Post # 1
This is my second wedding and i have a few friends who i was very close with in high school and in my first marriage and up until i met FI i was still very in touch with them… now i havent talked to alot of them in months/years and a few havent even met FI…
knowing that they are “so excited” for my wedding, shower, bachelorette party makes it harder for me to think of not having them at my wedding… i have serious size restraints and i would feel awful telling them that i would only have room for them once the dance began…
so.. what do i do? these are girls who i know i would want there and would love to have a great time with but i feel like because they dont know my FI and our relationship (and that they were somewhat close with my ex) that its almost inappropriate to invite them now.
Post # 3
i hope that makes sense. i’m not exactly worried about size for the reception but i think that FI would feel like our wedding was one sided if i kept including friends of just mine instead of friends of OURS.
Post # 4
You still have a year to go before your wedding. Why not make an effort to start letting your friends and FI get to know each other now? If they’re important to you then I would think you’d want them to be part of your new life with your new man … and then come next year, they’ll be celebrating with both of you.
Post # 5
its hard.. alot of them are out of state or are several hours away because of school or new jobs..
Post # 6
Hmm, that’s a tough one. Have you spoken to your fiance to see how he’d actually feel about inviting them? I had a similar situation in that I wanted to invite people that he doesn’t know and when I brought it up he was relieved because he had some friends I’d never met that he wanted to invite too. In the end, the day is for you guys. So if you can’t invited them, I’m sure they’ll understand. Just let them know that you care about them, tell them you’ve had to cut a lot of people out and apologize. But these things happen!
Post # 7
Talk to your Fi about it. We both invited people to the wedding that the other hadn’t met or had only met once or twice. I don’t think it’s a big deal.
Post # 8
I would talk to your FI about it. There are close friends of mine that I think would be strange if I didn’t invite, and they have not met FI (or some have met him once briefly).
I think if you didn’t invite them and since you haven’t been very close with them in recent years, they would feel cutoff. They are close enough, though, that they know about your engagement, etc, so, again, it would seem odd for them not to be part of the festivities.
If FI doesn’t mind them being there, he will get to know them over time.
Since it doesn’t sound like you have a size restriction, as long as FI is able to invite those he wants to be part of it, I don’t see why you couldn’t do the same (even if the numbers are lopsided).