Post # 1
My mom passed away 5 years ago. So dress shopping, in fact the whole wedding planning process, has been hard. Fortunately, I am blessed with lots of love. Family and friends that want to help and support me.
So I have waaaay to many people that want to go dress shopping with me. Some cousins from out of state even want to fly in and go with me.
How do I handle this without hurting anybody’s feelings.
I would love to have them all involved but don’t want 10 people at each trip.
One grandma offer to buy dress (my moms mom), Iaccepted her gracious offer, then two days later my other grandma (dads mom) offered to pay.
So I have two grandmas, had to turn down one ( I think she was hurt)
Two grandmas, two aunts, maid of honor, 2 out of town cousins, out of town mother in law and out of town sister in law that all want to go with me. Help me navigate this please!
Post # 3
Go with the grandma who offered first; let the other grandma know that “gramma rose offered first, but I’d love to go jewelry shopping with you.”
Then dont tell anyone else when/where you’ll be shopping.
Post # 4
Take both grandmothers with you. Don’t bring anyone else. It only adds stress with that many people. If both offered, perhaps they can both come along and split the cost? Though both of them having the experience at the very least might be nice for them, and you. (as long as they get along, that is).
Post # 5
I agree with PPs. Just gently tell people “I am so happy you are excited to go with me! It makes me feel so good to have your love and support. I think this experience could become overwhelming quickly so I am just taking my grandmas. I would love to involve you some other way!”
As for the paying, can grandma 2 get your jewelry, veil and undergarments or alterations? Those all add up quickly.
Post # 6
I’d bring both grandmas with you. i would also say to the grandma who isn’t buying the dress…..that you would love to have something from her on the day….like a veil,jewellry and shoes. that way they are both involvecd and feel like they are contributing to your happy day.
i undrstand it will most probably be an emotional day for you…. but to have your maternal grandma there would be special as she loves and misses your mum as much as you do.
people are probably offering to come as they understand how hard it will be for you. tell them you appreciate the support and love, but its me and grandma 1 and grandma 2.
Post # 7
Just go and bring your grandma with you. Don’t tell anyone when you’re going and when they bring it up again, say “look what grandma and I picked out!” and show them a picture. If they get mad that they didn’t get to go, tell them that your grandma offered to take you shopping and you wanted to spend the time with her. No one will getas at your grandma 😉
Post # 8
I would probably bring Both grandmas and then one person who’s taste you really trust and cap it at that. I dress shopped with three and it was perfect.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I like the idea of *just* both grandmothers, and maybe a friend who has a more modern style (maybe MOH). I like the idea of Grandmother #2 getting your accessories- shoes, veil, jewelry, etc.
Or- just go shopping with MOH- keep it *really* simple. Then show grandmothers the dress you’ve selected. These other women do NOT need to be involved- I love with MrsElopement came up with- people should understand that you don’t want an entourage of 9 (plus, the sales rep at the bridal salon).
Post # 10
I concur with most of the above: both grandmothers, and maybe plus one person from your generation who understands your sense of style.
If you really want to incorporate other loved ones, use the first trip to narrow it down to a few dresses that you like best, maybe 3 to 5. Then bring the larger group to help you pick the one.