Post # 1
Okay, so my weddding is basically 3 weeks and 2 days from now. We tried to rush the planning bc my mom has been going thru treatment for metastatic breast cancer for serveral years and once we got engaged (November) we decided to rush the planning in hopes she would be here. She is my only living parent. My dad died almost 8 years ago. On top of all of the rush planning stress, she fell very sick the beginning of May and everything planning wise basically was put on hold because I was with her for about 16 hours a day or more. I watched her pass away and take her last breaths. I also had to make all the last POA decisions that had to be made. And then I had to plan a funeral. At this poe onlyint I’m trying to catch up on our wedding plans. While we tried to rush them for my mom to be there, we still want to get married at that time. We have other guests that have already made travel arrangements for it. At this point, with 2 deceased parents, the only family I have coming is my 1 (0f 3) sisters and her son who I agreed to pay for. The others are not sso concerened with family I’m really starting to get nervous about walking myself down the isle in front of a bunch of strangers. Like I said, this is a destination wedding for us, and the only guests on my side are my bridesmaids, and the one sister and her son. My fiance has offered his father to walk me down but i feel like that is so awkward. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
Awww sweetie, *hugs* I’m so sorry to hear about your mom, I can’t even imagine 🙁
As far as walking down the aisle, I don’t think it’s at all weird to do it alone, but if that makes you uncomfortable, you could have your groom meet you halfway down? Or you could have your sister walk you down, so it’s still your family ‘giving you away’?
Post # 4
I’m so sorry, I can’t begin to imagine what you must be going through. I hope everything works out in the end for you.
I know it’s not nearly the same, but could you maybe wrap a favorite necklace of your mother’s around your bouquet or use a similar item of your father’s (tie)? That way a little peice of them will be going down the aisle with you.
Post # 5
@dptobe: My heart goes out to you, I am so so sorry for your loss
It’s got to be very hard and just so many emotions, my best suggestion is being a girl who father wont be there either, walk your self. Just remember you are walking to the man who makes you whole
You might be nervous but he will greet you with the most amazing smile, and all the nerves will melt away.
I do think the fact his father wants to walk with you is really showing how they are welcoming you to their family its beautiful in some ways.
also maybe put up a sign like one of those so you don’t feel like your side is to small it might make you feel less nervous knowing you have set the tone that way
another idea is if you have a deer friend who can walk you … I will likely be walking alone my self… i thought about walking with my uncle but I think my cousin his only daughter should get that honror 1st then i thought of my moms best friends husband he is like a father, but i dont want to offened my uncle so i think i will walk alone… we can do it totally we can 😀 just remember your walking to a bright future with the man you love no need to be nervous
Post # 6
I hope that your wedding went well! I wanted to say thank you for your kind words on my post about my mom….and to let you know I was thinking about you. Just now getting back on weddingbee for the first time since.