Post # 1
I know this questions worn out by now, but I was just looking for opinions from those who have already had people using it or who are done with thier weddings.
I’m not having a shower, and I don’t know weather to expect guests to use this as a shower replacement? Do some people buy gifts off of the registry AND bring a card to the wedding (in our area, people always give cash at the wedding, even after attending a shower). Im in no way hoping i get two gifts from everyone, I’m just sort of weighing out the options of having the registry at all if it all turns out to be the same in the end anyway and is not too much of a gift replacement.
I have to admit we are having fun setting it up and I think most of our guests will react well to it, im just wondering if you had good enough experience to warrrant the PayPal fees – did you have any bad reactions? Did guests use it as a “shower” gift? Did you still get random presents? How did you let guests know about your honeymoon registry? Did you have any good feedback from guests?
Let me know any of your experiences!!
We’re setting up with Honeyfund.
Post # 3
We used a honeymoon registry for our wedding and the guests loved it! I think it’s because we had a small wedding (70 guests) and everyone knew how much my husband and I love to travel. The convenience was definitely worth the PayPal fees — we actually used this new service called Wanderable, which doesn’t even have ads in their free version. It was so pretty and really easy to use — our guests loved it! We didn’t mention our registries at all, but we put a sentence or two on our wedding website, on a subpage, that said “The greatest gift is really your presence at the wedding…” and then tactfully put a link to our honeymoon registry. We didn’t really get random presents at all.
Post # 4
I’ve said this before, so I’ll say it succintly here. I personally hate honeyfund/cash registries/or anything similar. I am more than happy to write a check to the couple, but I, for one, will not participate in the honeyfund type things. But that is only my opinion, and I am very traditional in my opinions on weddings, so not up-to-date with this stuff, I guess. I brought it up with my mother to get her perspective of the honeymoon registries, and she said she wouldn’t give a gift at that point. So, in my circle, they’re frowned upon. That being said, it depends on your circle, whether yourfamily/friends would be receptive, and so on. (I’m not trying to be rude…just voicing the other side of the argument as I see it!)
I don’t think you can expect people to contribute to both the honeyfund registry and give money at the wedding. Like you said, it’s basically two gifts. I think you’ll either get one or the other.
Post # 5
@abbie017: Can I ask why you don’t like them? I’d like to understand your opinion more.
Post # 6
Thanks for posting this post. We are doing a honeymoon registry and I am really hoping this is a successful registry. It would be so helpful to us. We are having a small wedding of about 70 guest 45-50 of those guest are coming in from out of town, so I am hoping people choice this options. We used Honeyfund and so far our guest love the idea, so I hope this use it 🙂 But I am not expecting people to give on both registry. I expect them to use one or the other, like I would do if I was attending someones wedding and they had a honeymoon registry.
Post # 7
@abbie017: I would also like to understand this more. My Fiance and I have lived together for 4 years, we have a house and everything we need. I was just planning on not registering at all and letting people either choose to give us money or a gift that they think is appropriate, how do you feel about that? And I just dont consider giving someone money for their honeymoon offensive, It doesn’t bother me whatsoever.
Post # 8
I did a honeyfund registry as well and I received mostly cash at my bridal shower so I’m guessing it will be similar at the wedding, especially since most of our guests are traveling and my Fiance and I have been together for many years and own a home together already. I’ve heard great things about them and people saying that they got to live like kings and queens on their honeymoon because of people being generous with the honeymoon registry. I’m saving up the money to pay for our honeymoon regardless of what happens with the registry but it wouldn’t definitely be a nice treat to have guests pay for most of it 😉
I’m the opposite of @abbie017, if I’m invited to a wedding with a honeymoon registry and a regular registry I will most likely gift the guests something off of the honeymoon registry! I think it’s way more fun to give guests an “experience” than another THING for their home. Plus there are so many fun ways you can give something like that.
Each to their own, though!
Post # 9
@girlwiththeredhair: Hi, how did you end up with mostly cash for your shower? I wasn’t planning on registering for our wedding but I have no idea what to do for my shower
Post # 10
@Missloveknot: and @scadadle15: I don’t like the honeyfund idea because it’s asking me, as your guest, to pay for your big vacation. Part of the reason is also because alluding to gifts at all is rude, and you do have to advertise the honeyfund (which I know you do with registries as well, but I guess registries has a more tangible outcome?) I will happily write a couple a check for their future, however they decide to spend it, but I the idea of paying for them to swim with dolphins or scuba dive doesn’t sit right with me. I guess in my mind, my gift is for the development of their life together, not a big fancy vacation.
My Fiance and I have lived together for 2 years (it’ll be 3 at the wedding), and we have everything that we need. Having a small registry and encouraging (without asking) for cash gifts is acceptable; it’s actually what I’m doing.
I hope this makes sense?
Post # 11
I think, for me anyway, honeymoon registries are kind of misleading. Let’s say I want to give a $100 gift. If I give the honefund $100, the couple will only end up with some of that money. I think I’m buying you a nice dinner for two, but HoneyFund is actually taking part of my gift due to fees, then giving the couple a lump sum. So not only did my entire gift not make it to the couple, I’ve been led to believe they are having a nice dinner on me, which is not the case.
In some circles, these types of funds work, but in mine they are definitely frowned upon, mostly for taking the fees out of the gifts and for being somewhat misleading. Just my opinion though, for what it’s worth.
Post # 12
@abbie017: So registering for some activities on a honeymoon is offensive but registering for say a blender is fine? Because a blender is going towards our life together? Really? Isn’t making memories with your new spouse just as meaningful if not more so than a blender?
I just don’t understand how a registry for household items is somehow less of a gift grab than a honeymoon registry.
I have both listed on my wedding website but it’s not like we’re printing it in the invitation.
I just don’t understand this reasoning at all.
Post # 13
We made a honeyfund and the reaction from my family (for those who have asked for registry information early) has been tremendous. We are really the first couple to do a “real” wedding in this generations and all of the new things that are available for weddings are kind of being “showcased” at our event. Our families couldn’t be more exicted!
Post # 14
@DaneLady: Honeyfund allows the couple to print a “certificate” and give a check or cash – this does not take anything from the couple. If you chose to pay directly with paypal (which, I imagine, not many people will) it takes a nominal fee out of the contribution. So nominal, actually, its less than tax which arguably is a better use of your money to the couple than paying the state (in AL, at least) 8% off the top.
Post # 15
I will be using a honeyfund because personally, I would find it extremely more meaningful to GIVE a gift specifically earmarked for a honeymoon purpose than to give cash or a blender that was not requested. And it doesn’t matter if it is received as a lump sum, my friends can look at their honeyfund and see that I chose something special that they wanted. Further, not all honeyfund registries take a cut of the gift, and some honeyfund gifts are given directly to the couple and the giver just uses the honeyfund service to earmark what it is for.
Saying “here is my honeyfund” is NO more offensive than saying “here is my registry.” Both things are gifts, and equally polite/impolite. To imply otherwise is just a meaningless semantic argument, imho.
Post # 16
@scadadle15: Like I said, it’s my opinion. I tried to explain it to you, and I don’t appreciate the attitude you’re giving back just because you don’t agree. I’m not knocking you for doing it, I just personally don’t agree with it. It’s not to say I wouldn’t gift at all; if I were a guest at your wedding, I’d simply write you a check. You can then put that check towards scuba diving or towards a rainy day fund or a blender.