Post # 1
Yes, I am married and still DVR Say Yes To The Dress lol
But in watching this show I am sometimes beyond appauled at the reactions and comments of the mothers when these girls fall in love with a dress. I feel like someone needs to tell them that it’s not their wedding. Some of these mothers are so rude and tell their daughters how much they hate the dress and they will look so ugly in it and others try to pick the dress and force the daughter into it even if she hates it.
So what was your experience and how did your mother react when you found “The dress”?
My mother tried so hard not to be opinionated so that I could decide for myself that when I found my dress I wasn’t even sure if she liked it. It was more of a “well what do you think” kind of reaction. A couple of days later we got in a huge fight because I was still upset that she never showed any emotion and my mom voiced that she tried not to give her opinion so I could chose my own dress and that she loved my gown and moving forward it’s safe to say that she showed much more excitement towards my gown.
Post # 3
I agree aout a lot of the mothers on SYTTD. My mother is pretty critical, but not as bad as those women, and I think she means well.
My mother wasn’t with me when I got my dress. My FMIL was with me and didn’t give too strong of an opinion, but she did smile and ooh and ahh 🙂 Like your mom, I think she didn’t want to sway me. I actually like opinions though, IF they can be given without being too critical.
I did go dress shopping with my mom, and she didn’t really react at all. No smiles, nothing. She said she liked one of the dresses that I tried on, everything else she was pretty critcal about and she got into a bit of a size comparison between me and other women in the family, which was annoying.
I sent her a picture of my dress and she all but said she didn’t like it. But, when she came to my first fitting she went on and on about how beautiful it was, how it looked so much different in person, how I picked the perfect dress, etc.
Post # 4
When I found the dress I went with one of my MOHs ONLY. I couldn’t take the stress of trying on dresses for the FIRST time in front of my family.. I would be too concerned about their opinion. I found my dress and then told the bridal store I would have to have my mom see it before I bought it. I brought my mom and grandma, MOH and BM and my daughter the next time around.. much less stressful knowing I had fell in love with the first one I tried on. But I decided to show them more dresses just because it would be the only time I would ever get to do this with them (or in general). The first one I tried on, my mom gave me a smile and nod.. Which is strange because she is VERY VERY VERY critical.. and passive aggressive lol When I got around to putting on “the one” they started saying that all of the dresses were beautiful and that it was so hard to choose. She lived the first one the best but supported me and the one I liked. She didnt cry or anythinig.. but it was perfect for me.
Post # 5
My Mom was great about the dress shopping. The ones that I didn’t like, she didn’t like. I think she gauged what she said based on my face when I came out of the dressing room. My sister was slightly more opinionated but I needed that and she was also super supportive of the dress I fell in love with and bought and tells me what an idiot I am every time I have dress regret :p
Post # 6
Nice to know that you all seem to have had a support system.
@EleanorRigby- I’m glad to hear that it worked out for you.
Post # 7
I also agree about SYYTD moms. They’re terrible! My mom cried when I found my dress. But I had two dresses that I was in love with, and I could tell she really liked one of them better than the other, so she held back all opinions until I picked the one she liked better. Then she burst into tears haha.
Post # 8
My mom loved my dress, it was the 1st one I tried on, But then I tried on dropped waist ball gown by casablanca with chapel train and she loved that one even more than my dress and tried to convince me to get it since its more “bridal” than my mermaid dress. But I had to follow my heart and get the mermaid and once she realized that I was happied in the mermaid she stopped talking about the ball gown and supported me
Post # 9
I agree about the SYTTD moms as well. Some of it must be edited to look that way but hey, what’s said is said. My mom was awesome about dress shopping. I picked out 6 or 8 I wanted to try on, and when I came out in each the first words were “what do you think” and then she told me her opinion. All she really told me was “I have a favorite!”
I narrowed it down to 2 and came back out in those. I came out in her favorite, crying, and knowing that I loved it, that’s when she finally burst into tears saying how beautiful I looked and how much she loved the dress. It was great 🙂
Post # 10
I went dress shopping with my mom, aunt, sister (MOH), and cousin (BM). My mom and aunt loved every dress, but they did give me feedback about which ones they liked best, and my sister and cousin gave me more critical fashion advice, but without being mean. In the end, we all loved the dress I ended up getting (Melissa Sweet Fern). Thank goodness my mom loves it, because it was way more than I was expecting for the dress budget! The price was the only thing holding me back. My mom told me she knew it was The One and I had to get it. I can’t wait for my first fitting in a few days!!
Post # 11
My mom was critical. Kept telling me that everything made me look big. However, the one I chose she did cry when I came out. She’s a jerk about my weight though.
Post # 12
I think they amp up the drama for SYTTD, my dress shopping experience was nothing like that! I brought my mom, FMIL, and one of my BMs and everyone was super supportive during the whole thing. They were the opposite of most of the people on the show–they loved everything! It actually made it kind of confusing.
My mom mentioned when she thought a dress was a little too poufy or over the top, but ultimately she wanted me to pick what I liked best. Luckily we all really liked the one I ended up buying. My mom also surprised me by buying it for me, which was really nice and unexpected.
Post # 13
My mom was kind of “Well, if you like it…”
She’s from out of town, so I actually went with my MOH to look for dresses, thinking I would just find some “contenders.” Well, I ended up falling in love! So when she came with me, I did try on a few other dresses, but I was still pretty sold on that one. I think she was bummed that she didn’t have more influence on my overall dress decision, but she did like it. She did say it was “busy” though (it’s Maggie Soterro’s Geneva, so there’s a lot of beading and lace and whatnot). I love it, of course. But what can you do? I did debate between that dress and another we found that both my mom and MOH really loved, but I was just not sold. I had to go with my heart no matter what anyone said!
But I think if she really HATED it, I would have reconsidered. Mostly because she’s pretty good at knowing what I look good in.
Post # 14
The first time I tried on dresses, I was with a good friend. I found a dress that I really liked and at first thought was “the one.” That night I had a nagging feeling that maybe it wasn’t totally right. Anyway, the next day I was meeting with my mom and dad. They live two hours away, so we met up at a halfway point and I set up an appointment at the only bridal store I could find. Going in there, I wasn’t thinking I was going to find something. My mom and I looked through the dresses and I even tried on a cupcake type dress that the skirt stood up by itself. My mom liked that and I said no! but there was a dress that the consultant chose and I wasn’t allowed to look at it at first. I could tell, though, that it felt really great on. I walked to where there were mirrors and my parents were there. I could tell that my mom thought I looked nice, but I looked in the mirror and I started crying. I knew that this was “the one.” I then looked over at my mom and she was crying too. Suprisingly, we chose the same dress for my wedding day!
On SYTTD, I think the problem with some mothers is that they have a totally different idea of how their daughter will look on her wedding day than what their daughter has in mind. So they don’t like some of the dresses and combine that with not having tact or class in how to tell someone you don’t like something and they sound like horrible. I love watching the show, but it seems like they try to find the most outrageous stuff now for the show and that sometimes annoys me.
Post # 15
My experience was similar to @jenniferstuart: ‘s. My mom is always very supportive and didn’t exactly “love” every dress but she stayed positive the whole time. Smiling “Well, what do you think?” She had an opinion but really wanted ME to love the dress. My sister/MOH and a BM I brought were better with advice, but still stayed away from the negative zone.
Ultimately I bought a dress that day that was being discontinued and heavily discounted… then 4 months later I found and fell in love with another dress totally on my own. Mom was still positive when I told her about and showed her a pic of the new dress. Again, as long as I was happy, she was happy. My sister was a little put-off that I didn’t find “The Dress” with her there, but I think she got over it.
Post # 16
Haha my mom was similar to yours. I tried it on and really liked it, We talked for a while and then I was like, can I get this dress now? This was our first day of dress shopping and at first my mom didn’t want to buy anything too soon, and then she realized we only had 6 months so we better get going! Anyway, she was like, “Sure, is this the one you want?” I said of course it’s perfect what do you think. Her response, “Well I want you to like it but I think it’s wonderful. If you want it that’s what we’ll get.” Very anti-climatic on both of our parts.. but I do love my dress 🙂