Post # 1
Okay, so I have one STD that I have no idea how to address. We are inviting FI’s aunt, her Boyfriend or Best Friend, and her son. The Boyfriend or Best Friend is not the father of her son. Would I do something like:
Ms. Fiance Aunt
Or is there a better way?
Post # 2
Ms. Fiance Aunt and family ?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!
Ms Fiance Aunt & Mr Boyfriend
<br />and Family
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
For just a save the date, I would just put to your Aunt. Then on the invitation, be specific.
Post # 5
I have no advice rather just laughing so hard at myself because I was expecting to open a thread about the other kind of “STD”.
Post # 6
OMGMrsW2B: Hahaha I know what you mean! I still find myself giggling sometimes when I see the abbreviation here on the bee.
Thanks, everyone, for your input. I’m making it way harder than I have to.
Post # 7
OMGMrsW2B: LOL I thought to myself “Why is this in Etiquette? Is she trying to find the most polite way to talk to her partner about an STD?” I’ve been out of the wedding planning game for a year, don’t mind me…
Post # 8
Firmly believing as I do that dignified formality is a “better way” than is casual functionality, may I recommend:
Ms. Fiance Auntie<br />her address<br />city, State
Mr. Auntie’s Boyfriend<br />his address<br />city, State
Mr. Auntie’s Son<br />her address<br />city, State
I am assuming here that Auntie and her boyfriend have different addresses. When a lady and her coital partner have the same address, I tend to think of the other party as “husband” — de facto, if not legal — not as mere “boyfriend”. In that case, assuming you live in the United States where gentlemen’s names are included on the outside of social correspondence, I would address it to
<br />Mr. Auntie’s Boyfriend and Ms. Fiance Auntie<br />their address<br />city, State
I am assuming also that Auntie’s Son is an adult capable of handling his own social correspondence and engagements. If not, he is certainly not someone to whom you want to entrust his Mama’s social correspondence, so his name does not belong on the outside of her envelope. Instead, for a child, you mention him in the text of the correspondence inside the envelope.
Now I can imagine your shock at the notion that you should waste an extra two stamps and two envelopes when one of each would do. But an extra $1.06 is not really a show-stopper in most cases. If it is, you can save much more than that, and improve your standard of deportment as well, by simply not sending mass-printed save-the-date notices. Proper etiquette quails a little at the idea of commanding friends to Save The Date. Instead, proper etiquette would have you hand-write a personal note to anyone whose presence at your wedding matters that much, telling them about your plans and the happy changes upcoming in your life.
Post # 9
Ilovewine: HAHAHAHA If that were the case, I don’t think proper etiquette would be heavy on my mind. 🙂
aspasia475: I have no qualms about postage or the like. I also feel my standard of deportment to be satisfactory since Emily Post deems save the dates to be appropriate for a 21st century bride having a destination wedding. And hey, if its good enough for Emily Post, then it’s good enough for me. 🙂 Nonetheless, thank you for your input. I appreciate the guidance.
Post # 10
I have the same problem!!!!! i think im going to put it like this
Mrs. Jane Doe And Guest
Mr. John Doe
This aunt has unsteady relationships so as he is only her Boyfriend or Best Friend he gets Guest. Plus he is not invited with out her.
I don’t want to put and Family because he has 2 children that are not invited (I have only met them once).