Post # 1
How should I address a wedding invitation to my married lesbian friends? They both have the same last name.
I was thinking of just going with “Jill and Melissa Smith” rather than Ms. and Ms. Smith or Ms. Jill and Ms. Melissa Smith…
What do you think? What is the correct way to go about this? The rest of my invites are formally addressed (ie, Mr. and Mrs. Jones).
Post # 3
I would go with Ms. and Ms. Smith…you don’t want to just use one first name, but they are married so you don’t want to list them separately.
Post # 4
I think that it would be appropriate to list them as Ms. and Ms. Smith.
Post # 5
Since you’re using the formal “Mr. and Mrs.” for others, I would definitely go with Ms. and Ms. for your friends. Unless you think they’d prefer Mrs.?
Post # 6
I think technically you are supposed to write “Mses. Mary and Alice Smith”
Post # 7
I found this on the Frugal Bride. IT also includes afull list of all titles – Doctors etc…
Lesbian Married Couple with the same last name
Outer: The Mesdames Rosie and Kellie O’Donnell (This is the official plural of Madam/Ms)
Inner: The Mesdames O’Donnell
Lesbian Married Couple with different last names
Outer: Mrs. Rosie O’Donnell and Mrs. Kellie White
Inner: Mrs. O’Donnell an Mrs. White
Here’s a link to the full list
Post # 8
@Cariad is right. Although, if they’re friends the inner envelopes could just say “Rosie and Kellie”.
Post # 9
@Cariad: I love that it used Rosie as an example.
Post # 10
@kelly105: They are married, so I think it would be appropriate to extend the same curdosy in terms of prefix that you would to an opposite sex married couple. I’m not sure about the technicalities of addressing the envelope, but I think it would be important to make sure you don’t draw a distinction bewteen how you address same sex and opposite sex couples that are married.
Ninja Edit: forgot a word.
Post # 11
@Cariad: Personally I think Mesdames sounds like an ugly word! Really old-fashioned. That’s why I would probably go with Mses. Wikipedia says you can also abbreviates Mesdames into Mmes. so that’s an option too that I think looks and sounds better.
Post # 12
I would write “Mrs. Jill Smith & Mrs. Jane Smith”
Post # 13
I addressed FSIL’s as The _____ Family but in my case it wasn’t just the them, my FBIL lives with them as well.
Post # 14
I would mirror the format you used for your other guests. So I would do Ms. & Ms. Smith.
Post # 15
I have an idea… ask them how they would like the envelope addressed? Then you’ll know for sure.
Post # 16
Why wouldn’t it be mrs. And mrs?