Post # 1
I’m starting to get really uncomfortable with this early period before we’re ready to tell people, because it’s becoming obvious when we go out with people. I can only use so many excuses as to why I’m the only one not drinking, and I just feel really awkward.
And I feel like it kind of spoils the ‘announcement’ when everyone will be like ‘uhm yeah, we figured,’
But it’s so early still and we want to wait a bit.
I’d love to hear what the other bees did during this time, at events and stuff and how you handled it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Can you have your Darling Husband buy you a virgin drink when you go out so it looks like you’re drinking maybe? Either way, I’m sure everyone will still be excited for you regardless of what they assume until you do spill the beans :]
Post # 4
You know what it is? It’s that we do a lot of house party stuff, dinners with friends and family – so I have to refuse when they try to serve me a glass of wine or a drink. (which before, I never said no to.) :/ Or my FIL’s favourite after dinner round of Bailey’s, which again we would typically have. It’s the intimate settings that seem to be the most awkward.
I told my Darling Husband that I wanted to lay low for awhile but we’ve had things we’ve had to make an appearance to, and we have birthdays and regular family dinners, so it’s kind of hard to stay in hiding until we’re ready.
Post # 5
I know exactly what you are talking about. Its so awkward i just decided to lay low until we are ready to tell people. We’ve just been saying we have other plans or one of us is sick. Only a couple more weeks to go for me!
Post # 6
What my sister did during family get togethers, was accept the drink, fake sip from it, and then have her husband take a giant gulp from it in another room, or pour some of it out or whatever. She nursed the same drink all night, or when her husband was close to finishing his, they would switch drinks.
It took a bit of coordination with her husband, but it worked for them
Post # 7
@cirk: I was going to suggest this! I think it’s a really good way to keep people from noticing.
Post # 8
cant you just say your not drinking because your trying for a baby? i mean women dont drink right up till they find out thier pregnant right. Then latter be all surprise im pregnant! 😀
Post # 9
I used the excuse I was on antibiotics so I couldn’t drink….
it got me through a few social outings…lol
Post # 10
I said I was doing a diet cleanse, no alcohol and no sugar – it meant I had to skip dessert too but that wasn’t too bad since I could have ice cream when we got home if I wanted 🙂
When I announced only one or two of my friends said they had suspected, most people were totally fooled!
Post # 11
Or you could tell them you have severe heartburn and are following a low- acid diet (no caffeine, no sodas, no oj, no alcohol). I actually do have GERD and have to do this sometimes.
Post # 12
@cirk: Omg, I don’t know why I never even thought of doing this! Good idea
Post # 13
Well, I’m going with the lay low approach but that’s primarily because we managed to not get invited to any social gatherings in the last few months. 🙂 Even if we had been invited out, I’d probably just make excuses to not attend because it’s pretty much impossible for me to lie to someone’s face.
Finally some friends are having people over to show off their new place tomorrow so I’m certain the truth will come out, as I won’t be drinking or enjoying their new hot tub. I’ll be 13 weeks on Sunday so I don’t really mind talking about it at this point.
Post # 14
I carried DH’s beer around for awhile and told people I was Dirty Delete. Apparently that wasn’t very convincing because my uncle said he’d told my aunt he suspected I was pregnant.
We told my parents at 7w3d, told my extended family at 10w2d, and are telling his family at 15w when we are there for Thanksgiving.
Post # 15
@cirk: I did this!
I admit I drink a lot. I’m one of those drink 5 nights a week people who never turns down a beer. So I had no choice but to pretend drink. I’d drink Abita root beers which look like beer bottles, fill up beer bottles with water at parties, press the drink to my lips and then feed my drinks to Darling Husband, DH would make me soda water with lime, etc.
Folks were completely surprised when I finally announced. My sudden drop in booze calories coupled with morning sickness meant I lost weight so folks commented on that. The weight loss helped me also play the “I’m only having two drinks tonight to keep from putting weight back on” story so poor Darling Husband wouldn’t be stuck drinking a pile of my beers.
You can do it!! And congrats!!!
Post # 16
@cirk: That’s what I did at thanksgiving and a couple of other dinnrers with my ILs until we were ready to tell them. Worked like a charm. Works especially well if you both are drinking the same thing.ILs said they had no idea because I was still taking drinks from them, like PP, I would previously never have said no to a drink.