of the first things I’m trying to be clear about, that it will be small.
@Jacqui90: This seems to be how mine will go too. Tell some people and just let the rest find out.
@newcitylights: I agree! I don’t want to feel like I’m bragging to those single or non married girls in the office. I’m not one of those people who are dying to get married, but still there are some girls I know who are really waiting for that.
Post # 15
@jmLL: oh and also there is a girl in my office who was recently married. She invited the people in the office she is close to and people who did not get invited were definitely bitter, even though they aren’t close. I heard some rude remarks about her behind her back. People are weird! Or maybe it’s just the people in my office 🙂
Post # 16
i told only close co-workers, but then word spread around like wildfire! But the only thing i didnt like was everyone knew and it was exciting, but some ppl do weddings and dj etc as a side gig, and wanted me to use their services and i didnt want to hurt anyone’s fellings b/c i already had vendors in mind who i’d want to use. I swear I had a guy ask me about him dj my wedding about a million times, until finally i just told him we were going with a band… So other than that, it was really fun to have ppl excited for you and drooling over the ring!