- Rock Hugger
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hey Bees! I am looking for some advice on how to handle this situation:
Background: Both FI’s fam and my fam are each giving us a *little* bit of money…..one lump sum for the wedding and then we are taking care of everything else. Because of this arrangement, I assumed we would be responsible for the rehearsal dinner…along with everything else. I am cool with this, have money in our budget, and have planned a casual picnic-like Rehearsal Dinner for the people involved with the ceremony.
Well, Future Mother-In-Law decided that the picnic-like atmo was just.not.good.enough since “people are traveling thousands of miles to see us get married.” Keep in mind that our wedding is pretty casual, and we are indeed having an open bar/serving “real food” (i.e. no picnic food) at the reception. In addition, we are holding a “Welcome Party” for everyone the night before the wedding (after the RD) and doing a snorkel trip the day after the wedding.
Well, Future Mother-In-Law wants to invite everyone on FI’s side of the family to the Rehearsal Dinner…since, again, they are traveling so far to come to our wedding. Keep in mind that EVERYONE is traveling to come to our wedding — not just FI’s family.
Fiance has talked to his mom and told her that (1) We did not want a big, fancy RH dinner, just a casual thing with our closest fam and friends in the wedding, (2) it is incredibly insulting to only invite his side of the family since my family and all of our friends are also traveling so far to come to the wedding, and (3) We ARE holding a welcome reception for EVERYONE after the RH as a meet-and-greet.
She refuses to budge. Right now, her guest list for the Rehearsal Dinner is around 60 people….we have only invited 100 people to our wedding. This is getting ridiculous.
How would you handle this situation? Other than drinking heavily? 🙂 kidding. soft of.
Oh, By The Way – since I won’t let her control my wedding day plans, she has insisted on throwing us a “back home” reception after the Honeymoon for everyone who could not come to our wedding. So it is not like the Rehearsal Dinner is the only chance she would have to “shine”.
Any advice is appreciated! I am extremely frustrated right now!