Post # 1
that we eloped?
For Bees that eloped, how did you announce the elopement? Did you send out annoucements from the location (if it was a destination), or did you wait and tell people in person?
We plan on having a destination elopment and can’t decide how to notify everyone. Our parents, siblings, and grandparents will be notified in advance, but we really want to surprise everyone else. We talked about the idea of having an “engagement party” (which could be a send off party before we leave OR a reception-like party when we return) and announcing that we eloped during the party (if it’s after we return from eloping we would share photos and video)… but for some reason the thought of that is really nerve racking to me. I’d be afraid that one of my friends might get upset about the elopement in the middle of the party (I’ve already had a few say they would be upset… but it’s our marriage and our choice… and that is an entirely different topic). If I announce it through the mail, at least anyone that wants to be upset could do it in the privacy of their own home. On the other hand… maybe being in a large group of people will prevent a hurt reaction, since they are celebrating with me and seeing photos/video?
I’m afraid that announcing it via mail might cause a crazy amount of phone calls/texts/facebook posts, and I don’t know if that is a great idea either. I don’t want anyone I’m close to finding out through facebook before getting their personal announcement.
Basically there are pros and cons to both….. what do you Bees think? Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
My family would want to hear it all in person!!! It may diminish any negative feelings if you tell them all at the same time, too…
Post # 4
That is what I figured…. our immediate family is 100% on board. My parents had a tiny wedding and in the past jokingly offered to gift us a large honeymoon if we eloped, haha.
It’s more my girl friends I’m worried about…. the ones that would have been bridesmaids in a larger wedding. I just hate how quickly everything gets plastered on facebook these days.
Post # 5
Good luck which ever route you choose to go! I don’t want to minimize the importance of friends…but if your family is onboard, that’s awesome! Do your friends realize how much a wedding costs!!! It’s your life – you should be able to celebrate your union whatever way you want to. 🙂
Post # 6
I like the surprise elopement party! It gives people an opportunity to meet and catch up with you too.
Post # 7
we eloped and sent everyone a “message in a bottle” and it was well received (and copied by his cousin)
Post # 8
I would tend to go with the elopement party as well for the reasons mentioned by PPs
Post # 9
How about a paper announcement/invitation. Something like “We are Married! Please join us at XXX to help us celebrate!” Followed by the details of the party.
Post # 10
I think post-cards from your destination would be fun – on the back, a quick explanation that you’re married and then a few details if you are having a at home reception.
Post # 11
id send out an announcement of your elopement.. and also an invite for an elopement party 🙂
Post # 12
I think a surprise is a bad idea – it’s supposed to be a happy thing and you don’t need that one person (or however many there end up being) getting upset that they didn’t see you get married when you’re trying to celebrate.