Post # 1
So our wedding is in 12 months (and some change), but I’m already completely overwhelmed. We have 6 weddings before ours, 2 of which my Fiance is a groomsman, 2 of which I’m a bridesmaid, and 2 others I’m in the house party. I’m also designing the wedding invitations and everything that goes along with that (bridal shower invitations, bachorlette party invitations, etc) for 4 of them, not including our own! Plus I work full time and have my own wedding to plan for/save for/put together. 2 of my close friends just got engaged and, while I know it’s not a race or competition, I feel like they’re so much ahead of me! One of them bought her dress this weekend, and the other had her engagement party planned 3 days after being engaged. Fiance and I were planning on having a small get-together at his house at the end of September, but I feel like we need to get planning and finalizing our wedding stuff instead of having an engagement party in the midst of everything for his sister’s wedding. Did you and your Fiance have an engagement party? If so, how far before your wedding was it? I’d like to have one in the fall when it’s cooler, but we have so much with his sister’s wedding to plan around!
Also, how do you balance work, friends’ and family members’ weddings, spending quality time with your fiance, all while trying to get everything for your own wedding finalized?! And how did you meet with vendors that are only open on the weekdays (specifically printers)? Am I jumping the gun here and overly-stressing myself out? My outside-of-work time to stuff-to-get-done ratio is extremely off!
Anyway, any advice/experience would be helpful. A cloing machine would also come in handy right now…I need about 3 more me’s! Thanks for your help, bees! 🙂
Post # 3
The biggest thing is to be able to say NO! You have taken on a lot of things to help out your friends, but now you need help…
You have a year, pace yourself now so you don’t get burned out… ask your BMs for help… say NO to the next person that asks you for something.
Good luck with everything!!
Post # 4
Don’t stress yourself. Do what you can, when you can. USE A PLANNER!!! Like PP mentioned say “no” when you have to.
Post # 5
Relax… take a breath. It’ll be fine. I know it might seem like there isn’t enough time in the day/week to get it all done, but just prioritze and try to do 1 wedding related thing a week. That way it’s not so overwhelming.
As for engagement parties, no we didn’t have one. It’s not tradtional in fi’s family nor mine really. However, it is tradition in fi’s culture for him to throw me an engagement serenade. It happens closer to the wedding, like a week or so before and I am so looking forward to that. It’s not the tradtional e-party but it is sort of like that. Plus it comes at a time when most of the major wedding stuff have been taken care of already.
I work pt, so I have 2 weekdays off (however I just started working like 2months ago so before that I was a fulltime sahm). I use my days off to run errands and weekends to do a lot of wedding related stuff. We have no weddings to attend this year and family events come up and we make time to go. I just went to fi’s cousin’s b-day party Friday. Fi and work at the same job so sometimes after work we’ll grab a bite and occasioannly we’ll have a date night sans kids. I am just over 3 months out though but I do still have free time to get other things done. I took some time off wedding planning for a breather and am now back in full swing. I meet most of my vendors on Saturdays, since fi the weekend is the only time fi can come along for those meetings and my big vendors areopen on Saturdays. So are the printers.