Post # 1
I have photos, family stories, and diaries talking about our families tradition of the “Kidnapping of the Bride”. Kidnapping of the bride is a German tradition where the male family members “kidnap” the bride and take her to a local pub leaving a male member behind to negotiate the “ransom” with the groom (usually the bar tab). I actually have a photo of my very classy great grandmother sitting with her male family members at a bar at the turn of the century (LOL,still cracks me up), so this is an old custom that I know my family will do. They have done it at every family wedding I have been at, except my brothers and my SIL regrets not allowing it now.
I love traditions, but all to many times I have seen guests wandering around trying to figure out what is going on. I would like to avoid this.
We are having an evening wedding, cocktail hour, and reception all in one building. We have never intended on really being at cocktail hour, we were going to take photos but now we are doing them before.
I am putting together a wedding program book with:
- Thank you letter to our guests
- Brief story of us
- Ceremony Program
- Poem written by my FI
- Loose Schedule of the evening
- Spotlighting Thank yous for those who went above and beyond (Frendors)
- Explanation of the “Kidnapping of the Bride” (????)
The problem is how do I explain the “kidnapping of the bride”? Do I add it into the loose schedule? I do not want people wondering where we are at. My FH suggested that we make it part of the cocktail hour and get the guest involved in the negotiations by announcing the “kidnapping” and making a kind of guest interaction. I think he is thinking kind of a theatrical thing. I briefly mentioned it to my mother and she loved this, but I am not sold. In some ways it seems tacky, but I also don’t want my wedding to be stuffy and it might be a great prelude to the reception. I am not a dramatic person, FH kind of is, so it kind of makes me nervous to break out of my shell (even though I will not be there).
What does the hive think? Put it in the program and leave it at that or go for it and be alittle bit more dramatic?
Post # 3
I actually think the dramatic route might be fun. I’m like you in that I’m not good at being dramatic but if he is and you won’t be there it might be entertaining then it’d be exciting when you come back for the reception.
Post # 4
I love this tradition! One of my best friends is german and she told me about being involved with it at the last wedding she went to, sounded like a blast! I think it would be more fun and entertaining for the guests to learn about it as it unfolds, maybe mention it in the programme and say that they’ll see what you mean later
Post # 5
Ooh I love your FI’s idea. The drama sounds like so much fun and would add an amazing twist. Perhaps later you could show the pic of gram (projector or something) and explain why you did this to those who never quite got it.
Post # 6
If I were you, I would put it in the program, only so you could share some of those photos (like you grandma in the bar!) to give a sense of the family history in this tradition.
Post # 7
I like what @hopeandpray:mentioned. I think it would be fun for the drama to unfold in front of the guests, and for them to get involved. But, depending on the size of your wedding, you may still want to mention something in the program so people know what is going on (and aren’t concerned ). This sounds fun.
Post # 8
I had a client do this at a Ukrainian wedding! Loved it! I would involve your guests. They did it in the middle of the reception. i think they faked a toast or something and then grabbed the bride and ran her out of the room… then the groom had to pay the ransom by dancing a polka to get her back, then he was able to go and grab her and then came back into the reception hall carrying her. It was really cute!
Post # 9
The more I think about it, the more I like the dramatic approach. You all are right, it just might be a lot of fun. I really thing our relatives and friends would really get into it. We will have to put some concentrated thought into it to make it not cheesy.