Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been together for two years. I have never quite known how to address his parents. They refer to each other as "FI’s mom" or "FI’s dad" to me. They sign their cards "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname." Since our engagement two weeks ago, I was hoping to move to address them by their first names. When I went to their house last Friday (FI meeting us later), Future Father-In-Law stated, "Mrs. Lastname is in the shower. She’ll be out soon."
Should I just call them Mr. and Mrs. Lastname, or should I ask them how they’d like to be addressed? Will it be awkward after two years?
Post # 3
Haha. My mom has been with my dad for over 30 years and still doesn’t know what to say. 🙂
Post # 4
If they refer to themselves and Mr. and Mrs. I’d just go with that until/unless they say otherwise. At least they say something! Most people don’t know what to call them! I just avoid calling my Mother-In-Law anything!
Post # 5
I just say their first names … haha. I assume it is quite weird to not know!!!
Is there anyone else, like a wife/husband of your fiances sibling you can get a que from?
I would just say "What would you like me to call you?"
Post # 6
right when my Fiance proposed my Fiance mom told me to call her by her first name. it’s been 5 months and i still call her mrs. i don’t know i guess i’m not ready yet.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I call my Mother-In-Law "mom" in emails, but I haven’t called her that to her face yet (and she refers to herself as mom or Jane intermittently). Will be much easier when we have kids, so we can just call her Grandma! 🙂
Post # 8
Pengy, I’m the same way. I can call my Mother-In-Law "mom" in an email, but I just don’t know how to say it to her face. So far, I’ve been sticking with first names, but I’m not sure if I will change that over the years.