How did you tell your parents/family you were engaged?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

missmacaylah:  Congrats and how exciting!  I think having everyone gathered is a great idea since it’s more personal and you get it out all at once.

We didn’t do a planned announcement.  FI proposed to me in front of his family while we were visiting them for Christmas, and his mom was the only one who knew about it.  My parents knew about it too since he asked them for permission and bought the ring from my mom, but they didn’t know exactly when he was planning on doing it.  I called my parents right after the proposal and they spread the word to rest of the family, but all of my cousins found out after I changed my FB status. 😉

Post # 4
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

missmacaylah:  I ended up calling my parents who knew because my DH was so excited he couldn’t hold it in and had to tell someone, lol. They were over the moon excited anyway.

We took his mom out to eat and didn’t say anything. I just kept showing my left hand off, and finally DH oculdn’t take it anymore and said, “Mom! Look at Megz’s hand!” She freaked out with excitement. My FIL just said “Oh.” Lol. We don’t expect much out of him though.

Post # 5
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We had been planning to get engaged for a while, and he was having my ring custom made from a jeweler in Los Angeles.  When the ring was finally shipped and he picked it up (week before he proposed), I had left for work.  He went over to my parents’ house right after he picked up the ring from FedEx, walked in the door (they were having dinner), and said “So uhm I’m gonna ask your daughter to marry me!” Haha, I wish I could have been there.  My mom was SHOCKED (happy of course)!  

So they already knew. He planned the proposal on the beach at sunset on our vacation, so he told everyone in advance.  He proposed the second night we were there, but we wanted to officially tell our family in person even though they knew he was going to do it. <br />We got home, and were talking to my parents when my mom suddenly grabs my hand and screams! Haha, so we didn’t even get a chance to officially tell them. 🙂

Post # 6
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

🙂 congrats! 

we called everyone – I called my parents and said “well, I guess you’ve been waiting for this call for about two weeks” (he had asked their permission) and my mom screamed! Then we called his parents, our siblings, our grandparents and our close friends. We emailed close family and then posted a pic later in the evening on Facebook. I think everyone was happy with the way we announced it. 

Post # 7
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

He asked my dad permission first (very important to us) then I just text my mom a pic of the ring since they already knew

Post # 8
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

missmacaylah:  He asked my mom’s permission and was having her stone reset, so she knew.  She didn’t tell a SOUL for 2 months.  He didn’t tell her WHEN he was doing it so she was in as much suspense as me!  Anyway, it was no surprise when he did – we were on vacay and when I called my mom I tried to act non chalant.  She told me later that EVERY time I called her from our trip she thought it was going to be to say he proposed lol.  

I sent out a mass text to a bunch of close friends and my aunt and uncle, who we were going to visit the next day (and my family met him for the first time).

Nothing on facebook until ALL of our friends and family knew personally, then we had an engagement party a couple months later.  My mom wanted to put an announcement in the paper (she’s so one of those!) but we lost track of it and now the wedding is in 2 mos.  Oh well!  

We’ve been together for over 4 years and are in our 30’s, so it came as no shock haha.  

Post # 9
2791 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

I texted my dad a photo of the ring and he gave the phone to my mom asking her why I was sending him a photo of my nails. Haha. I texted all the important people and then just posted it on facebook a couple hours later. 

Post # 10
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

amberback:  this exactly what my dad would do. haha

Post # 11
4591 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My FI proposed at his sisters house, right before family was supposed to come over for supper before we went to a annual hockey game event. His parents were there, as well as mine… so that’s how we told them.

Wehen my parents, arrived, I brought them downstairs so we could tell them privately – since everyone else that had come to the house was upstairs.

Post # 12
6459 posts
Bee Keeper

FI told his family he was going to propose on Memorial Day weekend, so the night of our proposal he emailed them with a picture from right after he proposed. I usually talk to my parents on the weekend, so since he proposed on a Saturday, I just told them over the phone.

Post # 13
3118 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

missmacaylah:  My FI planned on taking me to a historic park to propose, so before he left, he let my parents know what was going on. He said he had told everyone the night before and to expect an excited phone call from me after a certain time. So, we walk around the park, FI gets down on one knee, I sob in excitement, start making my calls, and…nothing.

I called my mother. No answer.

I called my father. No answer.

Called two sisters and one brother. No answer.

He called his parents, sister, and brother. Nada.

I call my best friends. Nothing.

I remember sitting with him on a bench after getting the seventh voicemail in a row and just kind of being like, “Huh.” It was very anti-climatic, but then I started to appreciate having this special moment with him for a few more minutes. I got to look at the ring, to tell FI I loved him one more time before the flood of phone calls came rushing in. 

Post # 14
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was hoping he would do it in Hawaii and his stepdad and his wife and the lady like my mom were assuming it would happen there! I told him months ago that I would not tell social media until at least the next day because I wanted us to have that day together. He proposed on our hike of Diamond Head and once we got in the car I texted my bestfriend and lady like my mom and his stepdads wife. A little later he called his stepdad and told him, who was at his grandparents house so thats how they found out! He had also called his dad that morning when he went next door to get coffee because he said he was freaking out and had to tell someone haha The next day I put it on instagram! I was waiting to tell my grandpa in person when we got home 2 days later, but I found out when we landed that he had passed away the night before right after we took off from Hawaii. 

Post # 15
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

He proposed and then told me he and his parents invited my family and our close friends over for a small engagement party. I called my mom, sister and best friend and he called his mom right after he popped the questions. I didn’t really have to, because they all already knew, but I wanted to. I made it “Facebook official” that night.

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