How do I enjoy our last days before LDR?

posted 2 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 5
Member
31 posts
Newbee

LadyCapricorn:  my bf and I were just having this conversation last night. He is once divorced and me leaving feels like when his ex wife left….even though I am not leaving forever, far from it. I got to meet, get to know, and fall in love with his seven year old daughter this summer. Now I am leaving, and his daughter  will be going back to her mom for school and he is falling apart.  I am not doing much better. We have always used Skype and texting to remain in contact, even if it means him watching me grade papers…..think about all the good things you have together, and that she will be returning to. Take the time alone to do something you have always wanted to do–learn to knit or train for a 5k or something….that will help fill the time.

Post # 6
Hostess
24457 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I hope that things are going okay for you so far.  Just try to keep yourself busy (I usually use the time my husband is away at work to get caught up on Netflix shows or do things that he doesn’t like such as going to the movies).  It is hard sometimes but I think it gets easier with time.

Post # 7
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1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My advice is try to focus on positive things. Do you get to visit your FI on location? Try to look fwd to that. Also, you can watch what you want on TV, catch up with friends, and let the house get a little grody. Also, have a goal while your FI is away. Pick up a hobby or project thing at Michaels… Make a photo album or scrap book… Write a short story. Something for yourself, to better and enrich your life and keep you busy.

Also, figure out what specific things help you and tell your partner so you two can do them. For example, my FI goes on location for 1-3 months every year or so. The first time was super hard and I was so lonely, and I felt it was bad for our relationship. The second time, I told him our previous plan of keeping in touch via text and chat, with a call maybe once every week or so, did not work for me. So FI agreed we should talk on the phone every day. That helped a LOT, I felt like a priority again instead of someone he chatted to while browsing the internet and chatting with several other people at the same time. We also did some sexy video calls – again, it helped a lot to reach out to each other like that. 

 

Post # 9
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

 LadyCapricorn:  I feel for you.  My fiance has spent each summer (around 3 months) we’ve been together working in another state.  I’ve never been able to visit, and we don’t get to communicate much.  I highly recommend writing letters to one another.  It’s one good thing that can come from the distance that will last forever.  I’ve been able to keep pretty occupied between my job and Netflix haha.  So much Netflix…..

Post # 10
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

aggieland13:  Fortunately this is his last summer to do that since we’re getting married this December.  And he’ll be back in 21 days!!! Not that I’m counting or anything… haha

Post # 11
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My fi and I were long distance for a year. He just moved back last month. My advice is do normal things like watch a movie or cook dinner together before she leaves. In my experience the normal boring things are what you will miss the most. Also make sure to Skype sometimes. Also if you can make sure to exchange one phone call even for 5 mins. Also don’t focus about how long till you all see each other again but rather on your everyday realtonship. 

Post # 12
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11 posts
Newbee

I was in a long distance relationship before. We made it work because we trusted eachother and we loved eachother. Also, we kept constant communication; texts, skype calls. When we were together it was bliss, we had constant sex. The reason it didint go further was because of me. But had I not dont what I did it would have worked, but that was the college me.

 

Nowadays I need more than texts and calls. But if my husband were to go somewhere for work, Id be supportive and just keep living.

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