Post # 1
So, my FI’s sister is a hairstylist. She and the owner of the salon she works at, a friend of hers, is doing my hair, my 6 bridesmaids hair, and my mom’s hair for my wedding in 3 weeks. As soon as I got engaged, she was really excited and was all, "omg i’m doing your hair!"and i’ve shown her pics and talked to her about styles, etc. I picked a nice hairstyle for myself, my mom wants a low curly do, and i’m going simpler for my maids. Nothing painstakingly complicated.
How can I broach the topic of asking how the money goes down for this? My FI says I shouldn’t assume she isn’t charging us (I’m assuming there’ll be some cost to offset the product usage and considering her friend/salon owner is helping, I’d feel wrong taking a freebie) but I know she won’t charge us ridiculously either. Especially since I’m paying for everything as part of my gift to the ladies. She already is doing my hair for my friend’s wedding in Sept where i’m a BM b/c i told her i can’t pay $85 for an updo and she said that was a ridiculous price anyways. Mind you, she works at a really snazzy chic place. If they literally won’t accept any money, I’m getting them gift cards for massages or something of that nature. I’ll ask FMIL what is best. She’s 7 months pregnant, too, so I’d hate to get her a massage if she’s uncomfortable since she’s so pregnant now. A dinner gift cert would be a good idea, BUT we are getting her and her husband (they are both attendants on my FI’s side) a nice gift card b/c he helped us find our rings and saved us a LOT of money.
I’ve been mulling over for months on how to tactfully and graciously bring it up without looking like I want a freebie but also letting her know I’m taking the bill. I’ll be in the chair tomorrow for a trial and i HATE bringing up money. I’d rather book and pay and not have to deal.
I know this is so stupid! Who’s got an opening line for me to use? I don’t want an awkward conversation. Thx
Post # 3
I would say something like "Hey FSIL, I was going over our wedding budget the other day, and I noticed I didn’t have anything down for your services… can you let me know how much each updo is going to be, so I can factor that in? That would be so helpful!" I think if you make it sound more like she’s helping you by giving you a number to work with vs. just asking her bluntly, it would go over much nicer. And if she says something like "Oh, silly ejs4y8, we aren’t charging you!" take it graciously and get them a nice gift. 🙂
Post # 4
You could say something like "Oh, before I forget, can you remind me how much you said our updos would be? I’m updating our budget spreadsheet this weekend, and wanted to add that in…"
Post # 5
Ditto for Miss Snowflake! Just play it easy breezy and ask her how much you should budget for hair. Wish I had some friendors to call on 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I agree with the above posters – mention it casually as part of your budget; that way, it gives her an opportunity to name a price if she wishes or offer her services as a gift.
Post # 7
also if she refuses and you go the gc route- they have specialty preggy masagges! For feet and belly!
Post # 8
Yup… just ask her straight up "Hey FSIL, just finalizing the budget and going over things, could you and your boss let me know what you will be charging for the styles? I want to make sure it doesnt get overlooked!" I definitely think she will be honest with you… and if she says no money is necessary, follow up by asking her if there are any charges for the products used and see if you can contribute that way.
Also, there are maternity massages that she might like. She also only has two more months so she could def. take advantage of the massage after the baby comes!
Post # 9
Ok, thanks! For some reason I couldn’t put together the words well in my own mind. Now, to come across breezy, lol.
Post # 10
I agree with the other girls, just tell her you are going over your wedding budget and need to know what to put down for hair.