Post # 1
*Sigh* So my DOC, Photographer, and FI have convinced me for timing sakes to do a first look. I can’t say I am thrilled but I haven’t really looked into them so can you tell me/show me all about yours?
ALSO the photographer wants the bridal party in the background and my MOH/FSIL is pretty adament she wants to witness it as well. Would that be weird? Shoud parents be there too then?
Post # 3
Tagging in. I’m interested to see how this works as well
Post # 4
No one but the photographer will be witnessing our first look. The GMs would be annoying so we’re just having the limo pick us up (him blindfolded) until we get to the garden, he’s lead to the middle of the bridge turned around and I’ll walk up behind him. After we’re dropped off the limo will pick up the wedding party and bring them over for the wedding party pics. I’d feel super awkward if the parents were there and wouldn’t be myself.
Post # 6
@excitedtobeMRSF: I don’t think its necessary for them to be in on the first look, but we certainly had onlookers. My MOH carried my train for me. DH had his back turned to me. MOH made my train all nice, and then DH turned around, and we had the first look.
Honestly I don’t think my MOH or anyone else being there took away from the first look. However, if the photographer wants it to happen that way because he/she wants a photo where everyone is looking then I find it weird. I didn’t want my first look planned that way. Besides, that is your moment. Not your family’s/wedding party’s.
Post # 7
@excitedtobeMRSF: We’re planning to have our first look include us and the photographers. That special, private moment is something we are both looking forward to very much. I’d feel awkward having onlookers and so would FI.
Plan what makes you feel comfortable!
Post # 8
@excitedtobeMRSF: For my sisters wedding, they did it on a bridge type setting (hard to explain, it wasn’t actually a bridge…) but they were together in that area, and the bridal party was kind of hiding behind 1 of the photographers…I think the groomsmen were on the other side but I’m not 100% sure.
Post # 9
@MrsN14: I think your plan sounds lovely. My FI wants the first look because he feels hed be more comfortable crying then as opposed to at the ceremony so he thinks if we do the first look he can hold it together more for the ceremony. I think having a crowd will make him feel awkward at the first look then too! I was planning on walking down this giant swirling staircase to my FI turned around at the bottom and if the bridal party is there hide them deep in the background under the balcony so we cant see them! I am a people pleaser by nature so I feel pulled in all sorts of directions over this!
Post # 10
We did a mock ceremony type thing. The bridal party went and stood in their places, my husband stood where he would stand for the ceremony, and our parents stood where they were going to sit for the ceremony. Then my dad walked me down the aisle! It was very special just being with the most important people in our lives for that and my dad was still able to walk his baby girl down the aisle before my husband saw me. If that makes sense. My dad wasn’t really into taking pictures beforehand but this helped him 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
We had the first look right before all the wedding party photos, so everyone was hanging around.
I will say that I’m not a huuuuge fan of the tapping on the shoulder thing lots of people do, so instead I had hoped he would stand around a corner (we were outside by a lighthouse!) and be facing my direction, but wouldn’t see me until I reached the corner. Instead, he ended up facing away from me, and when I got close-ish, i yelled “You can turn around now!” which wasn’t nearly as graceful or elegant as I hoped.
Post # 12
pshhhh I think the first look is super sweet and private between you and your FI – I had a blind folded first look and I just wanted it to be me and DH and a photographer… it turned out that I forgot the super cute blind fold up stairs and so my photog just used a nearby napkin and tied it on half hazardly… regrets, regrets… oh well!
Here’s a little photo recap:
and then here in our wedding video its cute to see DH sigh cuz he was nervous and see us both smile and giggle a little – fastforward to :40 for just the first look: https://vimeo.com/50395606
I would do it all over again – I loved that we got to spend a second alone and be all excited in our fancy pants outfits together.
Have fun with it!
Post # 13
Ours was completely private. I would not have wanted anyone else there personally.
Post # 14
For ours the photographer led DH to a orange grove and just started taking solo portraits with him, while that was happened his mom came and got me from the bridal suite and led me around the back of the grove to I could walk up from behind him. It was completely private and I honestly would not have wanted it any other way.
Post # 15
@excitedtobeMRSF: I didn’t mind doing the first look at all, but I do wish it had been private. If I could do it over again, no one would have been around but us and the photographers. It toally takes away from the privacy and intimacy of the moment when the bridal party is milling about adjusting things and talking.
ETA: I would stress this even MORE knowing that you aren’t keen on the idea, that you need privacy. And it’s not your FSIL’s “right” to see your first look, she can see a first look on her own wedding day. And the photographers can certainly recreate a photo later on!
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@excitedtobeMRSF: For DH and I, our first look was very private and intimate. I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else there.