Post # 1
I’m not 100% sold on changing my last name to FI’s when we marry but FI’s wanting us to have the same last name-totally understandable. A couple of years ago he said he would be interested in taking my last name- he’s not very tied to his. I have a strong feeling that FMIL will lose it if FI changes his last name but none the less, we are considering this as an option for us.
Whether you took his or he took yours’, how did your IL’s react to the name change? Did any of them freak out? Did they react differently than you were expecting?
Post # 3
My inlaws loved it. I had NO problem changing my name, never was proud of it and have hated it since birth. Dad issues or lack there of. They said they were proud to give me their name and I told my FIL whom I dearly love that I was very proud and honored to take their name.
Post # 4
i didnt change my name and both my mum and MIL dont get it. i tell them im too old to have to learn how to write a entirely new name
i dont like hubbys surname – its too anglo and boring.
Post # 5
You may know that I eventually changed my name, but that it’s been a secret. Seriously, only people who will send me tax forms and my DH know.I didn’t decide until more than a month after the wedding. I use my maiden name (own name!) socially. This probably speaks to how uncomfortable it still makes me.
My IL’s were basically not accepting the fact that I told them that I would not be changing my name. At the wedding, we had not decided what to do, and we both told them that I am keeping my name and we may reconsider later.
I got checks addressed to my new lastname. From the same people that were told what’s up at the wedding. I got a wedding invitation from his cousin that was addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Herb Smith. Not our names, you know, but the same idea — basically this wasn’t following etiquette because it didn’t spell Herbert, but rather Herb, and didn’t list me with my own name even though the STD did. I feel almost like they are sending mail just to write out my name!!
I brought up with him the possibility of him taking my name, even though I didn’t consider it a real possibility, because I wanted him to get an idea of how such a drastic change feels, and it’s not “just a name” like stick and stones… but words can never hurt me.
I really would have though MIL would be accepting of me keeping my name. She told me that I should change it, even if I didn’t want to, because it would be easier. My family has had no problems with it.