- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
I’ve got a slight situation and I have no idea how to handle it without hurting anyone’s feelings.
I got engaged in April, the day after I ha a family function with my father’s side of the family (My parents are divorced). We told everyone and the whole family was super excited.
I had always thought I wanted to get married outside and we had already decided we would get married in July of 2014. My grandmother has a beautiful backyard, and she offered for us to get married there.
Maybe I was caught up in the moment, but I said yes.
Fast forward to now: Allergy season is in full swing (and still will be in July) and I can barely go outside for more than 5 minutes without wants to rip out my eyes and have snot drip down my face. It’s terrible, really. I always forgot how awful my allergies are, and nothing helps.
Ontop of that issue we hadn’t thought of some obvious things: parking, noise, space, etc. We’re planning on having at least 100 people attend. And weather. It’s always either super sticky and humid here, or pouring rain.
And then there’s the other side of my family. My other grandparents (mom’s side) can hold a bit of a grudge. There were some things said when my mother was pregnant and when my parents got divorced (they were young) that my grandmother has really held onto.
My mother’s parents have offered to pay for a vanue, bartenders and food if we have the wedding in our home town. Considering all the possible “worst case scenerios” with an outdoor wedding, as well as conveinence I really do think this is the better option.
My fiance of course, doesn’t care where the wedding is, so he’s little help.
How do I approach this with my grandmother? She’s been planting more in her already beautiful backyard, and while I haven’t booked the venue or anything yet, I think the choice I need to make is obvious.
I just hate confrontation and the thought of hurting anyone’s feelings. I know I need to talk to her about this soon. I just really am dreading it. It should really be as simple as me saying, “I’ve been thinking about the Wedding, and Mr.Cupcake and are thinking of going a slightly more traditional route.”
But nothing is ever that easy.