How long did you date before moving to one or the others city? We’ve done things sort of backwards. We met by living on the same floor of our college dorm. We lived two hours apart for a little while, and currently, we’ve been living five hours apart for 3.5 years. We have been together for a little over 7 years. He will be moving back home in a few months! 🙂
Did you get engaged first or did that come after you moved? For us, we got engaged first. We wanted to see how the first year would go with him living five hours away. We did well with it. By the end of his second year living so far away, we got engaged.
How supportive were your families? We are fortunate that both of our families have been extremely supportive. I happen to currently live in the town where we both grew up. For Christmas, his parents would give me plane tickets to go visit him. His family actually became much more supportive of me as his girlfriend (now fiancee) because I supported his choice to go away to grad school. My parents are great about shuttling me to the airport, and they have helped with plane tickets every now and then as well.
Who moved to who? You to them or them to you? He will be moving back to me in a few months. With both of our families here, me already having my career going, and opportunities existing here, it was a no-brainer.
What was the hardest part of the LDR? At the start, it was leaving after a visit. I would have airport security asking me if I was okay. I would feel slightly better when I had gotten through security. When my Fiance was back in our college town with our friends and I was at home…that was the hardest part. I would hear stories of him having fun with our friends while I was back home. That stung. Sometimes, I would be wondering what he was doing, and that hurt. Now…it’s definitely wedding planning from 5 hours apart. I recommend avoiding it if you can!
What was the hardest part of moving? For me, it was moving him down to this place where I knew he would be far away and having to smile, even though I was sad he was leaving. I didn’t want to hold him back.
Do you have any regrets? I really don’t. My regrets are coming with wedding planning…letting certain things go for too long. We will have a 22 month engagement by the time this is over. We let a lot of things go for awhile, and all of a sudden, it’s crunch time.
Are you happy with how your LDR worked out? I am. This is actually the second LDR I have been in. The first one was with a different boyfriend, and it was for about 8 months. There were huge differences between LDR 1 and LDR 2. With my current LDR, we both want it to work. We both have put in the effort to call, Skype, travel to see each other, communicate…with the first one, I put in the work, and he didn’t seem to care as much. I am happy with how LDR 2 has worked out. I just wish he was home for more of the wedding planning.
How many of you ended up engeaged to or marrying your LDR? Or why did your LDR end? As mentioned earlier, I am marrying my LDR guy! We’re proof that it can work, but you both have to want it, you both have to commit, and you both have to want to communicate and be honest with each other.