(Closed) how do i cut them out politely?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You still have a year to go before your wedding. Why not make an effort to start letting your friends and FI get to know each other now? If they’re important to you then I would think you’d want them to be part of your new life with your new man … and then come next year, they’ll be celebrating with both of you.

Post # 6
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmm, that’s a tough one.  Have you spoken to your fiance to see how he’d actually feel about inviting them?  I had a similar situation in that I wanted to invite people that he doesn’t know and when I brought it up he was relieved because he had some friends I’d never met that he wanted to invite too.  In the end, the day is for you guys.  So if you can’t invited them, I’m sure they’ll understand.  Just let them know that you care about them, tell them you’ve had to cut a lot of people out and apologize.  But these things happen!

Post # 7
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Talk to your Fi about it.  We both invited people to the wedding that the other hadn’t met or had only met once or twice.  I don’t think it’s a big deal. 

Post # 8
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7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would talk to your FI about it.  There are close friends of mine that I think would be strange if I didn’t invite, and they have not met FI (or some have met him once briefly).

I think if you didn’t invite them and since you haven’t been very close with them in recent years, they would feel cutoff.  They are close enough, though, that they know about your engagement, etc, so, again, it would seem odd for them not to be part of the festivities.

If FI doesn’t mind them being there, he will get to know them over time.

Since it doesn’t sound like you have a size restriction, as long as FI is able to invite those he wants to be part of it, I don’t see why you couldn’t do the same (even if the numbers are lopsided).

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