- 3 years ago
I have been dreaming about my wedding since FI told me that he wanted to marry me one day. When he finally proposed, he told me that no one would change our minds about the wedding we wanted but due to his dad’s worsening Alzheimer, we decided to do a wedding close to home and this year instead of next year. FML was pissed about the decisions we were making. Even when we cancelled plans to do the wedding this year for his father’s sake and to move the wedding from Florida to Michigan, she is still pissed. We thought we had his sister’s support but after FML cried to them about our plans, we don’t have anyone from his side on our side.
We finally found the right house for our wedding. It’s a beautiful 6 bedroom house on the lake but because it is too big for just the two of us to stay at after the wedding for a week, we thought it would be good for his family and then we could stay at a different place after the wedding. He asked his mom if this was something she wanted to do and that he didn’t want her to say yes if she was going to have a grudge about it later and that he wanted her to be involved like she was for his sisters. And that we felt like this wedding was making everyone upset. FML said it was a good idea and said how could he expect her to be excited about a destination wedding after she told him she would try to be happy for us whatever we decide to do…TRY.
I’m to the point where I’m not excited about the wedding anymore because it is just a fight. I’m trying to convince FI to take the money we have and elope. That would piss everyone off but why should I spend all this money just to be miserable knowing his family would be miserable. And my parents…gosh they might disown me when I tell them we’ve decided to forgo a traditional Asian wedding because we aren’t doing the wedding FML wanted either.
I don’t know how to excited about our wedding anymore.