(Closed) How different are you and your SO?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re pretty different.  I’m extroverted, he’s introverted.  I like being outdoorsy, he says the outside “hurts” and would rather be playing Guild Wars or some video game than putting on pants and heading out the door.  I’m fat, he’s skinny.  I’m very jumpy and can be high strung, he’s mellow-freaking-yellow.  I’m ridiculously messy – he isn’t.  I have a job and he doesn’t, hah (I’m reading this outloud as I type and he just punched me :3). His eyes move, mine don’t (he has nystagmus [ouch, another punch]). He’s detailed oriented and no matter how many times I’ve put that on a resume, the fact remains I’ve had to order a new driver’s license 14 times in the last three years.

But we’re similiar in a lot of things.  We have a lot of the same values, same sense of humor, lots of the same tastes in things.  We’re pretty good at compromising and he’s more of a “whatever you think is good” sort of guy, so it works. 🙂

Post # 4
5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

He’s more relaxed and spontanious, I’m more of a planner and way more organized. Other than that though we’re really similar. We share the same views and interests (:

Post # 5
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Let’s see, I was raised Catholic and he was raised geez I don’t even know, but I know he had religion forced down his throat and now it is like pulling teeth to get him to walk in a church.


He is republican to the point he campaigned for Bush 0MG yes!  I am a democrat.


Good example right now – he LOVES the Olympics and they irritate me to the bone.


I could go on……….. but we love each other and that’s all that counts! 


Oh he loves video games and in his late 40s.  Not a big video game fan……

Post # 6
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

How different are we?

Short answer: completely. 

We have some general things in common, i.e. we both love to read, but our preferred genre? Opposite ends of the spectrum, baby. 

Actually….confession: When he first asked me out I almost said no because I thought it would never work due to us having nothing in common. Totally different backgrounds, personalities, etc. But we are deliriously happy in spite of it (or maybe because of it) and have been since day one! 

Post # 7
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

My dearest and I are just alike–except for the 27 year age difference. He makes me feel not so alone and odd (fiscally conservative, socially liberal, Episcopalian, military family, animal loving–and adopting,  with one foot in the “good ol’ boy” world and another in the “refined Southern culture”, globally aware and locally active, lovers of both antiques and IKEA). Of course, our age difference makes us odd all over again! But, we adore each other and our fur family and look to our future together.

Post # 8
790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We have a lot of differences including 15 years in our age (I’m older) but we are totally on the same page with important stuff: religion, politics, how to care for my teenage daughter who lives with us, pets, finances, family. Our differences: he can be pretty lazy around the house and I don’t know how to slow down; I have to handle all our finances because he loves to buy things; I call him a gregarious introvert and I’ll talk to everyone, bargain, negotiate etc. and he’d rather crawl in a hole and come out when it’s all over. I’ll yell when I’m mad and he thinks yelling means people hate each other (I come from an Italian home so we tend to make a lot of noise when we’re angry but then go on as if nothing happened). I don’t think differences matter too much, but I also think you have to be similar on the important issues and only you can determine what those are in your relationship.

Post # 9
3790 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Very different.  We both agree that were we more similar, we wouldn’t even be together.  It’s the differences that make our relationship exciting, and that make us stronger.

Post # 10
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Pretty different in a lot of ways. However, that can be a pretty good thing sometimes–for example, he has challenged me to take risks in my career that I might not have otherwise done; I’ve helped him become more financially responsible. Also, our core values align pretty well, even if the expression of those values can look pretty different.

Post # 11
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We’re so much alike it’s odd. It’s like he’s the male version of me. :O But we get along so well. We never fight. If we disagree, which is rare, we don’t yell about it. We’re pretty laid back. Fiscally conservative, socially liberal, non-denominational Christian, sarcastic/goofy sense of humor, like to exercise, great communicators…

But we do have our differences, like anyone.

My Dearest Love is so generous and caring towards everyone without bias, but still retains this strong male presence and character. It’s something I really respect about him, because I am not like that. I am only extremely generous and caring towards people I consciously have decided to love. I think his character makes him the perfect medic, and it makes me want to improve myself.

B. says that he really admires the way I get excited about the things I’m passionate about, and it pushes him to always try his best when he’s working on a project and to remember that there are so many things in life to be passionate about.

I think if you’ve found someone that makes you want to be a better person for your sake and theirs…I think you’ve found a keeper.

Post # 12
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

VERY different.

We balance each other out. I tend to worry and stress over everything and he brings a sense of calm to me. He’s very logical and I am very emotional. We both love adventure but he’s a little more extreme. I am way more organized and clean. He is not. 🙂

Post # 13
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think Fiance and i balance each other….we have some similarities in the things that matter (our home for one, I completely trusted him to put an offer in on our house since we wanted the same thing), and then when looking for the wedding venue we both had the “this is it” moment when we walked in….

we both have the same goals i life….(to not live pay cheque to pay cheque)

we both LOVE animals (although he loves cute cuddly ones and i love all-snakes and rats included)

we have VERY different tastes in music–he’s into the new “R&B” and i’m a rock chick…mind you we both like country and classic fiddle music! (and we both agree that we need to support canadian artists)

I think we’re different enough that we don’t get on each other’s nerves but can have a good debate….

we are also one of those independent couples….we both go out often without the other….if we did not do that we’d likely kill each other

Post # 14
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

well my partner is bossy and i am not my partner is fairly ridy and I am messy. He can be a the cup is half empty person sometimes where as i can be a cup is half full most of the time.

But we compliment eachother – we are alike in so many other ways and our differences only make us even closer.

Post # 15
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

On a lot of levels, we’re very much the same. But on other levels, we’re very different.  DH is is definitely more practical and more social than I am, but our morals and ideals are right in line with each other. 

Post # 16
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

we are very different, different tastes in music, movies, books, he is atheist, I am Anglican, I see my extended family once a week, he sees his every few months, but somehow we go really well together 🙂

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