Post # 1
My fiance really wants us to save money everywhere when it comes to our wedding. However, I would really like to hire a professional photographer, especially after the disaster of engagement pics. How do I convince him this is something really important to me and would be worth it?
Post # 3
@rtcharbo: uhm, you say “hey, baby, this one part is really important to me.” and then you talk about it.
Post # 4
maybe show him examples of good photography vs not-so-good photography….
Then explain that you are putting all this time and energy into planning one day, and when all is said and done, photos (and the hubby, of course) are the only tangible thing you really get to hold on to. That’s what really motivated me to spend the extra $.
Post # 5
In your case I would do a second engagement session with a professional. Its not the same commitment as booking someone for your wedding so your FI is probably more likely to give in. Compare the two sets of pics, I bet he’ll agree with you after he sees the difference.
Post # 6
This is the one thing that you can’t replace. We ended up booking a photographer that is way more expensive than I wanted to spend but I’m totally excited that we did because she rocks!! Photos are the one thing that you have to look back on. Just make some appointments with some awesome photographers that you can afford, and some really cheap ones and the proof in their pictures should be enough to convince him. Good luck!
Post # 7
tell him its the best money you will spend on your wedding – its so true – its the only thing you will have in 20 years to remember that day.
Post # 8
I was thinking about a second E session, but I wasn’t sure if he would go with it. We have discussed the professional photog for the wedding several times, but he just seems to be stuck on the whole money thing. I didn’t think about comparing the amateur vs. professional photogs. Thanks for the idea!
Post # 9
@missrobots: I agree!!
@rtcharbo: Even someone that is no so artistic can tell the difference between bad photos and good. Show him some really bad wedding photos on the internet (there are plenty of them) and show him even more really good wedding photos!
Post # 10
or get a pro for just a few hours–you can capture the ceremony and the beginning of the reception and have a friend take photos for the “getting ready” type stuff.
Post # 11
It is an expense worth making for something done right. There is no substitute for a good artist who can capture your day. Photography is more than just point and click. It’s about instinct; knowing not only what to capture (the different events of the day like the ceremony/reception, details like the cake and rings), but when to capture it (emotions, atmosphere, lighting). That takes years and a keen eye to learn, and not just anyone can do that. Look at it as an investment in your memories, and save money elsewhere to balance the expense.
Post # 12
hire a professional for the quality and expertise. but compromise by paring down the package: fewer hours, no albums (you can always get these later) and just get a disc of digital files.
you can always purchase products later. you can not redo the pictures if they are poor quality.
Post # 13
Just have him read the horror stories posted here, about one or more a week with people using friends or family or even amatuer photographers. If that is not enough, I don’t know what would change his mind.
Perhaps find some middle ground with a new pro that has hot weddings before and has the necessary equipment. Just do your homework and build an iron clad contract.
Post # 14
I’d actually have to disagree with most of these posts– try to compromise.
Find someone who is begining their phtotgraphy career and you can negotiate a lower price. We got a great photographer for $300 for 4 hours.
Post # 15
@CassidyR: You are not giving up much risk by doing that.
Post # 16
If it would be helpful, send me a PM. I have the amateur and professional photos from our ceremony. If he sees both, he may realize just how much of a difference a professional can make.
You might also want to do what we did: negotiate for a package with digital photos only, but with reprint rights. That way, we have captured the images we want, and can buy prints/albums later if we have more money then.