Post # 1
I feel like a serial poster since this will be my second post this week already. I posted yesterday http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-tell-my-bff#axzz2gTZPc9dP on if I should tell my BFF that I’m pregnant.
She came over, we took a walk, and she talked the whole time. She is one of those people that, once she gets started talking, she can’t really reach her off switch. So I was holding on to this suprise for a whole 30 minute walk AND 45 minutes of talking on the couch.
Finally, she was like, “Oh gosh it is getting late. I should go.” Well, my husband had just come home, so I quickly grabbed his hand and said, “Well, before you go I have to tell you that we’re going to be parents in April.” Her eyes got huge, she smiles even bigger, and goes, “OMG you shithead!” Which I took as her being happy for me (she was like why didn’t you interrupt me!!), lol. She gave me a big hug and was just in that girly, squealing stage.
She ended up giving me several more hugs before she left and expressed how happy she was for us. She even texted me this morning and said she is already planning on how to do my baby card and quilt.
So how did your BFF react? Did you get more or less of a reaction from her/him that you expected?
**Please note I do not want this to become a “the world doesn’t revolve around your news” post, so be respectful of other’s stories if it was less of a reaction, and they were disappointed. Thank you.
Post # 3
My friends are in their early 20s and dislike kids, so they were happy for me, but nothing super huge. The best reaction was from my Dad, who cried his big Italian-Trucker-from-Brooklyn eyes out!
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
I have three girls I consider my best friends (for very different reasons). One was very whatever about it but she had her suspicions so it wasn’t a surprise. One was very excited as i had been telling her we were gonna start trying. The third is my oldest friend and she was very emotional, excitedly crying which was so so sweet and appreciated 🙂
Post # 5
@megz06: Can I just say that you sound like a saint to this friend? Really, you do. You give a lot and I am not seeing that you get back very much. You are so sweet, I hope she comes through for you.
Post # 6
My BFF was over the moon happy! My college roommate knew that through college and even throughout my 20s I was not a fan of kids and may or may not ever have my own… so when I told her I was pregnant she got a weird look and said, “Umm,… congrats if it’s a good thing and I’m sorry if it’s not?” hahaha, it was like she didn’t know if it was a good thing or not! Once I told her it was planned and we were really excited she was happy for us lol.
Post # 7
Our friends were all insanely excited. They all had kids already (we were one of the last in our “group” to).
No one was expecting it to happen so soon with us, so they were genuinely excited and happy for us 🙂
Post # 8
My bestie has been nagging me to have a baby since we got married so she was texting me at least once a week at the time to check if i was preggie yet. hahaha, eventually I just sent her a piccie of the postitve test and she said “ewww does that have your pee on it???? hahahahaahaha
and then 20 secs later another text “holy eff congratulations!!!!”
then a few seconds later she rang me and we talked. We live a fair way away from each other so I would never have been able to hold out to tell her face to face while she was asking so often.
Post # 9
@megz06: ha! Something similar happened with my sister. She went on and on about her night out the night before and some drama at the hotel she was staying at for about 20min until she asked what was going on w me. When I told her she was like I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU LET ME GO ON AND ON!!!
My BFF didn’t have a great reaction and still hasn’t and I’m 7mos 🙁
Post # 10
@megz06: My BFF guessed when I didn’t drink at a party she had, so a few days later she called me up to ask me if I had any “news” to share lol. She was so super excited for us. My other best friend was a little underwhelmed with the news which I totally expected and is totally fine. She’s kind of in a rough spot right now though so I totally get why she’s sort of blah about the whole thing.
Post # 11
@BrandNewBride: Daddy’s are the best. My dad is a Vietnam War vetran, so his personality is a little….unpredictable at times, but he gave me a big hug, and he often asks how I am feeling. He is also probably the most concerned. it’s adorable.
@MrsPanda99: Thank you. I suppose I can see why you have that point of view when a lot of my posts lately have been bitching about her/her husband. I could make a grand list of reason why she is a good friend. She truly is, but she does have some issues with her marriage I found out last night, so that may be feeding into her personality a little bit. I am hoping she does come through, and we can hang out more. I think her being with her husband every waking moment of the day (because they even work together, yikes) is not helping at this point.
@mamadingdong: Does sound very similar! I have never been one to interrupt either, but apparently our friends wanted us to, lol. I hope your other BFF comes around. Perhaps when the baby comes?
Thanks, everyone! You all have some great stories. I am seeing that early 20s people don’t care, lol. My friend who is 25 was excited, and my friend I talked about in the post is now 28 and has wanted kids since she was 19, so I suppose that is where her enthusiams comes from.
Keep on sharing!
Post # 12
My BFF knew we were trying so every time I saw her she’d ask me if I was knocked up yet. When I told her yes, she went in to shock mode and then whacked me super hard on the arm for not telling her sooner ha! I had only found out earlier that day. She was super excited and in shock!
Post # 13
Oh and when we told DH’s best female friend we had just picked her up to take her out to dinner for her birthday. Because we wanted the dinner to be about her we told her in the car on the way there and she screamed so loud I swear the back seat rocked…..
Post # 14
When my BFF told me she was pregnant….i totally knew it was coming. She invited me over out of the blue during a time when i am SUPER busy at work and she knows that so it was a little odd since it was like “when are you free in the next week?”.
I started screaming and saying “I KNEW IT! You know how much i knew it?” and then ran to my purse and grabbed a baby onsie and cocoa oil i bought for her LOL.
Post # 15
@marzipanda: Lol that is great. We found out the morning of my BFF’s wedding, so I told her that was the reason I didn’t say anything. It would have been horribly rude of me!
@Swizzle: I like the perspective from you as the BFF! Thanks for sharing. You already had stuff ready in your purse even!!
Post # 16
@megz06: This thread makes me feel bad about the way that I reacted to a good friend’s pregnancy. Granted, her marriage has been EXTREMELY rocky and just a few months before she got pregnant she was talking divorce. She had brought up with me that she and her husband were going to start trying, and I very gently suggested that maybe they should go slow with this since they were already on shaky ground. She said I was right and, and she was just getting ahead of herself, and she was going to give it another year to make sure things were going the way she wanted.
Two months after that conversation, she told me she was pregnant and I just couldn’t muster up the excitement that I should have. I guess I was just shocked and concerned but to this day I still feel bad that I probably didn’t deliver on the reaction she was hoping for.